So I had been 'on a roll' as it were... until tonight. I have recently started a new job and have been enjoying success in my new job with the ladies to put it short I have fucked 2 of them.

Anyway a new girl joined last week, nothing mega a HB7 but I soon jumped on the flirt waggon and nature took its cause... we were soon giving each-other subtle sexual hints etc. So I left her my number last week and tonight the work guys suggested we all go out for a night out and we both said we were going.

She texted me asking to come out for a few drinks together before everyone else met up. I didnt notice her text so 20 mins later she rang me I answered and agreed to meet up. She was definitely interested theirs no doubt in my mind about that...

Anyway for some reason I got their and was just nervous as fuck not sure why I haven't experienced this for months thought I was over this. I Kinda had that same feeling I used to get when approaching girls when I was knew to it. It was odd, their was nothing that special about the girl I've got a regular shag from a girl who's better looking funnier and more interesting than her but for some reason I just had nothing to say, I felt really awkward and couldn't make conversation for shit...

one of the chode workers ended up winding up with her and took her back to his I would be lying if I said I wasn't ashamed of myself. Kinda thought I had all this anxiety handled but it came back to haunt me tonight, any of you more experienced guys had this before?? Was probably just a one off bad night, wasnt really in the going out mood I guess but fancied shagging the new girl... guess I fucked that one up lol.

Why should YOU have to make all the conversation?

Mate if she's boring as fuck she ain't even worth your dick

The "chode worker" was probably just throwing in every conversation topic he could think of in the hope of bagging her, then after the night out (drinks also involved I'm guessing) she goes back to his cos you didn't put in all the effort all night.

Sometimes you have to ask yourself, is she worth all the trouble?

It ain't your confidence.. you know you can bang hot chicks as you say you have a regular.. you know you can flirt and fuck the office girls, don't let this average girl bring you down just cos she had nothing interesting to say

Maybe you didnt feel in control of the situation because she txted and rang you

somtimes if a girl is really forward it totally throws your 'game' as you are used to being the one in total control of the situation

Refl3x what do you suggest when you get thrown off your game by these forward dominant women?

Think to yourself

'do i want to fuck her' if so id say somthing like

'You sound like trouble or are you all talk?'
- then call her bluff and take control of the situation
'lets go to my place'
-

my point is if they are really forward and you want to fuck them-- just proceed directly to the end game which is fucking them, taking them home, to theirs, in the bogs for a blow job whatever -- this also calls their bluff as some chicks just want to waste your time flirting

If you call their bluff and they back down, you are then in control of the situation and can decide to play with them or eject knowing that chances are you saved yourself a wasted few hours (although somtimes you can turn it round)

try not to ask them but rather tell them when you are calling their bluff


in the Ops case his post seems a bit more subtle and doesnt require the hardcore antics i would take-- but you get my idea


Then you have a whole new hurdle to cross if you do take them to yours for sex -- you have to be confident in yourself to handle a girl that knows what she wants-- some guys are in fear when a girl is very forward sexually in bed --- handling them comes with practise but even i still come up against the odd girl that has me on the ropes

its just a numbers game-- when you date loads and fuck loads you get used to handling any situation

I also think each girl differs.. some girls can be very forward and kinky, but don't make you feel under pressure, and you feel at ease and it is completely awesome sex!

But then there are other girls.. that are very forward and make it clear they want sex, but it kind of intimidates you.. and is slightly off putting.. I think these are the ones who you just need to man up with and slap her in the face..

The post linked below is what I always think back to when I encounter a girl like this..

http://www.puaforum.co.uk/52340-post51.html

I will quote it below as well..

A cool guy goes out on a night out with a few guys from work. He's slept with two girls from his place of work already, and he hasn’t even worked their long. Anyway he gave a girl from work his number and she contacted him that night, so he and his new work buddies met up with this girl.

To cut a long story short this cool guy assumed that this girl was in the bag for him, as after all he's used to getting what he wants. The girl was taken right from under his radar by one of his new work buddies, who he believed was a chode.

Cut up by the events he logged onto a website called the PUA FORUM to discuss his new insecurities, which were obtained from that night. He wrote about how this chodey guy managed to bag a woman he wanted (oh yea even though she wasnt as nice as some of the other woman he's had), when he's supposed to be the man!

Who is the real chode of this story??

AJay

I think it is unfair to say he is being the chode

I think he may be confusing nervous with just that gutsy feeling you get when you like someone..

Maybe it threw OP off his game because she isn't an uber 10 stunner yet she is very confident and forward.. after all, I bet she could still get sex any day of the week (and look she did)..

Mastere666 Sometimes you just drop the ball! Hell I do it all the time, the trick is not to dwell on it and carry on the way you were.

You only need to start asking questions if it keeps happening

Lol haha, mate I couldn't agree with you more... I never said i'm perfect with women that's why I come back to this website time and time again... And even if I did... doesn't mean I wouldn't make mistakes... I consider myself pretty damn good at other things in my life but I still make mistakes in them, and so do all of us. I'm 20 years old I haven't had enough experience yet, new situations like these will continue to bombard me for some time yet.

As reflex said she was calling the shots and it through me off my game a bit, girls don't normally do this to me so I guess it pulled the chode out of me subconciously. I'm progressing though and that's all that matters to me. Sure I fucked up last night and I may have made a post when I was drunk because I was slightly pissed off. But you know what... I can genuinely say I've woken up fine today if not slightly hungover and I've already arranged for the 'better' chick to come round she'll be sucking me dick within a few hours... pffft sounds good to me.