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13-03-2014, 12:28 PM
I agree with Nova. If you want to get laid, take our advice and stop making excuses. If you're not asked, cool move on, noones going to hate you for it.
    
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06-04-2014, 08:52 PM
Saturday 5th April
Mostly a night of failure in terms of interactions mixed with a bit of drama I could have done without, although I did realise something at the end of the night that had never even occured to me before. Was in a bar with friends which went a bit like this: 1. Went over to talk to a group of girls smoking outside only to realise once I got closer that they were really young and not very attractive, so I bailed after a couple of mins fluff talk. 2. Was behind a couple of girls at the bank, they were getting in a tizz because they couldn't work the machine properly and they were too scared to look at their bank balance, so I teased them for both these things. One got a phone call which they both became pretty excited about and they turned their attention to that so I just left. 3. Told a girl at the bar I thought her dress suited her, we got talking briefly with some eye contact and smiles. Was dificult not to lean in as music was loud, but as we were talking I lightly touched her arm/shoulder/collerbone etc pretty naturally. I leaned in and put my arm round her waist to ask her name...and she just flipped out. She pushed my arm off and told me "Your small, your ugly, I don't like your shirt and I don't like you so fuck off!" and turned her back on me...... 4. I got speaking to another girl at the bar and there was some banter as we're both kinda short, but her friends kept grabbing her attention for drinks, and with the bar being crowded once I'd been served there wasn't much room so i ended up leaving. 5. Some girl outside grabbed me, gave me a huge kiss on the cheek and took a selfie of us on her phone, slapped my arse then walked off, got her heel stuck in a slab and fell - she was wasted. I pissed myself laughing as did my msates, was pretty funny. As we left the bar, we passed the girl who told me to fuck off on the stairs, I'd pointed her out earlier to my friends. A female friend who was a bit boozy went right up to her face and told her she looked like a fucking hippy and started shouting at her asking her who the fuck she thinks she is talking to guys like that. It got pretty heated, guys and girls getting involved and we all left..... Unfortunatly, fuck off girl and her friends also ended up at the same club as we did later, and my female friend again had a go at her for being a bitch to me earlier. End result: we all got chucked out, and just went home.
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06-04-2014, 09:01 PM
When the girl at the bar freaked out on me I was pretty shocked as she just turned on me out of nowhere, I thought we were getting on fine. I felt total shock, and felt my face feeling flushed/red. The first thought I had was "Fuck - folk are going to think I'm a perv or someting". The bar staff did look kinda shocked - but they were shocked at her. Afew people behind us were the same. As I turned my head in embarrassment, the guy next to me looked at me, raised his eye brows, put his finger to his head in a circular motion and mouthed "C-R-A-Z-Y".....nobody was thinking anything of me at all - it was all the focus on her.
After that, there were a few girls i saw i would have maybe spoken to, but I just chickened out - i put this down to the anxiety of what happened with fuck off girl. But heres the weird thing - all the interactions I had above were when I was on my own - at the bar/smoking etc, not with my friends. After fuck off girl i was next to my friends most of the night and the thoughts going through my head were "My friends will laugh at me if this goes wrong/they will wonder WTF I'm doing etc" - for wehatever reason being with my friends held me back. I thought about this a lot today, and I don't actually think rejection doesn't bother me that much. After fuck off girl, I felt a bit anxious/embarrassed/wound up for maybe 10 mins but then I just forgot about it, i actually managed to laugh at it telling my friends. Its the whole spotlight effect thing Dan has talked about in his posts - its more the reactions of others I'm scared of. And yet, i can't recall ever having had a negative reaction from others. In fact in my last post my friends cheered me chatting up that engaged giel and were gutted for me when nothing came of it. Quite interesting, I'd never thought of that. I bet my friends wouldn't really care or mock me - its just some weird excuse on my head. Anbd besides, a "real man" wopuldn't really give a shit about what others around him thinks, he would just do it anyways.
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06-04-2014, 09:23 PM
I have a secret fantasy of going up to a really bitchy girl, and punch her in the face. A big KO. Some guys need to get beaten up to stop being cocky shits. Some girls should get the same for being bitchy. Bitchy is female cockiness really.
Once you know there's nothing to lose then AA is just a feeling not an excuse anymore. AA never goes perminantly. Get out nore. Have fun.
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06-04-2014, 09:37 PM
Most girls would just have removed your hand or moved away. You were unlucky that she reacted so badly. It was the 0.001% chance. Now it's happened it probably never will again. She could have had issues. You'll never know.
But the only thing to do is to get straight back on the horse.
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06-04-2014, 10:42 PM
I agree with Shah. Bitchiness needs to be dealt with. Drop kick her.
I'd probably just keep standing at the bar, point at the door and say to her "you need to leave".
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