I like the addage "Life's about the journey not the destination"

Apply it to pick up. Enjoy it. Enjoy talking to girls and people. Enjoy reading the theories, books and field reports.

Do it because you want to progress but most of all do it because you enjoy it.

if women are pissing you off, focus on your mates (wings) or make joking and laughing your priority rather than getting laid.

When I started having fun with pickup and not taking it (or anything else) too seriously my life changed

Yeah, just treat it as your way of having fun, that will come across to girls because it's what they love most of all. You don't ever want them to feel like they are being picked up. Even although they're not stupid and they know that's what's happening. If it's fun then they'll come out to play.

Just an update in what's happening.

Internet bird dumped me if you want to call it that. Which is fine, she wanted something different and I clearly wasn't interested enough.

Back in town, I feel more comfortable. Sets arent working great but I feel calm about it. Which is awesome, as I've been feeling a bit off due to a combination of coursework deadlines, internet bird and models (book by Mark Manson, which has been shown me a lot of truths in myself.

I've got the impression a lot of girls online are searching for longer term relationships, maybe needy and maybe having unrealistic expectations (partly due to social conditioning maybe). You want different things so like you said, fair enough if she ended it. The last girl I was with who was like that, I deliberately acted like such a dick it forced her to end it. I was coward at ending relationships. That's something for me to address.

I finished reading models recently. It did make me think a lot too. It's one of the better books I've read. I had to take a rest at various points and ask some serious questions about myself. This is a good thing, so don't shy away from it. At the same time don't over-analyse yourself.

There's a lot of underlying issues that need to be addressed if you want to build an unshakeable confidence in yourself. These should start to fall into place with experience. It's not about being perfect, it's more about changing what you can change and accepting that the aspects about yourself that you can't change don't necessarily have to present an insurmountable obstacle to acheiving your goals. In fact the trick is to turn them into advantages.

Just being comfortable with that as a part of your identity is good. The main thing is being comfortable with yourself. Liking yourself. If you have that down it makes it much easier for other people to like you.

I've literally just started reading it, and already feel as if i'm benefitting from it. Yes it does freak me out with how real it is but it's a good real

Date: 4th December 2013

Went out with my American football team and a couple of my mates. In the beginning I was babysitting my mate, waiting for him to leave so the real fun could happen (he doesnt really pursue girls and isnt at all outgoing). We were observing the mannerisms of "slutty" girls, which was a bit weird but oh well.

After he left I went have a bit of fun with the team laughing giving each other dares. One of em kissed the ugly fat cheerleader. After this we went to cheapskates in Soho. So we do the standard clubby shindig and I meet my buddy, his girl (whom Ive made out with) and her mate, we're all cracking jokes flirting and shit and then out of nowhere I'm making out with the friend, which was politely photographed by the team and is currently all over Facebook. Afterwards, I went off to chill with the team doing a bit of dancing as the girls went up to smoke. My buddy was running around looking for his girl (a bit silly he should've just chilled) later on I found them and they were off home so I whisked out with them and proceeded to get a taxi which never came. For some reason my buddy and his girl disappeared, leaving me with the friend. So we proceeded to walk to mine which is an hour away, luckily she lived half way and although she wanted to go back to mine to avoid sleeping on the sofa with me, we fucked at hers. Although she wasnt a good looking girl and a clubby girl at least I can add a line to the end of my bed.

Date: 14th December 2013
Lordy lord it's been a while since I posted one of these up, tonsilitis is a mother bitch. Went out to Westfields and felt shaky, probably because I hadnt been out in a week and a bit. Anywho, other than teaching a new guy daygame(which is alot of fun) chatted to a few birds and life was chilling, jumped out of a set with one because she was way too duhhh, reminded me of Stacey Soloman's cluelessness. A common theme over the last couple of days is feeling comfortable in sets but running out of things to say then ejecting, being annoyed everyones in two sets (I dont feel as if I have enough experiences of single sets going well) and being grumpy because families are out shopping with their hawtie little daughters because it's Christmas baby!

In the night we went to Clapham, then to the forum meet in Shoreditch, which was part waste of time because I've got a bit of a chest cough and good because got to chat to a few birds in the night, which I feel way too chilling(like overly relaxed). After bullshitting myself into the shoreditch bar, got to meet the lads talk game, life and chat to a few birds.

All in all a productive day, happy I finally got out of the house.

I'm gonna write this little report, not to show my successes or things i've learnt from the night, in fact it was a pretty normal one. What I am going to discuss is how far I've come.

When I was 16 in the last year of high school, I found an article on Nuts.co.uk during one of my fun little sessions. This article described self improvement in very briefly and lead me to find "The Game". Reading the books and finding the forums took me into a world very much different from the world I had grown up in.

Initially my adolescent mind could not handle it. After seeing my friend kiss at least a dozen girls, I approached for the first time at the age of 17. What I didnt know, as I was encouraging myself to just do it, my brain was so overloaded with information, that it was going to be the most scary start of a bigger journey. When I was allowed to go into clubs, I was scared. I was scared about what my friends thought of me, about people seeing me, about rejection and about being shit at dancing. And because of this fear I barely spoke to any girls.

At 19 I realised I really had to start approaching. I found some like-minded individuals, and here began the real grafting.

Now at 22, I've had a long term relationship and slept with a few others. But most importantly, I've grown up, I know how to present myself physically, I can approach women, after the other night I realised I can approach in front of my friends and get rejected every time and my dancing, well my dancing's still shit. This journey is no where near over in fact I still believe I'm at the beginning. I've had so many ups and downs so far and as long as I keep working to remove those little kinks every day through honest stimulation, I will only become stronger, wiser and closer to being what I want to be.

Here's a triple whammy for you all
Date: 29th December 2013
After not daygaming for what seemed for an eternity whilst roaming on the streets of London town, it was the best time to go out and get into the jist of things. The tourists decided that today was the day to spoil my parade and flock by the thousand in my usual stomping grounds. Only one set was approached, before deciding today was not the day. But hey I still got my tush out the house.

Date: 3rd January 2014
First day of term. Holidays out, fine little chicas in. We headed down to Westfield and I felt ready and raring to go. After a couple of sets, after a long walk and a couple of warm ups, found a nice little Belgian chick whom and learnt that I am slowly getting past this speech block. Talked about random shite which was nice. Later on I found a blonde girl who I thought I opened Which made me a bit shaky, yet still I was able to talk random shite.

Westfields was a bit empty so headed back into central. After about an hour found a Scottish chick who rejected me from the get go but Tebbs told me two chicks were overwhelmed by me approaching her as they walked past. Finally after a while of walking around found one hawtie whilst I was chasing after another, we spoke for a while. For some reason I was quite apologetic and once again I got the boyfriend rejection. Quite a pleasing day showing plenty of improvement.

Date: 4th January 2014
Playa State of mind. Well not quite but dayum today felt good. Although yesterday's session was improvement I wasnt very happy. I got home and felt as if it just wasn't fun, maybe due to being away for a while. Today I started super slow, no state, very monotone and a feeling of cba syndrome. Opened a few sets and really wasn't into it, then I spoke to a posh little girl and overlooked all signs of interest because I felt the conversation was boring (every day shit). My wing told afterwards I should've taken the chance, she was apparently flicking her hair, did the cross leg thing they do and I knew she was engaging me, calming me down. After this I was quite slow but slowly picking up, grabbed a burger then went on a total rampage opened loads, had good conversations but, got rejected a few times via the "boyfriend", chased a girl into topshop (Essex bird had good conversation), approached a girl then met the boyfriend and shook his hand and taught the annoying stall guys how to approach by telling him watch this.

I didnt get any numbers for the last couple of days, plenty of boyfriend rehections, one missed opportunity, but pretty pleased with myself for slowly getting past this "what do I say next" issue. Back out tomorrow. Onwards and upwards from here, I'm really looking forward to this year!

I went out a walk lunchtime from work on Thursday cause the weather was nice. There were a lot of tourists. Not intending to approach really. I got eye contact from a hot leggy chick as she walked past. I was in two minds whether to run after her. The mind saying 'no' won though. Another chick walking in front of me stopped to read one of those map signpost things. I nearly stopped beside her to chat but I started thinking what I would say and missed the moment. I want to try a few next week. I need to stop thinking and just do it.

Yes you do, but granted when you're working you don't really think of these things. Start small move up