A little update.

After moving to London my work situation has become settled. I am a contractor and have been offered another 6 month.

I need to refocus back on things outside of work.

Friday 7th Feb
Headed out with SugarSpin in the angel area. I was excited to go out with SugarSpin we click well and generally seem to wing each other well and just have a good time.
Also I've been trying to following Mark Mason's guide on only jerking off once a week so I felt pretty horny!! Also was determined not to go for a number and go for a SNL (jesus did I just use a PUA term)


Went to the first bar and had a drink, didn't do much so left and went to the second bar.
The second bar had a very young crowd in it. Sugarspin opened two girls who looked slightly older sitting down. There was a brunette and a blonde.
As soon as I started chatting to the blonde girl I was thinking I'd like to fuck her. She was chatting about her job then some of her passions. At one point she was talking about her childhood ambition to be an airhostess.
I said it's a pretty good job you get to fly around the world and fuck the pilot. Initially she seemed a little shocked then said 'yea well if he was fit'...
We left and I said where we were going next and she said she might seem me there. I know I should have got her number at that point and tried to hook up with her later that evening.

when back to bar 1. Me and SS we raving it up on the dance floor that guy has some moves. Some big fatty tried to shove her ass in my crotch, when I didn't make a move she turned around and said 'are you gay?' I said 'yes I like big cocks in my ass'.

Not much else happened at that bar. Went to 3rd bar.
The 3rd bar felt 'dangerous' but myself and SS agreed it also felt like it had 'opportunities'.
I saw a cute blonde, got chatting and found out she was 19 but I felt there was attraction on both sides, I really wanted to see her tits. Anyway her friend pulled her away

I saw some miserable looking hot girls on the side of the dancefloor. Said to SS they must be from Eastern Europe, let's find out. Opened and found out they were Italians. SS said to me she's married, look at her ring finger. I turned around to her and said 'are you married' She said 'no' . Anyway I quickly made a move on her and she was not interested.


I'm not going to over analyze that shit. All I can say is I am hitting on women I found attractive & showing more intentions than before, I need to keep doing it. Also need to start going to a gym though as feeling sluggish today. Have a date tonight though :[]

Mark

Mark I was just thinking of you this week.

Nice to see your field reports and not have to stop bein lazy and send you a message!

I'm on the MM diet as well. Blue balls at the mo. I think it does drive you on an extra 10%... more single minded.

I'm getting less and less intimidated by the age thing. If they look 18+ and I get an IoI, like eye contact, I'll go for it.

On verbalising the intent, I've not been doing that but I feel as if I'm able to put it across with eye contact and physical contact (hand holding). In some way it seems more erotic that it's all going on beneath the surface but the conversation itself is pretty banal. That's just what seems to suit me. I used to think being intense was a problem but I'm using it now.

Good to see you're out and about and good luck with the date.

Friday 28th Feb

Went out to the usual place with SugarSpin.

I've had a cold this week so didn't expect to go out but it felt good being out. There's something really exciting about knowing you're going to talk to hot women and I love how if you make the effort to approach most other guys back off and you have them one on one.

I normally get bad AA however saw two girls and opened them without much hesitation. Said something like, why's your drink a red colour. (Amazing opener skills).

One was a blonde scouser, she was pretty foxy.
We chatted for probably 10 minutes and I left to put my coat away - I told her we can dance later. In the end I didn't dance with her later as guys were all over here by then and I just couldn't be fucked.

Sugar spin opened a 3 set who were sitting down. I went to join. I didn't really fancy the two I was chatting with. Anyway I established one of them was Australia (after guessing she was American - she loved that...). The other one was a CEO of some charity.
Sugar spin gave me the look to bail as his girl was being a bitch.

More time went on. Went to the dance floor and was having a little boogie when I saw the 3 girls from above. They're like Hey Mark and I walk over and go, Hey, you're the bitch, you're the CEO and you're the American.
They were definitely receptive to us, although they were chatting a lot. I should have made more of a move.

Later that night as me and SugarSpin were standing and we saw them leaving, I grabbed 'bitch' girl and said 'hey bitch I think you're hot, give me your number'
She had a big grin on her face but didn't leave me her number. After I thought WTF was I asking her number for, i should have just grabbed her and not let her escape!

I probably could have been more aggressive but my main problem is not going out enough. If I went out more regularly I think I'd get more comfortable at escalating.

Anyway off for a week snowboarding, rock and roll

Mark

Sounds like a decent night and you just needed to pull the trigger at the end.

Hi,

Just a little update.

Being going through a really difficult spell where I'm finding it hard to even approach random people in the street. Social anxiety hell.

I have recognised part of this is down to moving to a new city and job and leaving behind the comfort of friends I could count on to see every time I went out

Today I went out with a friend of a friend who clearly is a lot more comfortable just chatting to random girls and people and it motivated me so much. I got talking to girls and it was really fun.

Also I've made friends with one the girls I was dating last year and I see her every now and then and she is happy to introduce me to her friends.

For some reason I still have a lot of demons in my mind I have to battle but I'm going to win eventually, no surrender.

Mark

Can relate to the feeling of moving to new and unfamilar territory. Especially big cities which are intense places to live.

I've noticed a dip in my motivation since moving. In my last place I was approaching more but did have the comfort of familiarity and freinds around me. I think it's only natural it will take time to adjust and things will improve if we keep going.

It sounds like you're turning the corner. We'll need to go out soon just to chill and catch up ...and chat to randon girls of course!

Yes dude, are you living in London now?

Yes, just over a month. Work has been very hectic as well, though that should be easing off soon.

Saturday 4th May

Well I've been on a self imposed ban on alcohol since April 13th.

I'm sure I'll drink again but I just want to experience talking to hot girls and not only do it with alcohol in my system. Also I want to see if it helps my emotional state.

Met with Serendipity and Igor centrally and went to a pub (as you do).
Got chatting, wasn't long before some women were admiring are tree. There is a tree in the pub and they weren't sure if i was real or not. They were all married but a nice chat.

Got chatting to quite a few girls plus two hot blonde 20 year old Danish girls. They were sweet but had to go home for their (not required) beauty sleep.

Next went to a nightclub. Probably not the best place to pick-up girls as the music was so loud couldn't really talk.

However I've been making a lot more effort with eye contact and I caught eyes with a few girls and I know I should have spoke to them. It was a confidence boost anyway as I've not been out for a while.

When I was leaving (4am) there was a gorgeous blonde in the coat queue behind me. I hesitated and asked how her night was going, we had some small talk and she seemed lovely and not drunk too. I had a little voice in my head saying 'if you don't make a move now you'll regret it'. So I said to her I thought she was pretty. She almost rolled her eyes . After that I tried to get her number but it was never going to happen.

Anyway I felt great for pushing myself to talk to her and doing it sober. I was actually shaking a little after with nervous energy. I know it's fucked up and it shows I'm investing way too much in what other people think of me (like I didn't already know that).

In hindsight I should have made more effort to talk to her before 4am, she was lovely.

All in all a good night and I feel great today not hungover and my mood is normal.

Got my first tinder date later, seems like an easy way to meet girls.


Mark