I don't think the great debate on sarging drunk or sober is important in this instance Shah. You sound like you are drinking too much Dice, thus your friends are telling you as such, and stating you look unhealthy. Perhaps something needs to be done, as opposed to justifying why it might be acceptable.

It doesn't seem to be a conscious decision, nor do I feel I require it to go about my usual business, but it does seem to be second nature, whenever I'm in a social situation, you'll see me with a drink, I'm not trying to neck as many pints as possible I will try and pace myself but I feel uncomfortable if I don't have a pint near by (when out with friends that is).

But saying that, on Friday and Saturday last week I stayed sober because I had the run on Sunday, I was out in Fab and I was having an evening meal in a pub with my family, but I was only drinking soft drinks, I would have preferred a pint but I wasn't going to lose any sleep over it.

I think you guys misunderstood what I meant. I mean are you drinking a lot because you're out developing this lifestyle/skill in the club or because its a habit. Nothing wrong living the party life but being a drunk is different.

I dont think you have a problem, unless its something you wanna change.

Well personally I don't really believe it to be much of a problem, maybe cut down a little during the week for my works sake, but when I get comments from friends all pointing to the same thing it makes you think there's something wrong.

Ask them why they said what they said. Yeah cutting down the volume per night is a good thing, you do get completely fucked hahhahahah

Yeah I'm trying to cut down during the week, more doing social things that might not involve drinking, also by climbing on the Saturday its discouraging me from drinking on Friday and I've signed up on the waiting list for rowing which would involve me getting up really early so that would further discourage it. But when I do drink once I'm passed about 6 or 7 pints a switch flips and I'm necking pints like nobodies business, that could be normal for a lot of people though.

Started reading this post like page 9 or something yesterday just randomly as I read the 1st couple of pages months ago when I was on this a lot, but then neglected it as I thought it was making me over think too many things about game.

But since I've been back it seems to be a lot more self help orientated, which is pretty mint! Got a few things to say regarding a few subjects.

1. It's impressive how motivated you are and how many goals you have/are setting yourself. And how well you are doing with them! Personally I find that really impressive. Makes me realize I need to shift my life in to gear.

2. The ex situations. I have the other side of the coin. The reason I discovered the whole PUA thing was due to my ex fucking my head up and partly me not being able to deal with it. I'm now fucking her again and I'm not sure what I'm doing or where it's going. (Could easily get back with her but don't know if it's wise) I could obviously go deeper into this and maybe later I will.

3. Drinking. I went on holiday in June with my mates and got quite dedicated to working out for it. I Drink between 2-4 times a week, but will get hammered at least 2 of those. So about 5 weeks before holiday I cut down to only drinking 1ce a week and picking the day due to which would be most fun. then 3 weeks before My holiday I told myself I wasn't going to drink. Tbh I had drank about 2ice but didn't get bladdered and it was towards the end. As some fucked up kind of reward for not drinking haha. But at the same time part of me didn't want my body to be fucked on holiday from my body not being used to beer. (So it was almost like a shit justification to) BUT. It helped. Not only did it make me realize I could have fun without alcohol. But those weeks my mind was clearer and my emotions were more stable, like all the time. I would suggest drinking just 2ice a week, then cutting down to 1. Just to feel the difference and save some money if nothing else!

The more you socialize sober, the more comfortable you will feel with it.

Cheers man, I'm letting the whole ex situation fuck with my head a fuck load more than it needs to, I should just be rid of it and move on but what I 'should' do is not always what I end up doing.

And I'm completely on the same page with how alcohol affects your stability, I've noticed (especially when drunk) that your thoughts and emotions are all over the shop and only tend to normalise after a few sober days. It's become more of a long term habit that just seems so very hard to break, the only way I can seemingly avoid drinking is by simply not going out, but then I get cabin fever and start going insane / depressed.

I've noticed over the years that I've had a rather strange fear of phone calls, I mean not so much a fear but they make me uncomfortable I would always avoid to the extent of completely ignoring a phone call unless I know who it is on the other side and I'm expecting the call. I need to change this as it's generally affected my ability for confrontation and I'll generally be pretty submissive with the intent on ending the interaction as soon as possible, when I should really be making sure I get the ideal outcome.

My role in work is quickly pushing me towards having to manage a few other people which means I've got to take charge in their workload, manage their schedule and make sure they've always got stuff to work on to make effective use of the time were paying them for. This is quite a strange feeling since historically I've always been pretty focused on what I'm working on and I get really frustrated when interrupted.

So I've set myself a few daily targets, my daily list of awesomeness if you will. With the idea of getting myself used to interactions of that nature and basically being able to haggle / argue over the phone.

But also there's a few others in there, I go to a Northern Creative's meetup every few months were they usually have a couple of speakers talking about the work they have done for some pretty high end clients ( Aardman, Nike, Pepsi, etc ) and it always inspires me to be a little more creative, but then it kind of wanes out so I'm going to try and be a bit more creative in my writing and design.

My running regime has slowed a little now, I tend to do that after doing a 10k but not for long its just a rest period so I can let the blisters heal. Still doing climbing again on Saturday and then in a week or so I'll start preparing for the Survival of the Fittest run in November.

To summarise, my daily list of awesome...
1. Phone somebody you wouldn't normally,
2. Manage a schedule for my minions and discuss it with them in full,
3. Write a creative blog article ( I have a blog, anybody that knows me will know how to find it, or PM me if you should so wish ),
4. Sketch an idea ( It doesn't need to be anything productive ),
5. Share a Google+ article or prolonged interaction or hangout ( again anybody who knows me, knows how to find me on here ).