Recently I met up with Agape from the forum, for a Friday night in Cardiff. It was a good night, agapes a sound guy, it's amazing how many more approaches you do when your with a wing compared to usual mates.

Agreed to meet at 8pm at Cardiff 'Spoons (rugby night so crazy everywhere). I couldn't find him but see 2 cute girls by the stairs, walk up and ask if they've seen my mate whose bald with a beard, they haven't, I ask why they aren't watching rugby, chat for but but I feel stifled so leave.

Phone signals crap so watch game for 10 mins, go to bar to get pint next to these 2 girls, I smile at them then order, they ask if I know whose playing, I rib them for not being true Welsh, we chat for a few mins in still a bit stifled but should've got number.

I spot agape, have smoke/natter about shit/women etc I ask girl where's good to go tonight she's not from here but seems quite helpful.

Next bar, get drinks then outside for smoke, get chatting to girls, one cute one one alright but older, they are liking the chat, after about 15 the cute ones fella comes back from bar great lol get chatting actually a sound guy and end up talking for a while as he wants to setup own Ltd company and go contracting (which I've just done).

Agapes having a chat to 2 girls the other side of smoking section, one is hot, the other not bad, he intros me and it's going well, one of the girls offers to get us all drinks. We end up all drinking in another 2 places. agapes hand in hand with the hot blonde I'm chatting and kinoing the brunette.

Long story short, the hot blonde is married (ring on finger) definitely was loving it, (we were half our cab ride home so logistics), Hannah had new boyfriend of few months I reckon if pushed it wouldn't have mattered, when I got drinks mid night was chatting to a girl at the bar and she bought me a vodka shot which we downed when went back Han was ribbing me saying i see you've got a new favourite girl, they went home about 1.

Fun night but should've sacked the girls off sooner. Also, we both agreed drank too much so by 130 was too tanked up to chat properly.

We went to a few other places till 4 more approaches quite hazy, less drink the next time!

Out in Bristol this Friday night so will try and go easier on the bevvies. I'll post a report up here soon...

Lay report

Went out with Agape from the forum again in Bristol, great night, highs and lows then highs again lol

We go out at 7 chatting in smoking area I'm massively stifled from working, need to get in zone. Go to revs get chatting to birds smoking area big group in works night (everyone tonight is in works night random) agapes doing well I'm still stifled chatting around table to birds my conversations drying up and I'm struggling, he's still going, do I stay try another set panic, go to loo come back lol

We end up chatting to a few different birds in smoking area get warmed up nicely, next place chatting to these 2 girls, it's going well I snog one of them and swap number, earlier I asked how good a kisser she is out of 10 she says she doesn't know but says is a good shagger blimey, me and agape go to 90s cheese place as a girl I number closed earlier is in there. Crowd is older 30s 40s there's some cute birds about and many desparate diverocees lol my value feels increased, can feel women checking us out.

Chat to cute blonde at bar, she's a fresher, 30, with her 18 year course mates! Kinoing at bar, we end up snogging. She wonders off, I think she's gone home and no reception in here. Chatting to this older bird 40 ok but agape says don't do it ha I end up snogging her. The blonde comes back later and sees me with her doh an hour later a massively delayed text from cute blonde comes in, am I still in here grrr

Later I see her but she's Cold when dancing the older bird is now snogging some old guy, me and agape dancing with some cute girls but it's going nowhere and now 3am

My moods lower despite initial success, we go back to previous bar, the two girls are still in there with a group of guys around them, debs has tried to call me twice. I'm now horny and in rampage, we plough in agape gets the cute brunette, goes in hard, she's liking it, the guys wonder off. The girl I'm with is dirty, we're snogging and she's saying she wants my cock ha, apparently she's a fetish modeller or something.

I say to all go back to mine for party at daves they come too, long story short I fuck debs in my room, agape fucks the other on my sofa bed, agapes bird has a long term boyfriend but clearly this isn't an issue. The girl I'm with is cock hungry it's funny. Afterwards she confesses she has fucked her mate who's in with agape and Likes occasional pussy.

At some point she says we should get them in here to join us, I'm not sure if she's serious, it's late I'm in a bad state and we don't. Overall random night out, certainly an eye opener

Going out on Bristol tonight so I'll try and post a report up after. Things I want to work on, being in the moment, going out to have fun and not be goal oriented. Try and build on being sociable more in everyday life so when the weekend arrives I'm already warmed up rather than saving all the 'sociability' up for the weekend and then being surprised that it's taking so long to get sociable lol

From now on I'm going to try and post less waffle and more meaningful shorter updates.

Last night, works do in Cardiff (Friday's off), On way to meet them in a bar I do a few warm ups to get sociable. Ask girl if she knows where bar is, chat for bit. Do same to a guy texting.

Our groups big, I'm new, there's a stunner in the group who the guys are grouping around. I chat to the guys, then girls, fag break, chat to the girl outside, she broke up with fella 3 months back, I number close her, she works in a different building so not bad.

In another bar with the group, I spot 2 set at end of bar, go in, ask where's good to go later, chat for bit they seem fun but husbands arrive chat briefly then back

See 2 girls and guy in booth ask guy same question, the girl seems animated chats then I go. End up snogging Julie (the cute works girl 26). I know work stuff is cheating but it felt good and a step up in my personal journey and confidence. I'm still fronting confidence a bit and don't feel truly authentic yet so want to make this more part of who I am.

Sounds like you're doing fine. It's not cheating. If you front confidence long enough you'll believe it and it becomes normal / real/ authentic. There's no alternative/ better way to do it really. Unless you were born confident and I don't think many people are.

Cardiff Lay Report

Started off a bit stifled, I'm out with Ajay whose more proactive, opening quite a few early on. He opens a 2 cute seated girls (although 19 lol) I join, we're both sitting, talk for a bit but in my head about age and the fact we're sitting not standing 'ready to leave' but I think overanalysing

Chat to few girls in smoking area, ajays winding up one of the Romanian sellers trying to sell us flowers, feeling more warmed up.

Chat to a couple of 2 sets inside Ajay pulls a cutie to the dance floor. I ask 2 girls for advice on where next and she seems keen and is holding my hand with entwined fingers, I number close her, it feels like I could snog her and we've only been talking a minute. We go to floor but her (slightly large) mate seems off put by us and we eventually leave.

In Pryzm (nee Oceana lol) lots of approaches I was paranoid about being too old (32) but there's a big mixture. In smoking area chatting to a 35yo blonde, I number close, long story short we go to gay bar (!) with her as she has some gay guy mates inside she wants to see. I snog her a lot on the floor and eventually pull her back to my room.

At one point I think she might've been up for threesome but I think she had social pressure from her guy mates. First time in a gay bar, surprising ratio of straight fit women...

Daygaming around Kings Cross.

I met up with a mate and I did 7-8 approaches. The apprehension before any of them was huge with a strong feeling of dread/selfconciousness.

The first 3 were awful. First girl I speak way too fast and higher pitch but she's polite. The next one is a Uni student compliment her on style, she asks why and looks perplexed, chat for bit but not great lol

Next one I run up and say I love her winter bobble hat she immediately lights up and starts asking loads of questions, I think it made her day lol

Final one the best, cute girl texting in station. I slow speech and control tone and feel calmer due to the ups and downs of last few, we chat for about 5 mins, where each is going, fashion etc, I should have number closed as she was loving it and giggling.

My emotions seemed to be like a roller coaster depending on if I got a good or bad reaction, need to control this.

The boy got moves

out with Ajay. warmed up after a few approaches (and beer!), 3 hot girls at bar, before I could think I went up to one and said do you think my Christmas jumper is too Christmassy (yeah I know) then spot they are posing for club photographer, one said something then turned back to mates. Ajay does a few warmups, going up to a cute girl and telling her she looks good, gets good response.

in next place, girl giving me the eye, grab her hand and dance she clenches mine asks my name, I still feel awkward, number close her, after few mins of grinding I go in for kiss she pulls back. Chat for bit then leave her. Get number of girl in smoking area.

At last bar, we were doing well, chatting to bar maids first, we'd been there earlier so they knew our names. In smoking area, Adam opens 2 girls, I chat to her older mate, but about generic boring stuff and I find it hard to spice it up.

I Approach group of 7 girls, saying so do they like my jumpers Christmas lights, good response, I ask why their out, mates birthday, she asks me to guess age, I say high or low but the. 25, she beams, comes over and hugs me, I laugh and say I need to guess girls ages more often.

Long story short I end up snogging the cute blonde one 27, later after dancing with her then leaving, chatting to more girls outside, she comes outside gets near to me so breakaway to her.

I still feel a lot of what I do is just luck. Although, I feel approaching bigger groups is now much easier than 12 months prior. I used to think that girls in big groups are always having the time of their lives and any interruptions are not welcome but most seem to love it.