I have applications for 2 universities in The Netherlands.

Fonty's University, Eindhoven (S) and Hanze University of Applied Sciences, Groningen (NNE).

Fonty's been the 1st option. Deferring my application another year might actually work out better for me. I want to visit the US and Canada, I have friends over there and would love a summer-time visit.

Ive noticed that I break eye contact with people all the time. Somebody could.be walking towards me and I seem to instinctively look away.

Its definitely something that is on the rise. A few months ago Id keep eye contact with loads of people. Clutching at straws but it could be my eyes and the sun; I find it really hard to look straight on a sunny day.

So as a possible solution I am considering sunglasses.


Not much going on today with talking to new people. A beautiful brunette girl in her office work outfit walked right infront of me, peered sideways and smiled. Made me stop right in my tracks. She then stood at the door to the mall for a couple of seconds whilst I caught up; big beaming smile and she held the door open for me.

Robotic till lady. Think I was the first person to speak to her all day. When I smiled at her she seemed really happy so I talked to her for 2-3 minutes.

Evaluation
I need to talk to more people more often AND for longer. A sizable chunk of girls are showing me signs all the time but I act on less than half of them. Be more elert.

Something that's been annoying me recently is the ever plentiful presence of charity workers in the city centre trying to get people to sign up to donate. Seriously, they're like corner shops; 1 starts and now they're everywhere.

I seem to be a magnet for these sales pitches. I was walking down the High Street and I can tell the charity guy had me in his sights from about 20 yards away, like a fucking hawk watching its target. He walks past half a dozen people and approaches with "Hi I'm George, what's your name" and beaming smile that got weirder the longer he continued it. I stated that I wasn't interested in funding charities right now. He replied with "but you look rich. That's why I stopped you". That statement plus been annoyed for the way I was targeted mounted up to a ticking time bomb. Fucking boiled my piss. I stated again I wasn't interested and walked away. Amazingly this idiot tried walking beside me attempting sales tactics galore while asking for my name constantly; trying to build rapport that was never going to happen. In the end, after about 15 yards I'd had enough, turned to him and firmly told him that if he continued I will have no objections to beating the shit out of him and posting him on the wall of public humiliation. He fucked off after that.

And then I shit you not, another 10 yards down the High Street another one of the charity possy approaches me only this time he gets the 'no' message straight away.


The charity crew have been there every fucking day for a whole week. I've been approached by them every day but they are crafty sods; the crew rotates around different towns/cities daily so it's never the same person. I was approached because I had a shirt and tie on, working on the principle of; he works therefore he has money to throw away. But then when the guy said he approached me because I looked rich, I felt like what many girls must feel like just after a guy tries a horrible approach and just before they knee said guy in the balls.


The similarities between PUA day game stuff and sales pitches is remarkable. There's no wonder why many guys can be actively approaching and yet not seeing results.
Rule #1 - Stop being weird

Working at this new company comes with many benefits including finishing at 1pm on Friday to have a team bonding social pub/club night out and we have a £50 per day petty cash allowance for food. Consider; there's only 6 of us...


Bedded in really well. I get a lift into work from 1 of the girls and the other girl is constantly doing those little sneaky looks over my way. I will be talking to my manager about tasks and such and I'll catch the other girl just starring my way (considering there's a blank wall behind me). Out of the office she's got a few guys after her, coming under the radar type. 1 lad she's known for years is trying to bed her romantically and it's obvious his intent, however she persists that they're just friends and how he just likes to splash the cash on her. That brought me back to RSD Blueprint so much it's not even funny. Also, she keeps proclaiming that she hasn't got a boyfriend and how she likes guys who are not quiet and such; basically she was saying exactly what I'm like, felt as if she had a checklist of my traits. She likes me, I know she does. She was chatting about marriage and stuff then us lads turned it into a stag night chat. Then 1 of her friends in the office looked at her, then told me I should get married and all that jazz. I think I will leave this as a wait and see. I'm not wanting to throw myself into a relationship or anything like that, plus I've not been there long... 1 thing at a time.


Quite funny how were all banterous. I talk to everyone there. We chat about the randomest stuff ever. My manager is a massive club goer, we talk about pick up for hours, pays for all works night out and meals. It's crazy just how much I've learnt about pick up and cementing other things I've heard from guys on here and material.


All in all it's awesome. The company director came over to me today heaping on the praise; every client I've worked with so far have been more successful and in turn, increased their account budgets with us.

Got the train back home today with me female co-worker. She has a boyfriend and everything and I'm not really interested because I think it's pretty low to make advances on a dudes girl but the way we hold eye contact whilst were talking is amazing. Deep engagement.

We had non-stop banter in the train station waiting for the train. In PUA mumbo jumbo she negged me about me buying a hot chocolate. We were deep in conversation when a train pulled up on the platform and neither of us took notice of where it was going so we were like 'fuck is this our train..' Turns out it wasn't.

Next train pulled up. Its our train. Still stalking we stand up and walk onto the train. There's hardly any seats left (I told her this usually happens). I'm not sure if I looked at her or not but we sit down on the isle side of 2 seated rows and the sweet old lady that's sitting next to me says "do you want to sit together. Are you a couple?... just the way you looked at each other... I've probably made it awkward now" We said that its fine and were not a couple just work friends.

I laughed a little because I'm 90% certain I didn't even look at her when getting on the train but also the old lady absolutely nailed the delivery of her spiel to perfection. She didn't bat an eyelid about what the old woman said and continued on talking the whole 20min train journey.

Train in the morning again and then the afternoon is back to normality with her giving me a lift in on the mornings and home on the evenings. I've built really good rapport with people and very quickly. That interaction lasted a total of around 40 minutes and hardly any silence. There was no talking bullshit either, the interaction flowed very nicely and as soon as we got onto travelling topics, I really came into my zone.

Ive been talking to my Canadian friend; the girl I met whilst she was on holiday in the UK just over a year ago. We've kept in contact and I get messages of her friends all the time telling me that she is madly wanting a relationship with me.

Anyway, she's been begging me for some time to go to Canada and spend time with her; in Laymans terms she wants English dick. She keeps talking about a potential move over there too but Ive told her my plans for the oncoming years (uni) however I'm pritty sure she's just filtered it out to reinforce her dream. She keeps dropping loads of obvious hints and stuff.

Part of me thinks that it'd be cool to have a cross country relationship as its less full on in terms of been together loads which also allows me to work on my path. However I'm a bit aprehensive due to the milage, time differences with me and her working and just general complications you might expect from long distance relationships.

I think Im at the stage where Id like a relationship again. She told me how much I mean to her and said that she hasnt had a relationship since we met. More I think about it the more I realise that its the committment side of it thats deterring me. After realising that I come to the conclusion of: just do it.


Any input from overseas relationships or relationship advice would be hugely benefical just so that theres an outside perspective.

Just my tuppence worth?

How can you even go out with someone that lives in Canada when you live in the UK? Skype and online contact is all very well, but how often are you going to see her, maybe 2-3 times a year? If your looking for a relationship why would you even attempt that VS someone you can actively see in a more fufilling way?

Again - just my opinion of course, but this is a no brainer for me, unless she's planning to move permenantly to the UK or you've got serious plans to move there, I don't really see the point.

Its a fair point.

When I was in previous relationships I didn't like how there was a sense of expectation to be together nearly every night. To me it's not fulfilling to see your girlfriend all the time, not right now anyway, I want to see stuff, do stuff; live life. This thought grew more and more as I matured. I'm someone who doesn't like to be confined, an adventurer at heart. Yes I make mistakes, quite frequently in fact but there's a real sense of thrill of living life. After college many of my friends got long term girlfriends, some are now married and I can't help but think that they have wasted so much and experienced so little simply because they're afraid of living life. Instead, they'd happily settle down or continue on a path of girlfriend after girlfriend. I just couldn't do that.

A long distance relationship offers me the chance to fulfill my adventurer ambitions, still work on my self development path and also takes away the possibility of spending countless amounts of time together. Maybe it sounds very selfish or whatever but honestly, if I was to have a relationship it would only be with someone who isn't afraid of living life and getting into those tricky situations, running away from a pro-nazi's bar in the middle of Germany.


It'd be more than 3 times a year but not substantially more. I know 4 or 5 people with long distance relationships that have worked really well. 1 of my friends lived in New Zealand and his girlfriend lived in Canada, he then moved to the UK and now they're both living together in Switzerland. I know everyone's different and everything like that but at the same time, I have nothing to lose from it.


There's no plans to move in together or anything like that but I don't really see that as something of concern.

I totally agree with this point, but there's a huge difference on seeing a GF 2-3 times a week, and maybe 5 times a year. Again, have to say unless either of you are planning on moving closer.........what is the point? You could argue there's no point rushing into anything and you could also say it would be x years before we think of moving into gether etc but here's a question: could you honestly go out with someone, faithfully, not miss sex or spending time in their physical prescense for say 2 years?

Just my opinion but its someting I've never understood and I don't think something I could do. On the flip side I know 3 people who had long distance relationships and all of them fizzed out in less than a year; long distance relationships don't tend to work for a reason.

How well do you know this girl, is she someone your totally into, do you think this would work?

Each to their own dude, but I say your better off finding someone closer to home.

Talk about other end of the scale. Your past relationships must've really scarred you.
Either that or she's persuading you well. No sane person would get into a relationship with someone the other end of the world. I think you need to let this one go, you'd might as well be alone and do your thang!