It depends on where you are in the interaction.
If i didn't went to bed with her, i wouldn't care.
If we went to bed and i decided to see her again, i call the shots.
and since midas said they were supposed to be a couple i would say that's the latter case.

So ideally you want to be in complete control of your girlfriend's movements, right? She cannot go to a party if you're jealous and don't want her to.

she can, but she can't just wave it under my nose.
because if she uses this cheap tricks means that i can't trust her.

Well if trust is questionable then what's the point of attempting to control her?

So what do you do when you start going out with a girl and you don't trust her yet?
Cross your fingers and hope?

Frankly i prefer she knows where my boundaries are and that i won't stand for her crap.
She knows she can walk away whenever she wants, but if she decides to stay she has to respect my boundaries as i respect hers.

sounds a bit, insecure, controlling and manipulative this is how a lot of foreign guys are, this is why my approach is successful with foreign girls...im the total opposite.

Such a cynical approach to dating girls. Insecure and negative. Consider the positive aspects of being unaffected by a girl's tests, instead of laying down rules and regulations!

It's not insecurity, I just hate to waste time and energy on flaky people.
I just treat every interaction as it was a business deal.
For example if I'm looking to buy a property and I go visit with the owner, if after agreeing on a price a couple days later he says: "well, i like your offer but i want to just wait another week before closing the deal..."
this could mean:

1) he found another person who's interested in the deal and wants to see who offers more;
2) he wants to see if i raise the offer.

So, if we had a deal on paper would i trust this guy? heck no!
would i buy his property? if it's good, yes!
I would just remind him that we had a deal on paper that binds him into complying.

But since in love there are no written contracts (except maybe marriage), in a no-contract situation i would just tell: "look, my offer is on the table and remains the same, you have until 8 pm to give me an answer or the offer is off."

You don't make money by following people who don't know what they are doing.
You make money by sticking to your guns and doing what's best for the both of you and if they're in, they enjoy the benefits, if not they're out.

Possibly the most bizarre analogy I've ever come across.

Every time I see this thread title, I think for a moment that it's about someone trying to get the Remote Control back off their missus! lol

Anyway, to my point (which is probably not gonna be any revelation to you guys, but I figured it was worth posting anyways):

Just before Christmas, my GF split up with me using all sorts of lame excuses, and for about a week, I chode-ily sent her text messages saying such stuff as "we can make it work" "but I love you!" "what can i do to change this!" etc etc.
But having [re]discovered Game, and then putting it into practice, I got over her quite quickly (some of you may have seen my posts about getting over my oneitis etc.).

Now, what is interesting is that now that I am not chasing her, she wants me back!

Ever since that night that I told her that I didn't want to get back with her, she has been constantly texting me. As we were friends before we started going out, I have been texting back but without much enthusiasm and I have kept any interactions with her entirely platonic.

But then she'll go and start dropping hints, and trying to flirt etc, but I just pass over it. And guess what?
That makes her do it even more!!!

Through this experience, and from reading these posts on this thread, I have come to realise an awesome power that we have over women who have a genuine interest in us (which, in these cases is obviously true).
And that power is ATTENTION!

Attention is what women want! That's why they wear tiny little lycra pants and have their tits hanging out when they go out on the town. It's why they ask dumb rhetorical questions like "Do i have a fat-ass?"

As soon as we give them that attention, and placate their needs all the time, they are just gonna get bored - it's Mystery's Cat-String theory!!!

I think everything up until this point in your post was very much about placating her. But then this text that you fired off showed your disinterest, and a lack of attention to her.

BOOM!
And that was the turning point!

Much like Rebus' above response, it cut the shit right out of the game that she is playing.

She doesn't want to finish things with you, Midas. She just wants to play you, for whatever reasons, I don't know. But you just have to stone-wall it. Or not put up with it at all and decide to call it a day.

Hope this helps dude.

Much love,

Craigus