i defo dont have this nailed! infact i laffed readin it coz i know it well.

one thing i would do! is remember yourself now... how you act in certain situations & hopefully keep urself in that person.

if you feel urself losin it... take some time out!

while your wer u are now, think of diff situations where u acted how u wish you wouldnt & work out why ask yourself questions.

then when u work out why it should help.

but honestly! i think the reason is u are convinced a gir will cheat on u

but... if you can just think

"why the fuck would she cheat on me, im amazin" if you can remain the person u are she never will

its just insecurity. if ur cool tho, she isnt gonna cheat is she... why would she, she picked you to 4 keeps.

hopefully my next i will be better at.

and reflex it was down to the fact i felt i didnt wanna lose my youth. ive done most shit now.

but no im certainly not the best for relationship advice POST emotion, dont have much experience.

just try and remember who u are! that is all.

ALSO know that no matter what happens, it will all end up ok !

haha, and also askin them to meet up with u! ur a dog lad! im watchin u.

plus ive shagged zeinab ages ago now anyway so ur welcome to her

any good? - i enjoy fucking asian girls, theres somthing just wrong about it which i find a turn on, they are usually good fucks aswell

i like watching my cock vanish into black chicks aswell -- it just feels like im getting back to nature

no i told her to put her heels on & she said no!! i was like... erm YE

she wouldnt have it.

then she lay there like a bag of pilau rice. killed it off 4 me if im honest

sounds to me like her refusal to wear heels and wanting to just lie there was because she wanted you as a boyfriend and your request for her to be a sexual object with heels told her you just wanted to nail her and fire her off

specifically pilau? not a nice basmati or long grain. pilau is the best. *some joke about sticky rice* the end

yea, I would set boundaries with things that you don't like. Or even if you don't mind and you know that you should (she's talking with ex's/other guys far more than she should) you should set those boundaries just so she knows. Once she knows what the limits are she'll be happier with you, and you'll have a containment for her and her effect of her.

rolling stones - under my thumb - YouTube

...well, maybe not as far as Mick says, but if you set the boundaries you shouldn't feel nearly as needy of her.

Well I would NOT be okay with my girl meeting exs...
As for talking to exs, I have to judge it.. example - if a girl has a kid with another dude... shit gets different
As for talking to dudes, fuck knows. It bothers me, yet I know it shouldn't. Most likely because of shitty past experiences.

I think you're right Phil. I am convinced I will get cheated on. Every girl I've ever been with has fucked me over in some way, not feeling sorry for myself just stating a fact, so this is fucking with my head.

A girl becomes completely devoted to me, and it is so clear, yet I am in denial and refuse to accept she will be faithful. I realise it is destructive and shit.

I'm probably also scared because I've been there and done the cheating myself. I know exactly how easy it is to do it and get away with it without even letting on at all that it's happening, so my mind is always suspicious of women's actions. A stupid example - girl takes her phone in the kitchen, my thoughts: shit, whys she took it in there? has she got a message from someone? When the fact is she was just on facebook or some shit.

All I ever find myself doing is analysing women, their actions, to see if they are being deceitful in any way shape or form. If she is slightly off with me, I don't assume she is cheating but I do feel mega uncomfortable and start wondering if her problem is with me or not. If she then tells me the problem is her own issue, I feel completely better instantly.

I seem to seek value from women. I need them to be happy with me, I need to be impressing them, I can't bare the thought of things being shitty in a relationship cos I'm scared she'll go off and cheat, so any awkward or crappy moments/arguments make me paranoid or panic.

All this shit is draining me, and also fucking with my head when I've got this degree to do..

I'm seeing a girl now, a couple months in now, she seems amazing LTR potential, so I don't wana fuck this up. Problem is, she already knows about my fucking insecurities after all the deep talks we've had. And she knows I dislike her chatting to dudes (though I don't stop her doing it, but she feels guilty doing it).. she knows I have trust issues because of my exs..

I feel quite vulnerable because she knows about all this shit because I told her in the long deep conversations..

once people hit 25 they start to grow up


self fullfilling prophecy


fuck theses off

there is a fine line between a MAN who shares a little

and where she gets bored of u wining and starts sayin to her mates

"he is turnin into a little bitch"

this is spot on the money

I learned a slow gradual hard lesson over the past 2 years

Show as little weakness to women as you possibly can
they want a strong man they can rely on, a rock


biggest mistakes i made with women
DO NOT tell girls you have suffered with depression! -- watch the fuckers run!
DO NOT come out with needy shit -- Im lonely, feel a bit down etc etc

i learned those lessons after making those mistakes with a LOT of girls