I think i put arnie because in a robbins book he (arnie) said something along the lines of he really helped him, I could be wrong.

Hey, wasn't having a go, just I think Arnies mind set was rather different

After speaking with many bodybuilders from his time, it seemed he went for what he wanted with absolute focus, with no regard to anyone on the way
One quote- ''I think he would have sold his mother to help his success''

on the front of his book 'notes from a friend' there's a quote 'More than a note from a friend - an indispensable guide!' Arnie.

Wasn't the source of his success though.

Mostly that's what all these seminars are about...playing people for sales.

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Superior questions create a superior life. If you have a belief that you're a serious person who could never be funny that belief will stop you from asking the question 'what makes this 'x' funny?

The only way to take a vision and make it real is to ask the question.

Most people have the habit of asking disempowering questions.

When you ask the question you create three things : -

1. You immediately change your own focus or someone elses if you are asking them a question. If you change someones focus, you change their state. If in a moment you want to change your state tony asks himself 'who do I love and who loves me?' What am I grateful for? Whats great in my life? And you must want to know the answer. He doesn't need drugs, food, cigarettes, alcohol and neither do you; what you need to do is control your mind and direct it with questions.

2. They instantly change what you're considering and what you delete form your life. If you're feeling really sad it's because you're deleting all the reasons you could be feeling good. If you're feeling good - it's because you're deleting all the bad things you could be focussing on. If you're mad and tony asks one question he'd say 'how are you going to use this?' You were deleting how you could use it, you werent focussing on it.

3. They give us access to new resources. If you say how can i turn this around? you get an answer. If you say how can I turn this around and enjoy the process? you get a better answer.

Questions create momentum. How could they do this to me? Why? Pretty soon you get on a roll of negativity.

1. Empowering questions
One that provides new understanding. One that focusses you on solutions, if you keep asking for solutions your going to get them. If a question moves you to action. If it makes you responsible (able to respond to whats going on, you see you're in control and can turn it around) and gives you the power to make a change. Makes you have a deeper sense of meaning for your life. Helps you to learn anything from a situation or helps you to feel or others to feel empowered.

2. Disempowering questions.
Focusses you on purely the problem and not the solution. If it makes the problem bigger than it really is. Endless loop questions - 'Why me god?'

3. Possibility Questions.
What if? If you want to create new things you have to think new thoughts and possibility questions will do this. Don't stay in possibility questions move onto number 4.

4. Necessity questions.
What must I do?

Am i creating enough possibilities and backing them up with enough necessities to make that dream a reality?

5. Matching oriented. Matching someone's entusiasm i.e what do I like about that? Grest for working in a group and starting momentum.
6. Mis matching - what if this doesn't work and I get hurt?

Life is a balance don't get stuck on just one or two of the numbers.

How could this person dare do this to me? makes you angry. Rather ask - I wonder what makes this person treat people this way. 13 01:27.

If you don’t get the right answer keep asking it. Ask with consistency, ask with intensity.

You must make sure you’re asking empowering questions.

Possibility Questions? What if?

Necessity Questions? What must I do?

Matching Questions?

Mis Matching?

Take areas of your life and find out what are questions you ask yourself when people upset you? = How can this person do this to me? = anger, resentment etc. Rather – I wonder what makes people treat people this way? Makes you curious instead of angry.

When I get angry I ask – why are they such a nark? Whats up with them? Rather – I wonder why.

Why can’t I get ahead financially? RATHER – What do I really want? What am I really commited to and not just interested in financially? Who’s doing well that I could learn from? How could I develop financial security for a lifetime, instead of just for the moment?

Food. How come I can never lose weight? Your brain will go because you’re a pig! How can I lose weight? How can I lose weight now and enjoy the process?

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Global Metaphors ie A broken heart for feeling a little hurt or ‘scarred emotionally’ when your emotions aren’t scarred.

When you take a metaphor you’re changing a quantum leap and changing your experience of reality.

It’s not life but the way you represent life that determins the way you feel. Someone is late - you get worried and think they've been in an accident.

Fishers of men metaphor for recruiting catholics.

Be selective in the metaphors you utilise.

What is life like? A war? This will set up rules, ideas and preconceived notions. Battles, death etc. The filter affects your decisions and reactions.

Is life a dance? Rhythym, joy, fun.

Is your business a family, a prison, a garden that you have to tend to every day to reap a reward?

A ship in a harbour is safe but that's not what ships were built for.

Guy having a blackout - white it out! I'm marble 'zzzzzz' drill holes in it.

When people use metaphors they're highly suggestible as they're made up.

Im at the end of my rope - put the rope down, walk over here. Radically interrupt the pattern. When you set up limitations, interrupt the pattern and replace them with power, something more loving, something fun.

I'm over the edge - enjoy the slide.

Metaphor of seasons. Life is like the seasons - i'm in winter right now but spring is coming, plant new seeds etc. In winter you don't have to freeze to death you can ski - lay a metaphor on-top.

Stonecutter - constant pressure applied to the task at hand stone will cut. Maybe not on first or 200th blow but it will.

Fiji very happy people they call you wither big sister or little sister / big brother or little brother.

Lawyer - Fall's out with their spouse as they apply their work rules with their home life.
Air traffic Controller - Had to be not stressed

Look out for metaphors you use at work compared to at home and with friends.

Instead of I'm burnt out use I'm re-charging.
Instead of 'millions of things to do' maybe you have a few things to do.

Set yourself up to win the game - pick the right metaphor.

Is the person you're in a rekationship with the ball and chain or your better half?

Kids - rugrats? barfers? brats? cuddlies?

Body - machine? disaster? opportunity for growth? temple?

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What is life ? The metaphors you already link to it. When you're in a lousy state you probably think of it as a battle or war and when you're in a good state you probably think of it as a gift. If life is 'sacred' what does that mean to you: benefits and limitations.

All the metaphors you link to relationship or understanding.

Pick another area of your life and write down the metaphors. Write the positive and negative metaphors.

Then create some new metaphors one's that work for you and live them for the next 30 days.

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It's never the events that control us it's always us!

1. Your state - mentally and emotionally.
2. Questions you ask yourself - constantly evaluate what you're focussing on and meaning you take from it.
3. Values - what you focus on most
4. Beliefs - About ourselves, other, posibilities, rules - if you do this it means that. A feeling of certainty (a reference)
5. References - experiences of your life - legs of belief.

An idea is a table top with no legs.

Your imagination to create a vision for your future is as powerful a reference as the memories from your past.

Limited references create a limited life. You want to expand your life, expand your references.

The only danger is destructive beliefs.

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We lose perspective. Get some contrast. Joe Fitch - killed getting petrol; left behind 5 kids and his wife, you think you have problems: you have no problems.

If you're tired of feeling bad the easy way to feel good is to go get some other references. Look through other peoples references, and realise, your references are not real: they are only what you focussed on.

Don't blame your references for who you are - take advantage of them and if you don't have any, go get them! It's up to you to take control.

If you don't take control of this process you're going to pay a big price.

Most people are not happy. Most people are not in control of their life.

1 out of 2 in divorce. Less than 10% like their body. Society with people popping pills and doing drugs all to change the way they feel because they haven't leaned how to master it. Most people are caught up in the river of life, they wake up years later, 5ft from niagra falls in a boat with no oars and say - 'oh shoot' (tony's words lol) but it's too late.

Now is the time to take control of your life. The painful experiences from life, i'm going to pull some value from. The focus of your life is going to be on utilisation - whatever life gives you you'll find a way to use it to your advantage and the advantage of others.

You're going to have good and bad days but you'll not know which are which till much later in life.

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Look for beliefs that empower you, it doesn't matter if it's accurate or not. You can find evidence to support any belief so choose the empowering one's.

Utilise life's challanges.

Stuck in a lousy pattern? Ask yourself : What would I have to believe in order to feel this way? Find doubts in that belief and move on.

Limited references create a limited life.

Compassion is going to get us a lot further. When you get upset with someone they probably have different references. When you get in an argument with someone if you ask yourself: If I had their references and interpreted it the same way they had I'd probably be feeling the same way.

F.E.A.R - False Evidence that Appears Real.

Expand your life by expanding your references. Life is lived by being willing to constantly expand what we know, feel and do. Do it conciously and interpret your life in a way that empowers you.