Hey,

Just wanted to ask what your favourite or most successful opening strategies are. What exactly do you say to a girl?

"Hi, does my buzzom look big in this dress?"

Or you could try "hi, what's your name?"... that works too.

I've been a bit busy with assignments to do this, but here's the latest happenings of Top-Hat.
Date: 5th January 2014
Met up with a new lad, who we were teaching how to do the stop. He was good from the get go, got 2 numbers the whole day, Blaaady beginners luck. Awesome lad though, gets me chilled out plenty of laughs.
Anyway, I started slow, probably because I had a little stomach bug. Did a load of sets most of em had boyfriends. One bird said to me after a few minute conversation, "I only gave you the light of day, because you seemed nice". Conversation is coming easier and easier every day. After hours of roaming around chatting up birds, finally got a number, had good conversation, she was a taken a back and shy and I said to her "let's start all over again, hi I'm...". She said thanks for the approach, he boyfriend just broke up with her. I took that as an opening said something funny grabbed her number. Then found out more about her.
This shows I'm slowly getting more comfortable with this as I'm getting more references.
After the number I was overwhelmed and complacent, I think I'll get past that slowly.
Date: 6th January 2014
We went out to the Ox and surrounding areas, I was knackered after going to the docs at 8 in the morning. I approached three sets and it was quite obvious I was too tired, I kept running out of things to say.
I then went to grab a red bull and sandwich. The first set back went well and worked quite well. That kept Tebbs quiet, as he thought I was complaining when I said I needed to eat. After that had some good conversation with more girls, but nothing good enough to grab their numbers.

"Hey, you're cute"
Go do that then figure out what you need to do when you're comfortable with doing that.
Heck you can ask for the number straight after that.

Day gaming is totally exhausting. You're giving everything. Need rest, food and to know when to quit. Sounds like yiu had a good day.

The average person walks 3 miles an hour, we go around for 4 hours. Which means I walk up to 12 miles(more like 10 miles) a day.

It is exhausting, lucky I have uni to keep me from tiring myself out.

A wile ago I tried just stopping girls outside kings cross station. I reckon I did about 12 in 15 minutes. All just very short interactions obviously. But there's so many passing by it's amazing. No need to wander around.

The best one was a girl who nearly jumped out of her skin as I approached her a bit too suddenly. But after she got over the shock she seemed quite pleased to be stopped. She moved into the side away from the people traffic to listen to me. But the I didn't recognise it as an opportunity at the time and didn't click into convo mode.

That's why it's so tiring I think because you have to give the same level of energy to every one. You can never tell which ones will turn out to be yes girls.

I've got a few reports to write up on. I didnt want to write them initially, as 1 I was lazy and 2 I was pissed off with myself.

24th January 2014
So the first night out in a while, exams over. Time to have fun! I got back to my flat after my exam to see my roommates already ready and raring to go. The night before while I was revising decided I wanted to make vodka jelly. So ate that and had a few beers with my roommates and a couple of mates then hit up Shoreditch.
In the first bar played some table tennis then foosball. I then went out for a smoke and spoke to an Irish girl, about Irish stuff IRA stuff and other stuff. Asked her out and got her number.

In the second bar, went up for a dance, basically having a laugh. Went outside and my mates talking to some chicks, annoying them I'd say. So I went over said hello, and they were into it. My mates left and eventually, the girls and I went in. I separated from them, because I got all in my head and eventually went off to dance with them. Which yes I'm still shit at.
Two things annoyed me, 1 I didn't attempt to kiss any of them and 2 my mate kept butting in as I'm having a conversation with them. Some people just don't get it. (The next morning another friend who had his girlfriend there, told me they tried to persuade him to come back to theirs...the threesome was always potentially on the table." FACK FACK FAAAACCCKKK").

After this I went back into the club and we saw one of my roommates course buddies and a few from mine. The initial lot left back to the flat and I wanted to stay out so jumped back in the first bar with the new group. One of the birds who was my ex's mates took quite an interest with me. Which is cool only one problem think of a huge younger version of Whoopee Goldberg...aka YUCK! I was cool chatting to her (maybe enjoyed the attention meh i dunno) but at one point I was sitting down her sitting next to me throwing compliments at me putting her head on my shoulder while I was talking shit. Basically she couldnt take a hint. I did have an eye for her mate though who was not interested at all, and made that clear by hurling continuous sly comments throughout the journey home, which clearly she didnt understand I enjoy, and responded with some lovely neutral comebacks. I took them down the road to theirs gave Whoopee Goldberg a hug for being good chat and said "I like her" and walked off into the moonlight back home.

Positives
I can talk like a mofo when I'm drunk at least
Approaches come easy (also blame on liquid confidence)
Didn't go for m-m-m-monster kill (Hey look I've got standards and shit)

Negatives
Don't drink alot when I'm out, conversations become a mess and you arent present (I was in dreamland when I spoke to Irish bird)
Alot of people don't know how to talk to chicks
Stop being a pussy and go for the kill

29th January 2014
Was at my su with a buddy, nothing exciting just drinking beers. Was told there is an event on there later that night. So call up my 2 buddies and drink for a bit, my mate goes to chat to some birds for me (don't ask me why), and I come in trying to be a wingman. Clearly goes shit. All my buddies leave and I see my boy from American football, him and his drama mates are chatting to some birds. My mate tells me this bird is mine, pointing a empty space previously occupied by (yes you got it) the bird I want.
I decide to be a good little boy and chat to everyone but her as I don't want to be a dick to my mate. 2 hours go by it's coming up to closing time I have finally exited the being sloshed stage of being drunk and had a light buzz. Then and there I decide, fuck it I'm talking to this bird 15 minute conversation being "bubbly" and "normal" and I grab her number. The night ends after this we say our good byes and clearly my friend is a little annoyed, but doesn't say anything. We end up going our separate ways and I go home.

Next day I text this bird and agree to meetup on Sunday, Sunday comes and I go to see family because I'm super nervous, she texts me somethings come up can we reschedule, I only read the first part in the notifications and am extremely pissed off. A few hours later, read the rest and say yeah sure Tuesday.

4th February 2014
Tuesday comes and I get about 3 numbers and 1 fb close in day game: best day yet. Later that night although thinking she was going to flake again, went on the date. She seemed very timid and shy, which was odd as I'd never experienced that before. Took her for a drink, bounced her to the bar in the last report and played ping pong, tried to get her to kiss my cheek, didnt happened but she replies "If you beat me at table tennis", I lose pretty hard then just pull her in and go for the close. We went to sit down and got into some deep conversations, couple more make outs and I take her to mine. Close the deal and think to myself "I like this one". Plan is to get her to mine again and see how it goes. Only thing I'm worried about is, I felt like including the fact she doesnt give me alot to work with because shes a standoffish and shy, I felt like I may have been touchy and needy, I let alot out on this one.

I spent the weekend playing American football and a little daygame. The American football I enjoyed alot, my team which is still a rookie team still hasnt won a game, but I am definitely improving at it and since joining have gained about a stone in weight. I've set myself a target of gaining another stone and a half by the end of the year.

Right now everything is pissing me off, after seeing the Finnish girl a second time on Valentine's day she is being extremely flakey, saying she is busy. I sent her a message today saying "Right, last chance though. What you doing next monday or tuesday?". If it comes back win, if it doesnt life moves on.

This game is fucking annoying me, I'm improving everyday but have yet still to get back a date from game. Part of this frustration is also the no porn no wanking challenge going on, which I nearly got close to losing last night. After it I am still going to continue not watching porn but the latter will happen but definitely less than before.

My wing is telling me about a new theory about how women go for people the same level as you a 7 goes with a 7 an 8 goes with an 8 etc. But women have this ability to move up it. This is pissing me off because it's basically saying the highest I could get is a 7 maybe 8 at best (yes I'm putting numbers on it).

I am definitely still looking for a relationship because I am not a one night stand/friends with benefits sort of person, it's just annoying that nothing is falling into place, and I am not getting anywhere close to achieving what I want.