So I'm making a thread for my typical rants and tales of nights out, should be fun.

Went out for a quiet drink with a few friends last night after have a pretty hectic week in work and wanting to unwind. We end up with this group of 30-40 social isolates, don't ask me how (they were friends of a friend...). I got hit on by this 40 or so woman, who to be fair wasn't that bad looking ... interesting. But things get pretty awkward quickly so we move on, they follow us! We move again to a quieter place and relax a bit.

It doesn't take long before I'm pretty relaxed and ready for some game! Start small talk with the girl behind the bar, she was pretty cute but they were closing up and I kind of got the impression she was more interested in getting home.

So! After having learn't my lesson from last week in not take close friends when your sarging I meet up with another mate down in a student venue, some pretty decent talent in there but I just wasn't feeling it, I had decided to continue nonetheless until my mate got kicked out for falling asleep! Hilarity ensues...

So we move on to fab, were to be fair I'm quite a bit more comfortable and able to get into my mood, get started talking with this one girl who's not my type in the slightest but I'm just getting warmed up a little, she blows me out! But I laugh it off it was quite funny actually, we hugged and walked off. Though I felt a little bit of progress in taking it on the chin where something like that would have normally bugged me, but basically...

Her: This conversation isn't really working is it?
Me: Nah but god loves a tryer!

I quite like that line actually, knowing that it really doesn't matter if you get blown out and that you can laugh it off gives me a little more confidence with opening. So I sit down for a bit and notice this cute girl sat a few seats down on her own, couldn't help but feel I was pouncing a bit on her, but who could resist? So we get talking and I'm noticing I'm acting really energetic, give her the usual hugs, arm touch etc. After a while we're dancing I go in for a kiss, no resistance though she's a little shy, turns out her work friends are right next to us mocking her! Ha! The night ends, I playfully hint that I'll get her number in the morning , she wasn't having any of it (I may have been a bit too presumptuous here), I get her number and she leaves.

I know it really shouldn't bother me, and that it's ok not to get the fuck, but it kind of does a little, it makes me feel unsuccessful. Though I'm more concerned about resolving my mindset on this than actually learning on how to get a more successful close...

But all in all, not a bad night despite all the negatives! Should be out again tonight, lets see how it plays out.

So Jynx has pretty much ordered me to write a field report on how today went, will be honest though I'm not feeling great at the moment, not related ofcourse I just get this way sometimes,

Met up with Jymx and Topman86 in Oyster bar for a daytime pint, its funny though I had never really considered this as 'daytime' game, when I arrived Jynx had already opened a couple of girls, who seemed nice but admittedly not high up the scale. Nevertheless we had a bit of a joke about, and much to me shock and horror, one of them said I looked like a vampire, the sparkly kind, the "Edward" of England as it were. I wanted to spontaneously combust if it were ever possible, though I admit that wouldn't necessarily help my cause.

So anyway, the younger of the two was rather in to me, but I wasn't really aware of it until afterwards we parted ways and that was all. We went to Spinningfields and sampled the talent, to be fair I was a little intimidated by Jynx's game but I managed to open one or two sets and get a bit of conversation going.

Later on I end up in fab as I always do, opened quite a number of sets to be fair, I had a few exchanges of number, though I don't remember half of them, and that's not necessarily due to drunk memory, since I'm actually just as drunk writing this. I'm actually texting back one of the girls who asked me for my number right now, who's trying to explain that she's not that interested and is sorry if she led me on,

Interesting thought since I don't care that much, I just thought I'd text back out of politeness, I've never actually been in the position where I'm texting a girl with the explicit intent of trying to get her to leave me alone, despite her being pretty fit. There you go...

Oh yeah, and one of the girls we met during the day had admitted to wanting to lick my face, a bit weird I'll be honest...

You should have gone out with Topman and Jynx

That was the plan, but I had forgotten to call topman lol after Jynx had to leave in the evening, there is always next weekend though!

So it's been a while since I've posted something up here, thought I ought to post an update, last time I was out sarging must have been about two weeks ago so I'm already feeling out of practice (what little practice there was to begin with!). So I met up again with the girl I met on that night out (the shy one with her work mates), a couple of times, plenty of suggestive texts and she spends one or two nights over at mine (its exactly what it implies, you get the picture).

So I'm enjoying my time with her right now, but I'm feeling like I would be giving up early or kind of just taking what I can get, if I was to start seeing her properly. I'm quite probably just over thinking shit.

Went for a little excursion down to Deangate locks again last night with phil99, started off in Baa Bar, which was absolutely dead, I mean I was literally the only person in there. Started a bit of small talk with the girl on the bar, she was nice we had a bit of a joke around then left for next door where it seemed a little livelier.

Straight off the bar we get eyed up by this group of Russian girls, I had no idea why at the time since my game at the time was abysmal, but I quickly cottoned on to the fact they were merely flirting to get a round of drinks. At first I got a little frustrated at that, but then I kind of thought their playing just the same as we were, just for a different goal. So we move on an try approaches as per the usual, stumble across two girls sat to the side, but one was relentlessly trying to prevent talking to the other (as she was quite a bit more sober and intelligible) so I tried keeping her occupied whilst phil99 talked to her for a bit, emphasis on 'tried'.

After this I dotted around and tried opening a few sets, and to be fair I wasn't on form as I got a fair few rejections, varying from 'im just going to the toilet', 'do you need showing where the door is?', and 'was lovely chatting with you, oh hey this is my boyfriend'. That last one was a kicker.

I think I started to realize that I was trying to qualify myself to them, as though I was trying to sell myself, where instead I should have been buying, and not selling. By the end of it all I was a little bummed out, but I'm trying now to take each night as a positive regardless of outcome, everything's a learning experience. So long as you do actually 'learn' something!

This is a good realisation. I noticed the word 'trying' featured a lot in your field report.

I treat bad experiences with equal if not more weight in my learning.

Yeah I always tend to be a bit uncertain of myself, it's a bad habit I need to break.

That being said however, I did notice a point of personal growth that I was pleased with. As throughout the night I'd noticed a girl that caught my eye, that I thought was particularly attractive, and instead of sitting around sipping my drink just went over and introduced myself. I like the thought of not being restricted in a social environment, to be able to talk to whomever I like.