Alright went out last night, on the wednesday, and turned up to the club. No approaches, it wasn't really a night out when I would have approached anyway. Literally had no intention.

There was a girl there I like in my social circle but I know to not particularly get involved as that will lead down to my life story and repeat the same old one-itis.

Still after all the coursework is done Im going to set up a 'date', in the club she was literally surrounded by at least 10 guys chatting her up.

If you think im exaggerating then Ill have you know I counted. Like how am I supposed to handle that? It was also people in her/my social circle too so I couldnt blow them off or anything.

Damn, we get along really well in the few times Ive met her sober or in the day but again I KNOW not to go down that road which I almost slipped into.

Meditation has helped, I only JUST got back into it but 2 sessions have already helped me directly giving me that 'space' between my emotions and the enviroment.

Recently Ive become aware of my actions and what i do/dont do in general. Or at least I think anyway.

Must be more proactive!! Starting tomorrow DIRECT DAY GAME and Proper approaches at nightt.

Im going to use the summer to help think about what i want to do with my life, for some reason University or at least this course is not for me but then i have the FEAR that I'm just being a drop-out (as giving up is something of a habit of mine or at least was)

i dont know, i want to go to a better university and do English Literature or maybe just go straight for a career. Some guidance from older people would be great, maybe I'll speak to my uncle or aunty (they're successful people in their chosen passions and careers). This stuff gets to me. Im too introspective I believe or am i

Going out tonight in manchester though

Long rambly post but wanted to vent this stuff out and get some perspective ya know

My advice from the ripe old age of 35.

Career
ask yourself what do you really want to do?, if you dont know-- then line yourself up with a degree that gives you options (not sure english literature counts)
a degree does help open up doors or allows you to specialise- ie if i could go back i would do medicine (also great for getting chicks being a doctor)- great money, status, helping others too, can work anywhere in the world easily- in demand everywhere

couple of years ago i had a midlife career crisis (i work in IT) did a hypnotherapy qualification, looked at all sorts of jobs (that will pay well) all required a degree, medicine, etc- and i simply couldnt justify with a house doing a full time 5 year degree and being 40ish
so my point is--- if you get it right early on, lifes a lot easier
thankfully without a degree my line of work in IT can still pay very well


Girls
stop going out fixating on how many approaches and standing in abrs thinking right i need to approach her etc
make a conversation situational-- chatting with friends, notice a chick behind you and turn round and throw some offhand comment at her, get chatting to chicks at the bar is a good one waiting to get served
you are building approaches into being somthing big and serious--
let your only intention of going out- to be for a laugh with your friends-- its not a difficult thing approaching in front of them because when its situational you are not actually approaching.

focus on enjoying doing somthing other than chasing chicks -- hit the gym, take dance lessons- do both!
girls love a nice body-- plus it gives you value in yourself through self confidence, girls love somone that can dance-- combine the 2 and it goes a long way to you being awesome
girls automatically think you are either good in bed or gay if you can dance-- thing is both of those actually attract girls (the gay thing) in a non threatening way to open.

ive never gone out with the intention to pull girls never ever and i dont ever plan on it.

Hey Reflex (is that your name because you use Reflex supplements?),

I've tried going out with friends with nothing but having fun in mind and sure I have a fun night but I never speak to any girls, by the time I see a girl or situation where I could do it casually I'm either too nervous or not 'warmed up' to carry the interaction on/forward

But its definitely a way I'm trying to work on when out with my friends, you're right I do build up approaching into a big thing, I'm quite socially anxious in general.

And career wise, I've always been into film/television (as in writing/creating it not just watching it) but I don't know if I want to study it at University as its quite a slack course. And film school is wayyyyy too expensive.

I hit the gym a lot and I want to enter powerlifting contests (did one comp a 18months ago) as I really enjoy deadlifting/squatting heavy.

But you're right I should probably take up another hobby - which I might make into doing more filming more film shorts for my career but its my favourite hobby!!

Also I would really like to do something competitive, powerlifting isn't really, but I don't really know what that would be. I realised I don't do anything competitive but i feel that its something important on a masculine sense for some reason.

EDIT: I wouldn't say I've got a great body though as my diet needs sorting out ahaha

Went out Thursday with Sapmi.

It was okay I haven't really had a proper night out in over a week - Ive been out but not really to speak to girls.

Anyway, I did a few approaches and I'd say 1 went well and I got quite 'far', tonight I'm going to do some approaches away from the bar around the club and such like 'groups'.

Met some people from the ML which was cool and might meet with them tonight.

I mutually started speaking to some french girl whilst some random french guy tried to start a fight with me because I touched his shoulder to move passed him "IN fraaaaannce you do not touch shoulders!!! Means you homo!!!" was repeated in various permutations. I could actually tell she was kinda attracted to me but I was so stifled and 'low' I couldnt really do anything about it.

Then I saw these 3 natural guys with the obvious 'alpha' of the group, maaaan they were good. I was choding out and not approaching at this point so I just watched them for a while. Interesting learnt a few lessons about positive emotions and 'fun' that they were obviously having.

I understood more about lording the club, owning the club or w/e you wanna call it. Its like if you really feel like you can speak to everyone and that everyone will respond well to you, you can really have amazing nights fun. Also i noticed just much fun they were having together too.

Yeh boy, its about having fun and not taking it too seriously. It's all banter!

I reckon gaming is best when you're creepy...(any one know where I can get a long black coat from, I need it to hide my tuna sandwiches, so I can eat them when I am looking at womens in the night club)

Just to add, I'm learning from this lair guy here. Gonna bring milk into the club!

Punt and Dennis - Mr. Strange - Milky Milky! - YouTube

@ Sapmi, aye I've a long summer to go OTT with this too We'll have to fit in some good nights before I go back down to Newquay!

@ Kowalski hahaha the guy I met seemed cool. Although I wanna make friends with some naturals who cold approach too. I know a few social circle type naturals but nothing like these guys.

Haha Sapmi you were the one who started speaking to them!!!!

bet you love them really

Milky Milky, Lovely