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Originally Posted by al_phaD
Every time I meet a girl, I'm all cool. Nothing matters to me. I can handle everything. I'm cool with her chatting to random dudes and exs and anything alllllllll day n night long as long as I'm gettin my dick wet.....
Then AS SOON AS I GET EMOTIONALLY INVESTED....
I fucking turn into the neediest, emotion little bitch you can imagine. Please don't talk to dudes. It's like a TIDAL WAVE of controllingness comes out. Where I wana know EVERYTHING. I need to CONTROL HER ENTIRE LIFE. As if she is a puppet. I need ALL HER ATTENTION TO BE ON ME. All this, even when I do have my own life and friends and activities.
I don't fucking get it !!!!!!!
Then I look at something I said or wrote, and think, WTF YOU LITTLE BITCH.
Then after a couple years, either the girl is boring as fuck cos I stopped her having a life, or I get cheated on because of obvious reasons.
I'd love a decent response from Phil on this (aside from "man the fuck up" and "don't care about shit") cos he seems to have this nailed
Do I just need to grow up or what? I'm 21, this is pissing me off, I can feel myself ruining relationships and
I FEEL OUT OF CONTROL OF MY EMOTIONS
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Absolutely love the brutal honesty in this post... I think we've all been there, I certainly have. A friend of mine pulled the "Get with 10 other girls, and then see if she's so special" trick, which usually helped me sort of "ration out" my emotional investment untill I met someone that I believed was actually worth getting invested in.
My advice would be just to get some perspective, you could go out and pull any girl you want, she's gorgeous and could probably do the same, but she's sticking with you for a reason. Just get into the mindset that YOU ARE THE PRIZE in this game, and she should be working her ass off to keep you.
At the end of the day, you're posting on a Pickup artist forum, obviously you've had experience in chatting up random girls, so chill out.
All the best, Jack.