OK so as some of you may have read, I'm back on the market for all those lucky ladies. So, what better way to kick things off than with a new field report thread.

Sat 14th July

I headed out round Chorlton to buy some food. Went to Morrison, feeling pretty chipper, checking out some nice ladies in the sun, nothing overly inspiring though. Then I went to the arcade and picked up some veg and was about to head home when I clocked this asian bird (looked Malaysian). We clocked each other, decent enough eye contact on my part, she didn't seem too bothered. Anyway, I carry on towards home and start thinking about how I should have said hello to her. I need to create some opportunities for myself, I don't want to be relying on the chick who gave me a blowjob last night for all my needs. I'm a single man and want to remain so. So I headed back to the arcade to see if she was still about.

There she was, so I went straight over:

Me: excuse me (she stopped). I just saw you before and had to come and say hello as you're so cute"
Her: Oh thanks
Me: What's your name
Her: ***
Me: I'm Ashley, nice to meet you. Do you live in Chorlton or are you passing through?

Anyway, you get the picture, we chatted about how cool the shops are in Chorlton, she asked me what I do, and generally we vibe well for 3 or 4 minutes about her being a designer, etc. She designed the dress she had on, nice. I tell her I need to go, but it would be cool to meet her for a coffee (thinking back, perhaps we could have gone for one then). Anyway, I get her number and I'm gonna fire over a text later on to remind her how cool it was meeting each other. Then I'll follow it up with a phone call next week some time.

Something I was thinking about after is that I need to crack on and create more opportunities. Don't let the hotties pass you by in the street without at least trying.

That's pretty cool, man. I would've been too lazy to turn around after her.

Opportuntities everywhere, man. Even in Chorlton arcade. Is that like a market type place?

If I'd gone back like you did, I would probably have over-thought it (why I didn't say hi first time etc) and it would have showed.

Good on ya nova

A bit like the artist formerly known as Prince...

Yeah, like a pedestrianized street with a roof.

I didn't really think into it too much. I just didn't want to make stupid excuses for myself and go home feeling like a pussy.


Haha, some chick who's been cracking onto me for a while. Thought I'd entertain it to get myself back into the swing of things.

Ok

Saturday 21st July

So, Saturday afternoon I’m sat at home nursing a hangover and I suddenly get the urge to go out into the city centre and chat up some lovely ladies.

Girl 1: I see a lovely Chinese student girl breezing down Market St, I see her smiling away.

Me: Excuse me, I just saw you walking past and wanted to say hi as I think you’re cute. What’s your name?

Her: ***

Me: Nice to meet you *** I’m Ashley (I hold out hand to initiate physical contact).

So we chat about what she’s up to today, she then asks if I onky wanted to say hi, I then said I’d like to get to know her better and we should go for a drink. She said no, it’s ok. I say, nice to meet you, see you later.

Girl 2: A few moments later I clock a nice Asian chick heading into Debenhams. I follow and approach

Me: Excuse me, I just saw you walking past and wanted to come and say hi.

Her: no it’s ok

She runs off haha!

Girl 3: again on Market St (it’s a goldmine!!)

Me: Excuse me I saw you and wanted to come and tell you I think you’re really cute.

Her: oh thanks, err

Me: What is your name.

She cautiously takes my hand, it’s as if she thinks I’m holding a joke hand buzzer! We chat about her phone as she is holding an iPhone and looking for the Mac shop. I direct, she tells me she is going. I then tell her it would be nice to see her again, and we should meet up for a drink. She says no, it’s ok.

Girl 4: lovely slim petit Japanese looking girl with glasses with lovey silky hair disappears into TK Maxx. I follow.

Me: Excuse me, I just saw you walking past and just had to come and tell you you have really nice hair.

She smiles, and then looks away at the clothing rail. I ask her her name, she tells me. I tell her mine, but she is still looking at the clothes. I feel phased at this point and hit the eject button telling her it was nice to meet her, she smiles again. I can't help thinking I should have stayed, I think she was just shy.

What I learnt today.

Girl 1: She questioned if all I wanted to do was say hi. Perhaps I need to be more honest about my intentions from the beginning. I don’t ‘just want to say hi’, I want to chat for a bit and get to know her.

Girl 2: I told this girl I wanted to say hi, but nothing else, no wonder she ran off. Again intentions were unknown to her.

Girl 3: She didn’t seem overly receptive to the idea of a drink. Perhaps I need to frame the day 2 differently? Perhaps a drink sounds too formal.

Girl 4: I really should have stayed at this one longer. I let her passiveness/closed body language affect me too much. Obviously I don’t want to bug the girl, but perhaps a little more persistence should have been applied here. Plus point, I was honest with her when I complimented her on hair, this was good, I think she liked this.

Generally: I should have stayed chatting to all the girls longer (I think they longest was 2 mins), rather than allowing them to make excuses and me trying to get their number. I need to build more comfort and they need to get to know me a little more before handing over their numbers.

There's some very disappointed readers in the Amazon reviews section:

http://www.amazon.com/How-Attract-As.../dp/0971580804

24th July
I was in town on my own taking my cv to bars as I found out I'd lost my current bar job (bastards), it was around 9pm.

Girl 1: I saw a sexy chinese student girl walk over the main road and start to head down a side street. I follow here, it felt like it was gonna be bad. But I thought fuck it:

Me: Excuse me, I wanted to come over and tell you I think you're really hot.
Her: err
Me: What's your name
Her: I have a meeting
Me: It's ok, just stop for a chat
Her: I have to meet my friend
Me: Come on, you don't have to make excuses
Her: No, really I do (as she rushes off)

Anyway, no huge surprises I think. I can't imagine an already uncomfortable situation was made any better by the fact it was a quiet side street late at night! I wonder if she even realised what I'd said. Did she know what 'hot' meant, it was bloody warm tonight haha! Regardless, I felt like I was being even more direct than before. I enjoyed that.

I then head to Font Bar with my CV, I grab a beer and chat to the manager about jobs and fine ales. I then sit down with another beer and do some sketching.

Girl 2: about 20 mins later two girls walk in, both white (can you believe it). One has awesome stockings on and legs to die for. Her overall style is totally up my street, cute hat, cool haircute, pretty girl, looked nice.
Anyway, they go and sit themselves down at a table and I start thinking that I really should go and tell her what I’m thinking. I mean, I’m doing it in the streets in the day with girls, this should be no different. Bear in mind it wasn’t too busy and a fairly chilled atmosphere.

I sit there, and keep thinking of heading over, but don’t. I change the wording of what I might say, and start feeling pretty frustrated. In the end I realise how pissed I’d feel at myself if I didn’t go over, so get up off my fat arse and head over to them.

Me: Excuse me, I was just sat over on that table and can’t stop looking over at you, I really love your style (she smiles). I saw you at the bar a minute ago and saw your stockings, I love the way you show your legs, they’re very sexy (she smiles again).
Her: Oh thanks, that’s nice of you to say.
Me: what’s your name

She tells me, I ask her friend her name, they ask me what I am drawing, I tell them about how I’m getting together some ideas for painting. Perhaps I should asked her to pose for me haha! It felt good, I told both of them a couple of stories about art and ale, and the interaction went on for around 3 mins.

I felt doubts creep in when the target girl started looking at the menu though. This was enough for me to assume disinterest and eject. I asked her for her number, but she had a boyfriend.

So? Now I need to plough further through the negative body language and responses. It’s time to start pushing the comfort boundaries further. I feel fairly relaxed in the initial interaction, it’s just when I get a hint of negativity, I bail. I need to start treating these as tests that I need to pass. To pass, I need to be unaffected. Show that I won’t be swayed. Easier preached than practiced perhaps...

Good on you pal!

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