We lose perspective. Get some contrast. Joe Fitch - killed getting petrol; left behind 5 kids and his wife, you think you have problems: you have no problems.

If you're tired of feeling bad the easy way to feel good is to go get some other references. Look through other peoples references, and realise, your references are not real: they are only what you focussed on.

Don't blame your references for who you are - take advantage of them and if you don't have any, go get them! It's up to you to take control.