the funny thing is we all know the things we're not supposed to do. But when you're emotionally attached to a girl its like your starting all over again....
In theory there should be no difference between practice and theory but in practice there is.
Instead of me replying with an it's-OK no-problem reassuring nicey vibe (e.g. such as the text you used Midas which included "Ok babe,I get it, don't worry"), I huffed and puffed to decide upon the most enigmatic Rebus-like confident, terse and seemingly closed response.
After a think, I fired off a short text message response that simply read:
I cannot tolerate your petulance
Classic Rebus! I love that - You should have that as your sig
It was just one bad night. Other than that, it was going fine. That's all it takes though.
The day before yesterday she sent me a text asking if I would meet her yesterday night after salsa and I texted back but did not answer her question.
Yesterday she sent me this text: Hey danny, how are u? there is no salsa tonight and i'll go and watch a movie instead, though i'm really tired, was out from 7am to 6pm.. will u be around later? Or do u want to meet me tomo? I am a bit confused and stressed at the same time and i'm sorry that i didn't get round to talk to u yet. anyways i'd like to see u soon. X
I texted back something along the lines of, "Me too, I'd be happy to see you when you're free."
She also sent me some photos of us that we took about a week ago and wrote "nice memories" under them.
She texted me again at one in the morning to say, "Danny. i'm in bed already, was too tired to go out..good night and see u soon"
I haven't responded to this. I think it could be time for her to do a bit of chasing now. what do you guys think?
There has been some fantastic feedback thus far...
we could play analysis for dummys all day..but its better to conclude this now and either continue happy or eject from this before you get hurt too much
I would arrange for her to come round.
Sit her down and get everything out in the open
Say in hindsight ive acted like a bit of a tit, getting jeleous etc and thats because ive got feelings for you and it scares me a bit.
also say shes blown hot and cold which leaves you confused.
So lets just chalk it down to both liking each other and being muppets and move forward and forget about it but make sure it doesnt happen again.
Give her a hug and a kiss and talk about somthing else--dont spend all night going over it in detail assigning blame.
So now its down to you to not act like a needy chode and down to her to stop playing your emotions.
If you hit the same problems later on then you know its time to Eject
Thanks..i am actually considering training as a counsellor after i qualify as a hypnotherapist.
But chatting about this stuffs easy when your own emotions arent involved--as soon as its your feelings on the line - black and white situations become black, red, green, yellow, blue, purple and white problems..