for arranging your next "date" - such as a Day 3 - tell her you are cooking for her.

find out in advance if she is vegetarian or allergic to certain foods

tell her to meet at your place, or if your place is hard to find and a bit of a trek, chance to get lost, arrange to meet at a train station or pub in your local area

back to your place for dinner and possibly more

cooking = logistics: all sorted... the rest is up to you + her

This is exactly what I have in mind... It's just getting them out for a Day 3!!

edit: To add, I am now considering this option a lot more than I might have previously, maybe I shall try and push this type of thing for a Day 2, or maybe even a Day 1. I will obviously have to use some judgement here, but getting them isolated in a non-public place is essential.

Fri 19th Oct

My fellow day gamer text me again so I head out to meet him. This time it’s just him and myself. We have a nice chat about where we are up to with some of the girls with dates etc. and then I decide to move the conversation onto general shit like work and life. You don’t really want to be talking about game the entire time; one needs a clear head for this.

Like Wednesday, we walked along and upon spotting a girl we liked the look of, went over to chat to them. After a couple of pretty poor conversations with the first couple of girls I felt like it wasn’t going to be a good day. However I found as the day wore on, the more I did, the more I chatted to my day game buddy, the more I loosened up. I was hitting that nice spot in my head again where things just flowed. I wasn’t thinking any more, just walking over and talking. Everything else would take care of itself if I just took the right course of action. I was ‘in state’ once more.

Whereas I might have gone home after a 3 or 4 approaches or a couple of numbers before, I just carried on, partly willed on by my wingman. We inspired one another to plough on and not give up so easily. Giving up early would have been like discarding all the hard work we had done in warming up.

So in the end I clocked up 3 numbers and 2 Facebooks. Both Facebook interactions are going great thus far, and I'm starting to utilise this communication tool at long last.

One thing I now like about doing this with another person/people is you are already getting into a chatty frame of mind. It helps if you get on though, and I like this guy. Looking forward to more of the same.

Enjoying reading your field reports man - definitely seeing an evolution!

About a month ago I was evolving very fast, and things that happened 2 weeks ago seemed like 2 months ago! I was dedicating a lot of time to it all. However I took my foot off the gas a bit in the last 2/3 weeks as I was getting a bit bogged down with it all. Since then I casually worked on my text game, and this has improved dramatically, i.e. my texts used to be boring and I was unable to flirt before, now I can.

I feel I have recently been lazy with organising any meet ups with the birds and resorted to just texting them suggesting stuff. This has led to typical excuses after giving me the impression that they were actually available/interested. Tonight I will be ringing a few of the girls to see if I can screen those interested and those who are not.

Thurs 25th Oct

I heard that there was an art preview at a gallery in the Northern Q so I headed into town. I went early and decided to have a wander around the centre.

As soon as get off the tram a Japanese bird who'd I'd been on 2 dates with appeared. We clocked each other and she was all smiles. I wasn't. I was not happy as she'd been giving me shreds of hope about our 3rd date then withdrawing it. The worst bit though is she takes a fucking age to reply to texts, this is just poor manners in my books. I didn't bother raising this, but she had the cheek to say that she 'wasn't ignoring me'. I'm think I'm through trying with this one. Some girls really just revel off the attention.

This riled me up quite a bit so I had to sort my head out. I then spot a chick in the new 'bigger and better' Poundland. She was Japanese. We got on like a house on fire and chat about architecture. Bitch claimed she didn't have her phone in her rucksack so she went old skool and wrote my number down...

I then spot another Asian chick. This one was from Rochdale... there was something about the accent that just didn't do it for me. I ended up telling her I'd lost my job and slated her for working for a bank. Needless to say this bombed! I blame the accent.

I then headed to the exhibition at the gallery. There I chatted to the cute girl on the free bar for a bit and then later to some art teacher. Then later I spot a chick with some cool stocking gloves. I go over to tell her and she's loving it. Turns out she is the art gallery curator. Nice. We chat for a quite a while and she gets torn away by others hobnobbing with her. I mull over getting her number, but as I depart she tells me there's another exhibition in 2 weeks and I should come. I'll carry our interaction there then.

One thing that I'm enjoying now is talking to chicks about their clothes or accessories (this is genuine admiration and attraction on my part). It almost always turns out that they're into art or something creative. One thing I also tried today and think is prob not the best idea is banging on about loosing my job. I will just pretend I still work in the same amazing job.

edit: just remembered. At the gallery some pretty cute girl from London started chatting to me and ended up hinting for me to get her number, as she had just moved to the area, and she found it good to meet new people. I may as well oblige. The best bit about this could be the logistics as she doesn't live far from my part of town, and we've agreed I'll show her the cool bars.

you have some balls

not criticising what your doing, but I cringe at the thought of approaching random girls with the attention of hitting on them, Maybe its just not my thing

hats of to you for approaching that many women, especially the Asian ones where the language barrier might be an issue

keep us all updated

You have balls of steel - which daygame takes lots of.

I had only followed the first 3 pages of this until now, i have just read it all from start to finish, & i noticed this on page 3:

I have been pussying out literally every day since then, & get all inside my head immediately, ruining it before i even give it a chance.

I did get a few chicks numbers, one was on the bus a couple of weeks ago, which if i had been staying on the bus back to belfast, may have went further, but she kinda flaked off saying she had a bf etc. But the numbers arent consistent, & i have yet to go direct & tell a chick she is beautiful, even if its only to get rid of AA, which is the main sticking point here.

Hotties are passing me by all the time, & i just let them. I talk myself out of going after pussy, by being a pussy.

Even my mate told me the other day while we were having a pint, that i need to grow a set of balls, he was half joking, but i took it to heart, & want to change that. Today.

Im in the same mindset as you

I make up excused not to do it

couple of times I have manned up and failed

failing doesn't matter but the consistency to do it again is needed for me

Did it