I've also pussyfooted around wondering what to say etc more times than I care to remember. Sometimes I've even been sure that women were giving me non-verbal cues, which then puts you even more in your fucking head because on top of wondering what to say you're also now thinking "did she just signal me to talk to her by playing with her make up?"

I find I'm doing things in small doses, which is better than not doing it. Remember that by attempting it, no matter small it seems or feels to you, it's more than the majority of men are doing.

As for how I'm doing it, I've completely reset myself back to zero. All my daygame approaches from before new years eve are now irrelevant. Obviously whatever experience I've had so far will remain in my sub-conscious, which is great, but I'm leaving experience behind for the purpose of my daygaming journey, which I really only consider as truly started as of the beginning of this year.

The yad stop was something that terrified me, it still does, but it's a fucking buzz doing it.

Find someone who will push you to do it. For me, I didn't want to go indirectly & all that, as soon as I heard of this unconventional interruption etc I just thought "i simply have to have this"

It takes serious cajones to do.

Today was a small start. I want to try more direct and see what happens. I need to find the balls somehow and just do it.

Even the low key approach I did today seemed to have some effect on me. On the way home tonight there were train delays and the station platform was packed. I ended up very close to an attractive woman who was beside me. I got eye contact with her and we had a few seconds pretty intense eye fucking and we both smiled. I didn't say anything and she didn't look again.

I thought "she didn't continue with that because she's married". When we got on the train she was seated opposite me and avoided anymore eye contact, even though we did exchange some small talk. When she took her gloves off I saw the ring.

The point I'm making with this is, these approaches, as you say no matter how small or insignificant you might think them, change you. If she hadn't been married I'm positive that would have turned into a good interaction. But I know that confidence came from doing the one earlier in the day. It forces your senses into a higher gear.

When theyre married, it's usually a better interaction. From what I've noticed anyways.

It could be because it removes a lot of the tension. At first I didn't know she was married so the sexual tension was there. It wasn't a bad interaction, we both enjoyed it. What I really meant was she didn't want to lead me on. Just before she got off at her stop (before mine) she did make eye contact again briefly.

Probably the hottest make out I've had was with a woman I met in a club. Then she said "sorry, I should tell you I'm married". Alcohol did play a part obviously in her going that far.

From my experience girls don't care if they lead you on or not. I've had loads of promising interactions where they resist telling me about the boyfriend until the very last minute, or say it in passing, sometimes on the date after we've made out.

There is no hard and fast rule, and there are too many variables. Take each interaction as it comes and adapt to what it throws your way.

At the end of the day, if someone is going to cheat on their fella. It's not because it's you being amazing.

So yeah as Nova said take em as they come

"Do you have a boyfriend?". I invented it but you can use it.

But they might say yes.

You persist a bit to find out what they mean by that. Most girls who say they have a boyfriend mean a guy they're seeing or sorta seeing, or sorta know from Morrisons. Then you've saved yourself a lot of time too.

or "are you single?" might be better?

i.e. are you in a committed relationship or not.