I've noticed when I've started in a new job you get a kind of honeymoon period, where you're 'the new guy' and you get a lot of attention from the women. Then after a while it wears off with some. Then you get ones that don't talk to you at first. They might even ignore you, but they are admiring you from a afar.

Once I agreed to go on a date with a girl at a place I worked (she asked her friend to ask me out for her). Her friend was coming along too. I wasn't sure if one of them would leave after a bit or I would end up fucking both of them.

Anyway I was late for the date because I had gone out and got hammered the night before and they weren't there. They said the next day I had stood them up and she wrote me a letter saying how upset she was.

The funny thing was when I realised they weren't coming I was heading for the bus and bumped into another girl from work. She did a bit of a face palm and walked past me. I took this quite personally and assumed she didn't like me. But I found out later she was hungover and didn't want me to see her not at her best because she was infatuated with me. I found all this out years later from a girl that had worked there but I never new.

I decided to take your advise here Nova. I went into work today same as ever, not really wanting all the drama in the work place, flirting and teasing I do a lot of and the girls tease me back too.

It does seem to be a sort of honeymoon period, as you suggested. Once I stand back and observe better, it's clear to me that there's about 5-6 girls (that I know of) who like me and that's only in the department I work in.

Odd happenings - My line manager made a comment to a few people today, including myself and some customers about how nice/lovely my smile is.

Today was my first 8 hour shift. It was long and tiring. I've began to forget peoples names so I'm beginning to label people instead, mainly the girls. For example there's slutty girl, cute baking girl, shy girl, chatterbox and skiver (generic for people leaving after at the end of their shift).

1 girl was very quiet for my first couple of days, I knew she was looking at me now and then and just her shyness and the fact that I like her, kind of made me want to talk to her. Yesterday we had a fair bit of banter for 5 minutes, running around after our line manager, light teasing, saw her checking her appearance a few times which again, makes me laugh (I don't know why). We had finished our shifts so we were getting our hours for Saturday and the week after when my line manager asks if I can do a 'cheeky shift' on Saturday, so I say yeah sure and then she looks on the hours system and kind of springs it on me that it's an 8 hours shift if that's okay.... (tbf I walked into that one) so I agreed.
Anyway, I'm walking away and with every stride I'm saying or thinking of saying "fek...sh*t..." and the what was shyish girl is now teasing me about the whole situation and we're having a laugh about it. The only time I get to properly tease her again was when we were signing out and she forgot to sign in on the fire register. In the locker room I say that I'm boiling to another member of staff and she immediately say's she's really hot too, we've both been working very hard, then something (I can't remember) about chicken and I say "don't talk about chicken, I've just been putting them out" which she's laughing about. I asked her about her Saturday hours and her hours overlap with mine so that's cool but she's only working 4 hours so teased her again, skiver and so on. She teased me again and laughing a lot.

Today we had a chat, she blushed and confused herself a little when she didn't know the name of a person I was looking for. Whilst I was on the till she came over and took away a few things items and we had a little passing chat. I got her name wrong, which she didn't tell me about. I saw her and another girl talking and staring at me. At first I started to look at them as well but after a bit it was a little off putting, eye contact from a good 30 yards away.


I'm still keen on taking Nova's opinion about girls in the workplace but yes I do like her, far as I'm concerned she's the best girl in the there, however I know other guys don't share that opinion, more interested in slutty girl. But on the other hand I could really do without dramas.

Walk up to them and say "Are you two talking about me?" and when they say "no" you say with a grin "why not?". (haha just kidding but I want to try that line one time)


I read in a PUA book (can't remember which one) something along the lines of asking yourself "How would I feel if I lost this job?" if the answer is "not too bad" then go for it but otherwise intimate relationships with coworkers are best avoided. That was the authors opinion not mine. Although it's tended to be the philosophy I've stuck to. When you're getting drama with girls in your life work can be a retreat. Somewhere you don't have any of the complications and can just have a laugh. It's worth considering that.

But relationships form anyway. Emotions will cancel out the logic.

Might be an idea to meet girls outside of work?

If I wasn't on the till I would have gone up to them, she was finishing her shift at that time too. I just had a customer put their stuff on the belt and the few times I looked up both girls were staring at me, kind of off putting really but she's 1 of the shyish types. Maybe they were talking about me, or maybe they were admiring a light fitting or something. Or maybe she was a little confused as I was calling her 'Jess' all day when in actual fact her name is 'Kate' - I didn't realize until the end of the shift so there was times where I was saying 'Jess' and I thought she was ignoring me.
Doesn't change anything.

Work been the retreat doesn't bother me, I'm still going to be the same person and I just laugh and joke around with everyone, all the staff know that. But to be honest, a relationship isn't something I'm thinking about atm, just go out after work for a coffee and a chat.

Don't get me wrong, on my days off and even when I'm on the tills I talk, flirt and tease with customers and girls I like.

I'd like to see how things go with the girl from work but I'm by no means going to limit my opportunities so I am and will continue to talk to lots of other people as well.

I think he means outside the shop environment too, i.e. go up and talk to a stranger in a bar/club/the street, etc.

You're reports contain so much detail about conversations. What significance do you think these hold?

You need to come to manchester next this coming saturday for the meet up. It is your turning point for the rest of your life

It's a good question and I'm not even sure I know the answer.

I tend to be very thorough with what I do and then how I report it. Shortening my writing just doesn't seem right to me, even texts, I'm terrible. I like to go into detail and as a result, I make things long winded; similar to to motivational letter post.

On paper I think it looks like I put a load of emphasis on each conversation, giving the details, however, to me it is just a successful conversation.

It could be from the times in school where I'd try to read into different things girls do and all the stuff that's dotted around the internet. Also my history, I've had it drummed into me that when I say something I back it up and then back that up with facts (the details).
Spit balling there but honest answer is I don't know and I've never given it any thought other than just now.