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13-07-2010, 09:58 PM
lol!! dave has clearly learnt from the master
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14-07-2010, 07:29 AM
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What advice would you give to some guy that came on here for the first time, Someone thats been quiet and shy all of there adult life.
He just wants a better life.
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14-07-2010, 10:30 AM
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quiet, can be classed as a genetic characteristic. shyness, hmmm, well looking at shyness i'd say its more of a behavioral characteristic. a habit, and not so a physical characteristic. hence why people can become shy at a later stage in life, or can go through periods of shyness.
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Shyness behavioral characteristic,habit that can be overcome, sounds about right.
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people are naturally quiet. some people naturally do not talk as much as others. ok?
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yeah some people are introvert don't need as much social interaction as others.
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so firstly id point that out to the person, some people are naturally quiet. but due to very nature of his presence on such a forum and asking that question, he clearly does not want to be quiet or shy. shyness is a characteristic that can be overcome. natural quietness, id say not so, its what your body is, you are not going to change that.
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I no what your saying, but is natural quietness really what you think it is, some people just lack social skills, and there fore keep quiet, with better social skills, i bet most people you would consider to be naturally quiet would become far more outgoing. How can you differentiate between the two, everybody introvert/extrovert, still enjoys social interaction, i would consider myself to be introvert, don't need company as much as most. Quietness like shyness can just be habit, brought on by a wide variety of reasons,that can be overcome.
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The end goal should always be fulfillment, happiness, peace or something along those lines. if you are content, or at these 3 places, your work will be 10x better, more natural, than anything you could ever produce by forcing a behaviour characteristic which you believe, will lead to these things (people think pussy = happiness).
Trying to act a certain way TO GET FUCKING PUSSY. I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT THAT IS NOT LIFE.
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I think almost everybody on here would agree.
Is your judgment with regards to forcing behavior characteristics correct, are you accusing people of doing this, when in fact there not, maybe your right but maybe your interpretation of certain information is wrong.
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You see, this is what i think people do not get. the striving, the pursueing of trying to be xyz personality, takes you further away from what really matters.
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Tell me what people do not get this, new comers to the community?,In which case they will probably learn this all by themselfs, with time and understanding.
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14-07-2010, 10:32 AM
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anyway, im babbling. and truthfully, i could be completely wrong with everything ive just said, but this is where i am now. which could be further from where i was 6 months ago, or maybe backwards? but if i was to say ive progressed id say yes.
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No, I think your bang on the money there mate!
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14-07-2010, 11:54 AM
I dont think I have ever met anyone who comes from being quiet (naturally) to being a sociable person and regretting it. He wont be saying this isnt me (sociable) and let me revert to being quiet because that is the "real" me.
I sometimes wonder if changing one's behaviour is a matter of decision. E.g. If you are lazy by nature, I wonder if you can just decide that enough is enough and I want to stop being lazy and indiscipline.
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14-07-2010, 12:03 PM
After all the shit that I have learnt since getting into pu, what have I actually learn? Just chill the fuck out, and stop going inside your head all the time so you can be in the present moment, and value your own existence as much as everyone elses. Doesn't take a year of approaching countless amounts of people to learn that, it doesn't take some meaningless sex with some pissed up bird to learn that shit, it just takes you to have the ability to accept who you are, no matter what the situation, and accept that you have just as much right to be enjoying your life as the next man, or woman. It just takes some mind relaxation practice, and perhaps some knowledge of how to be a more chilled out person in general. "Oh, but I hate who I am, and if I just accept who i am i'm gonna get what I always have got!" NO! WRONG! You only hate who you are because you haven't accepted who you are, and your character traits. You're always looking at other people and wanting to be more like them. You want a new identity for yourself, and you think by looking elsewhere you're gonna find it. This is pretty fucked up way of thinking in my opinion, and believe me I've been there! If this is your mind set, you are wasting your time going out trying to find this new identity through chatting up women. If you don't like yourself, if you don't LOVE yourself, then this is all a waste of time. If you can't see your flaws as just silly quirks, then you are taking life too seriously!
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14-07-2010, 01:53 PM
Learn to be your best self.
This comment isint about changing who your are, its about learning more about yourself,discovering more about yourself, being able to show your best qualities,discovering new qualities about yourself, learning how to better control negative,and destructive elements of your personality.
Learn to be your best self first, opportunities will come later.
How can people just accept themselfs when most don't even know themselfs,
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14-07-2010, 02:04 PM
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After all the shit that I have learnt since getting into pu, what have I actually learn? Just chill the fuck out, and stop going inside your head all the time so you can be in the present moment, and value your own existence as much as everyone elses.
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Thats good, but that alone wont improve social skills.
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14-07-2010, 04:20 PM
I think you have to believe there are improvements that can be made in your life, be it socially or the kind of girls you aspire to. Just accepting things as genetic is not good enough if you want to improve your whole self.
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