Today on my lunch break I met up with one of my girls for lunch for a second date. Grabbed a sandwich then sat in her uni canteen. As we chatted away I ended up stroking her hand, her leg and her hair, at different stages of the interaction. We departed after a fairly unatmospheric but enjoyable lunch.

Then, an hour later she texts me to tell me how much she enjoyed me stroking her hair. This is a first, and a very interesting bit of feedback for me. If any of you have read the struggle I have had on dates in the past on this thread, with me creeping girls out with my ill judged kino moves, you will understand the significance of this.

Today, the difference between then and now is clear. I touch her because I want to and am inspired to, not because i feel I need to (in order to get something).

Yep. You're getting smoother.

Actually, I see the act of being smooth as detrimental to me expressing my true self, as I would be trying too hard to gain approval. The very fact I was touching her, spontaneously, for my own enjoyment meant she enjoyed it. You're right though, I'm a right smoothie now

So, I’m hanging out with Riz in town. I was hungover, looked a right state, and already had 3 girls tell me I scared them while talking to them. The only way I was gonna feel any better was to crack on talking to more girls… what better cure is there for feeling rough?

So, after a few decent interactions, I see this girl dressed in a crazy Japanese style walk out of Selfridges. I walk over and introduce myself, and she is instantly in a trance as I hold her eye contact. She is from Hong Kong tells me she has just arrived in Manchester that morning to visit her boyfriend. There is something about the way she looked at me that kept me there and we continue to flirt. I take her hand, then after a while the other one. After a while we embrace and hold her in my arms. I think about making out with her, but don't. I tell her we should go grab a coffee. She accepts my invite and we walk hand in hand into the quiet shopping mall.

While on the escalator I put my arm around her, lean in, and we start making out. We grab a brew and settle down on the sofa. She tells me her boyfriend is on the train so on the way to meet her. We chat and make out a few more times… her lips were amazing. We were both starting to get pretty turned on and I started thinking about how I could fuck her. If we were all alone at that moment we would have fucked. I tell her we should go somewhere cool. She then tells me her boyfriend has arrived at the train station so has to go. I walk her to the door and we exchange numbers. I tell her to let me know when she’s free.

I haven't heard from her since, fair enough. It was a little adventure and she'll prob want to leave it at that. I should have just fucked her in the mall toilets in all honesty. Either way, was a pretty funny experience. Girls with boyfriends never fail to amaze me.

Nova, do you do the yad/tom/andy stop where you run around the front of a moving girl to face her head on effectively carrying out the "attention snap" from the daygame blueprint?

No, I stop them how I wish to stop them, so it's always quite spontaneous in nature. I don't follow any format. So, I see a girl I like and I go over to talk to them. For me, it's all about expressing myself 100% and being completely present. When they look into my eyes they will see I want to fuck them then and there.

The last month or so I’ve chilled into a sweet spot of regular sex with a rotation of 3 or 4 girls. As a result I’ve become pretty lazy with meeting new girls. This is obviously no bad thing, it’s been nice to have a break from the relentlessness of meeting new girls and dating.

So, yesterday I was chilling at home and suddenly felt pretty horny, but didn’t want to over-do it with the girls I’d been seeing, so headed out into the summer sun to see if I could meet someone new. I was pretty ropey and after a few ok interactions I had a decent interaction with a Korean girl. We go for a beer, check out some architecture, then I take her back to my neighbourhood. It suddenly became a little uncomfortable as I think I was trying to push things forward when it blatantly wasn’t going to happen. I also hesitated quite a bit in moving things forward. Reflecting, I had fallen back into old habbits somewhat, especially with the hesitancy, i.e. overthinking if I should make out, if I should hold her hand, if I should touch her hair, etc.

So, this wkd I realised it wasn’t as straight forward as just suddenly changing. It’s going to take consistent practice, reference experiences and persistently pushing my comfort zone to move things forward. There's value in going out a lot and staying on the ball.

EDIT: Thinking back, the big downfall of the date with the girl yesterday, was being more focused on the outcome, than enjoying the moment with her in the bar. I have noticed the difference in this over the past few months, and it is pretty massive. Being present is killer.

After work last night I ended up nipping to the shopping mall to pick up my contact lenses. As usual there are girls knocking about. Something that struck me looking back at the two interactions I had was what made them so different.

Girl 1: I found out she studies law. From here the conversation went nowhere in particular and she left.

Girl 2: I found out she studies some strange course that to do with social attitudes. This got me particularly intrigued and the conversation got quite deep with me sharing my own experiences and finding out more about her. She prolonged the interaction as much as she could.

On the surface level, the difference is quite obvious in that one girl I found more interesting from what she studies. This has got me thinking that I could make more effort with girl 1 though. Looking back with girls who might study boring courses I have been just finding out, and then going 'Oh so what do you want to be after you graduate?' This is quite a nothing question and on my part I am making no genuine effort to get to know them or connect on a deeper level than the surface level pleasantries. So, I need to think more about what I want to know about them, and how to get that information. Then, if I like it, the excitement begins.

Today I felt like I had woken up again after drifting along in my content bubble of getting laid. Upon the lunch hour arriving I got straight out in the sun to talk to some girls. I felt awesome and wanted to share this with them!

Girl 1: Girl struts across the road wearing hotpants. I told her she looked sexy. She was a bit shy though, talked for a minute and then escaped getting on the bus.

Girl 2: I told her how sexy she looked all smiles. She went 'Oh my god', then took her sunglasses off before telling me she was married. I liked her reaction, sheer shock and that feeling of me sweeping her off her feet.

Girl 3: I saw this girl coming a mile off and we walked right at each other. I turned around in pursuit. I stop her and tell her how amazing she looked when I saw her walking towards me. This one was trying to escape, I told her to stay a minute as I wanted to get to know her. She obliged. She then looked rushed. I tell her I'll walk with her, she seemed comfortable enough and we did. I uncovered her passion for architecture and we vibed well. Then we reached the gate of her halls firt some more, and I go for her number...

Girl: maybe we'd just see each other about again
Me: no we won't. I'll get your number now
Girl: What If I don't give it you, will you kidnap me?
Me: Yes, I'll hold you captive

Girl gives me her phone. Later this girl is flirting away with me by text and assisting me in arranging our first date. This really showed me the value in a little persistence. She kept trying to walk off, but I kept squaring up to her and getting in her space. Eventually my reality dictated. I particularly like the little fantasy suggestion she had of being kidnapped.

Something I left out of yesterday’s report was another girl I met / Girl 4. This approach went well, and she responded well to me invading her personal space and kinoing her etc. We arranged to meet up at 6pm that evening.

We met, and I hugged her. I grabbed her hand to lead her to the bar. She found this too much, so whatever. We grabbed a drink, and she is very relaxed with me touching her. I end up playing with her hair. Then, after a while I decide to ask her if she has had boyfriends before. Then, she reveals she HAS a boyfriend back in her hometown.

This pissed me off. As much as this is potentially a good thing, i.e. you can be her ‘no strings bit on the side’, I just got annoyed and started grilling her, particularly as she started saying how nothing could happen and she was strict. The bit thing that really made me mad was she pretended it was innocent, despite me telling her how sexy she looked as soon as I met her.

At the end of the day I got all logical on her, when I could have let it slide and maybe something could of just happened. Maybe that’s what she wanted, but I really I am getting pissed off at the amount of girls I’m meeting who have boyfriends, and only let slip after a couple of drinks or 2 hours later.

I am not in the mood for wasting time on girls who are not up for it, I need to get better at screening this nonsense out early, that is if she wasn’t up for it. Either way, she's out the picture for good.