It was this part

This 'pulling the trigger' has for most of my life been a huge part of my problem in getting girls beyond the polite and friendly situation. For me realising that this was holding me back big time, and that I needed to make a concerted effort to change things, i.e. push those boundaries when the opportunities arise, has changed this situation for me a lot. I couldn't just carry on being passive about it, so some focus was needed, i.e I had to force myself to take risks when the opportunities arose, and a lot of the time it was awkard as fuck, and I messed up. But, with persistence, I changed my perception of what I could give myself permission to do.

Whether drastic change occurs, I guess that depends on the problem, and the realisation. By all means work on your weaknesses, but I would certainly stop short at going out with this as a 'sole intention'.

I believe if you keep going out, most problems will correct themselves. You won't become the perfect man but you can bring yourself within more normal and healthier thinking patterns and behaviours through feedback and self-correcting because you have a desire to be happier, better, more content by getting whatever makes you feel those feelings. It's an ongoing process.

I think all that bs about not wanting anything from anyone is just stupid. A hot girl has something you want. I don't see any point in tricking yourself into believing that isn't true. Why not just tell her she's hot and see what happens.

I do love the clear cut between the PUAs and the rest of us.

Shah gets to be one of the cool kids

Had some business to do up town today and talked to some girls while I was there.

Approached about 7 girls. 2 are worth mentioning.

1- A French-Algerian bird who looked lost. We had a chat then we went for coffee and talked for about an hour. She gave me her number.

2- A while after the date I stopped a Polish chick and told her she had a very sexy walk. She giggled. Unfortunately she was leaving tomorrow and had a last night out with her friends tonight.

With hindsight I think the second girl might have gone on an instant date if I'd asked her.

EDIT: The French girl has responded to my first text.

I like this post, no analytical nonsense, just a description of you taking action.

I used to be annoyed by Serendipity's passive aggressiveness and evasion of confrontation but now it's funny.

The comment I think you mean wasn't related to anything anyone wrote on here. I can't remember the specicific sources but it was some of the PUA material I was on about.

I've not read PUA stuff in ages btw.

What happens on these dates. Do you try and make things happen? Numbers and dates are all well and good, but what then? What do you want to happen?

What do YOU want to happen. That is so important I'm learning.