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Default 30-11-2011, 10:23 PM

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Every time I meet a girl, I'm all cool. Nothing matters to me. I can handle everything. I'm cool with her chatting to random dudes and exs and anything alllllllll day n night long as long as I'm gettin my dick wet.....

Then AS SOON AS I GET EMOTIONALLY INVESTED....

I fucking turn into the neediest, emotion little bitch you can imagine. Please don't talk to dudes. It's like a TIDAL WAVE of controllingness comes out. Where I wana know EVERYTHING. I need to CONTROL HER ENTIRE LIFE. As if she is a puppet. I need ALL HER ATTENTION TO BE ON ME. All this, even when I do have my own life and friends and activities.

I don't fucking get it !!!!!!!

Then I look at something I said or wrote, and think, WTF YOU LITTLE BITCH.

Then after a couple years, either the girl is boring as fuck cos I stopped her having a life, or I get cheated on because of obvious reasons.

I'd love a decent response from Phil on this (aside from "man the fuck up" and "don't care about shit") cos he seems to have this nailed

Do I just need to grow up or what? I'm 21, this is pissing me off, I can feel myself ruining relationships and

I FEEL OUT OF CONTROL OF MY EMOTIONS
Absolutely love the brutal honesty in this post... I think we've all been there, I certainly have. A friend of mine pulled the "Get with 10 other girls, and then see if she's so special" trick, which usually helped me sort of "ration out" my emotional investment untill I met someone that I believed was actually worth getting invested in.

My advice would be just to get some perspective, you could go out and pull any girl you want, she's gorgeous and could probably do the same, but she's sticking with you for a reason. Just get into the mindset that YOU ARE THE PRIZE in this game, and she should be working her ass off to keep you.

At the end of the day, you're posting on a Pickup artist forum, obviously you've had experience in chatting up random girls, so chill out.

All the best, Jack.


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Absolutely love the brutal honesty in this post... I think we've all been there, I certainly have. A friend of mine pulled the "Get with 10 other girls, and then see if she's so special" trick, which usually helped me sort of "ration out" my emotional investment untill I met someone that I believed was actually worth getting invested in.

My advice would be just to get some perspective, you could go out and pull any girl you want, she's gorgeous and could probably do the same, but she's sticking with you for a reason. Just get into the mindset that YOU ARE THE PRIZE in this game, and she should be working her ass off to keep you.

At the end of the day, you're posting on a Pickup artist forum, obviously you've had experience in chatting up random girls, so chill out.

All the best, Jack.
Yes it was brutal honesty, was having a shit day and getting mega frustrated with myself..

I've started a personal blog so that every time I feel all this shit, I can feed it to the blog instead of the girls/this site.

Kowalski tells me my I need to stop thinking about whatever bothers me and think about something else. I keep trying this, I'm even actively practicing so I can direct my thoughts elsewhere. I can't seem to get a technique on this though. Things just don't EXIT my head. Anyone have advice on this?

I guess you're right. I am awesome, I can pull other women if I wanted, and yeah she could pull dudes but she isn't...

I read somewhere that once you get cheated on, you'll never be able to fully trust a woman again. Not sure on the truth of this but since I first ever got cheated on, I've not been able to trust since...

I look forward to reading my blog in a year.
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Default 02-12-2011, 10:59 AM

Hey man, it's what the forum is here for, we offer advice to each other right? Anyway, I guess Kowalski has a point with distracting yourself, you should look into meditation if you're that desperate to get your mind elsewhere, I think there's a decent thread about it in the health and fitness bit of this forum.
Other than that, try getting some perspective, she's just a girl, and like you said:
"I guess you're right. I am awesome, I can pull other women if I wanted, and yeah she could pull dudes but she isn't..." - You've got something she wants, and that no one else is giving to her, so seize the day man, enjoy it while it lasts

And Alpha, I've been cheated on, and it sucks, but it's just taught me to be more cautious, it's not that I don't trust, I'm just careful not to trust the wrong people.

Keep your chin up yeah?

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Default 02-12-2011, 06:38 PM

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Because your brain has limited attentional ability (I don't expect that is the proper term)
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I've started a personal blog so that every time I feel all this shit, I can feed it to the blog instead of the girls/this site...

...I look forward to reading my blog in a year.
Same here. I've been using the evernote program K suggested, and one section is a journal where I write down all the negative shit I feel and get it out of my head. Really helps to clear out the mind and away from those things rather than dwelling on them, and it's nice to be able to come back to them if they're still floating around in the grey matter and try and figure out why they're still conscious, and subsequently crush them. Great technique so far, got me out of my slump and back to where I'm happy with who I am and my progress (rather than focusing on the negative).

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Kowalski tells me my I need to stop thinking about whatever bothers me and think about something else. I keep trying this, I'm even actively practicing so I can direct my thoughts elsewhere. I can't seem to get a technique on this though. Things just don't EXIT my head. Anyone have advice on this?
I jsut write stuff down as if I was telling it to a friend-- I don't even reread it.
And recently I've been just grabbing hold of a song or two that I can really identify with and try and push that into my mind whenever I'm not feeling myself or my best. Singing the lyrics to yourself, or even mouthing them out tends to work wonders even faster.

(personally, "Sympathy for the Devil" is my song, and has been for years. it just picks me up and gets me out of my slump immediately.)
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