I believe if you keep going out, most problems will correct themselves. You won't become the perfect man but you can bring yourself within more normal and healthier thinking patterns and behaviours through feedback and self-correcting because you have a desire to be happier, better, more content by getting whatever makes you feel those feelings. It's an ongoing process.

I think all that bs about not wanting anything from anyone is just stupid. A hot girl has something you want. I don't see any point in tricking yourself into believing that isn't true. Why not just tell her she's hot and see what happens.