Hey guys! Ok, this is my first proper post here so I thought I'd make it a good one. This is an article I wrote a few months ago about stopping moving girls in the street. I hope you guys like it - I always appreciate your feedback - so let me know if you have any ideas regarding this article. Enjoy!

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Approaching Moving Sets in the Street (Direct)
By Yosha




I have a confession to make:

I have really bad night-game. I find it hard even opening at night. Me and my friends regularly host nights at Movida, which is where we invite out girls to - so I'm SURROUNDED by girls on our table, who I dance and have fun with. But other hot girls in the club that aren't in our group? I'm terrified of talking to them. I just find the whole environment completely stiffling. I'm intimidated by much better looking, more confident seeming guys, and I always ASSUME hot girls in a nightclub won't be interested in me. So just to clarify - I'm like a complete AFC when it comes to the classic understanding of 'THE GAME' - i.e, approaching and attracting girls in a nightclub environment.

But I am currently dating three HOT girls. Infact, I'm very confident that in a couple of months time, I'll have twice that. By this time next year, I'm VERY VERY confident that I would have found a girl of such high quality that I'll want to have a proper monogomous relationship with her.

"Eh? But I thought you said your game was shit?"

Yup. Wanna know how?

Street game. And not just "excuse me, I'm looking for the nearest treehouse" kind of street-game - I'm talking about DIRECT street-game.

I'm talking about going up to the hottest girls you can find and letting them know straight away that you're interested in them. I'm talking about not really having a clue exactly what you're going to say when you approach, but instead trusting yourself to come up with what is needed in the moment.

I can guarentee you now - if you dedicate yourself to doing what I say to do, battle through all rejections, correcting your mistakes and persevering - you will be in a position where you can date as many hot girls as you like, without using any scripted openers, routines, or gimicks - just being yourself.

Now. Sitting comfortably? Gum? Ok, let's begin.



FORGET ABOUT HOW YOU THINK IT SHOULD BE DONE

Firstly, forget anything you've ever experienced about direct street game. I hear so many people tell me "but I've tried direct, and they just tell you straight away they've got a boyfriend". They probably do. ME. I got there first When I first started doing direct, I got exactly the same response. The difference is I didn't give up. I made a firm decision that DIRECT STREET GAME was what I wanted to do. It's how I've decided to play the game. So I put on my seatbelt, and rode it out, till the bitter end. So forget about any negative experiences you've had TRYING direct street game. You were just doing it wrong. I'm going to tell you how to do it right.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DIRECT AND INDIRECT

When you approach a girl indirectly on the street (ask for directions, a female opinion), you are HIDING your true intentions (that you are interesting in the girl romantically/sexuall). Because of this, the girl isn't considering you as a potential romantic interest, so if you are dressed poorly, have poor body language, clearly don't take care of yourself, and generally sound like an uncalibrated weirdo - 99% of the time she will stop to answer your question, as doing so isn't conveying any romantic or sexual interest towards you. Girls are generally nice, polite people as long as you are nice and polite to them.

Infact, it is impossible to get rejected from going indirect. You can't reject someone HONESTLY asking for a female opinion - infact to do so would actually be quite rude. People get rejected when their intentions ARE unintentially coming through, dispite the indirect verbal communication. So now the girl can reject you, because she is now rejecting what she percieves to be your COVERT advances. If you go indirect, you need to be 100% indirect, so as not to arouse suspicion in the girl. If you are going indirect, but they can TELL that you really have romantic/sexual intentions towards them, it is perseived as WEAK behaviour, because you are clearly too scared of saying what's really on your mind, for fear or rejection.

When you approach a girl directly, you are forcing her to make a second by second decision whether or not she can see you as a potential date/boyfriend/sexual partner. She might reject your straight away, she might listen to you for a few seconds then decide you're not her cup of tea, or you might be talking to her for 10 minutes, give you her number, then when you call, decide not to answer the phone then.

APPROACHING DIRECTLY FROM A POSITION OF HIGH VALUE

If she percieves you as a HIGH VALUE guy, approaching her directly is VERY POWERFUL. If she percieves you as low value, it's not.

Two people could approach a hot girl, say exactly the same thing, but get complete different results. Depending on what is being communicated, you will either be percieves as a high value, confidence, exciting man who isn't afraid to say what's on is mind.... or not.

I'm going to teach you how to come across as high value. It's the classic fake it before you make it thing. Actually BEING high value is your ultimate goal - but this takes time and high value experiences. Infact, alot of guys I have shown this stuff to REALLY ARE high value people. They either don't realise it, or they just FORGET their value when they are in the presence of a hot girl. The only way to combat this is to approach, approach, approach untill you are desensitised to it. Eventually you won't forget your value, you won't be afraid any more. You'll be able to approach the hottest girls, and act with the same confidence as when you talk to your best friend.

Afterall, isn't confidence just the absense of fear?

THIS IS HOW GIRLS WANT TO BE APPROACHED

This is the stuff movies are made of. Every girl I've ever been with who I met using this approach has told me they LOVED the way I approached. They told me they'd never been approached that way. Listen guys - 99.99999% of guys DON'T do this. Dispite what you've heard GIRLS DON'T GET APPROACHED LIKE THIS. Sure, guys try to 'strike up conversation' with hot girls. But NOONE goes straight up and does what I do.

If you do this right, you can forget about DHVing. Your approach is the demonstration of high value.

SO HOW DO IT IN A HIGH VALUE WAY?

They are many things that communicate high value when you do a direct street approach, some of them intangiable. The best way to describe 'that which can't be described', is your VIBE.

1. FASHION & GROOMING

Before you take any pick-up courses or spend ANY money what so ever on material or products - WORK ON YOUR FASHION. The fabrics that you decide to adorn your body with say more about you than you probably know. I girl WILL REJECT YOU, just because you are wearing clothes that communicate low value. This isn't so important for indirect game - but for direct game it is ESSENTIAL.

When you're selling your house, you are always adviced to spend a few thousand pounds on making it look more presentable, so people will be more likely to buy it, even if the things you are buying won't even be there when you've moved, like plants, furniture and curtains. The point is, potential buyers (with little imagination) come in and make a quick decision based on the FEELING that the house gives them. If you spend a few thousand making the house FEEL like a home, they are far more likely to buy it.

So don't like your fashion be the reason they girl rejects you. Ask the girl later why she didn't stop and talk to you, and she probably won't know.

If you don't know ANYTHING about fashion, then I would strongly advice seeing a professional who does. I did, and the change was staggering. If you don't have any money, then start paying attention to fashion magazines, or getting some advice from any friends who do have really good fashion sense. As a general rule, make sure your clothes are WELL FITTED, and if you're unsure, keep the colours to a minimum. If you like funky, rocky kinda stuff, then go for that kind of look. If you're more of a suave, gentleman type of fello, then go for that kind of look.

DON'T TRY AND DRESS IN A WAY THAT DOESN'T SUIT YOUR PERSONALITY.

2. VIBE

This is the hardest thing to master, but with practice it will come. I would describe your vibe as the 'general feeling', or the energy that is coming from you. The coolest guys I know just emit a never ending supply of positivity, self-contentment and joy. We've all spoken to people who aren't really saying anything to turn us off, but there's just SOMETHING about him that communicates an unhappiness, or a deep insecurity that is preventing him from truly expressing himself. His VIBE is just a bit off. In RSD's Blueprint, Tyler says the 'The Self is ALWAYS Coming Through'. This is your vibe. Having the right vibe will get you laid. Naturals don't know game. They just have an awesom vibe.

I've seen people approach, and get blown up. And they're vibe is really.... serious. Not perhaps very negative, but there's just something not quite right. Watching him talk to the girl, there's just a SERIOUSness to him.... I tell him to smile, and he does, but his VIBE is just kinda..... serious. Then later in the day he comes across a really friendly, sexy girl who gives him a really positive response, which REMINDS HIM that he IS actually a cool, high value guy. From this point onwards, every girl he approaches is different. He's not saying anything different before... but his vibe has changed. I can see he is more positive now. He's happier. I can't tell you what it is he's DOING that is making come across this way.... maybe a slight cheeky smile after saying something... maybe it's a glint in his eye - but its because he actually feeling more confident with what he's doing.

He's ACTUALLY ENJOYING talking to this girl.

THAT is the core of what I want you to take from this. You need to learn to ENJOY this. Your vibe needs to communicate that you are a HAPPY person. If you aren't happy, then you need to really focus on why this is. If it's your job, then you need to take time away from pick up and focus on your career, if it's your friends, then you need to take time away from pick-up and focus on finding a better peer group. If it's just the fact that you're single and you wan't a girlfriend - then try and start ENJOYING the process of learning how to talk to girls. This alone will improve your success rate dramatically.

See your vibe as gift-wrapped present that your giving the girl. No girl wants to unwrap it to find a yucky bundle of hatred, anger and self-pity. They want to find a shiny ball of FUN and HAPPINESS.

Figure out a way to make learning pick-up FUN.

3. BODY LANGUAGE

When you approach, you need to use your body in a confident way. Look at the way you stand in the mirror and compare it to the way people like tom cruise stand. The best way to improve your posture and the way you move your body is to pick someone you admire, and model the way they use their body. I have modelled various high value people I've come across on my little journey, not of them famous, but just high value people with good body language. Look at the way they gesture with their hands. Look at the way they stand. Look at the way they talk to people. SERIOUSLY do this. Personally I think this is more beneficial than spending money on any pick-up material.

We all know that your physiology follows your psychology. When someone is depressed, you can tell by the way they are walking and moving. If someone is joyfull and happy, they have a 'spring in their step'. But also a firm believer that your psychology also follows your physiology. If you move your body in 'the way a confident person would move it', I believe you will start to feel more confident. If you slouch and act like a nervious, shy person, I believe you actually start to feel worse. So model body language role models, and start to work on how you use your body.

As a rule I would suggest the following the next time you approach a girl.

- Don't slouch. Make sure you're standing up fairly straight - I like to feel my pecs against the insides of my clothes, this reminds me that my chest is out and i'm standing up straight.

- Son't shift around. Stand solid, rooted to the ground. Any movement should be as an extended expressional gesture, rather than out of nervousness or discomfort.

- Use your hands to gesture. Make a point of using your hands to express yourself more. Also, if your hands are already out of your pockets, gesturing in the air, you only need to gesture a little further to kino the girl quite naturally as part of a gesture.

4. SMILE

Ok, this one is a new pick-up technology I have recently invented. I call it smiling. You need to smile when you stop a moving girl! If you don't smile, the chances are she won't stop. Who wants to stop and talk to a miserable person? I definitely don't.

You don't need a cartoon grin, but as a general rule I like to say: "The faster the girl is moving, the bigger the smile you need". So if she's sprinting at fall speed, you need to be laughing histerically. hehe (i'm only half joking).

5. EYE CONTACT

You've all heard the term laser eyes right? Well, when you approach a girl directly on the street, you need to be looking at her directly in the eyes. Don't shift your eyes away and look behind her, or down or to the side as you talk to her. You need to be laser eying her. Imagine her naked, on your bed. Imagine all the things you could be doing to her in just a day or two. It's not STARING.... its a soft, yet focused eye contact that lets her know that you and her and the only things that exist in the moment.

6. VOICE TONE, SPEED & VOLUME

This is one of the biggest sticking points I had to deal with. I have always talked to fast. I don't know why, but it's always been a problem of mine. During a one-on-one with Adam ages ago, the first thing he told me is that I need to slow down how fast I talk, and it's been something that I've been working on ever since.

When you approach a girl, YOU ARE IN NO RUSH TO SAY WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY. The end of 'the opener' isn't the goal. Getting her to stop isn't the goal. The goal is to come across as high value. So when you open, just START TALKING, and starting talking slowly.

Smoothly does it big man.

Just start talking slowly, and you'll be amazed how it changes to whole interaction. You'll actually feel alot calmer and more confident because of this.

If you can sense that she isn't interested in THIS MOMENT, i.e, she begins to slowly walk off - DO NOT speed up in order to FINISH what you were saying in the hope that by finishing what you have to say is going to CONVINCE her to stop. Remember, your VALUE is what is going to make her want to talk to you, NOT what you have to say. So if she starts walking off, CARRY ON talking at exactly the same pace as before.

Talking fast communicates that you are the kind of person that expects people to interupt you at any minute, or that people generally don't listen to you, so you have to get what you have to say out fast, before people lost interest.

People who talk at a leisurly pace, who add pauses into their speech, communicate that they are the kind of people that people LISTEN TO.

Your goal should be to pronounce your words CLEARLY, and confidently, and at a casual, relaxed pace. If there's a pause in the conversation, practice NOT filling it, and EXPECTING her to fill it.

Regarding voice tone - If you talk, you should feel the vibration of your voice in your lower throat and chest. You'll notice that as your tone gets higher, the vibrations go up to your mouth, your nose and even further, depending on how high you go. Raising your voice tone is SEEKING REPORE. Imagine how you walk talk to a gentle granny. You would want to seem as non threatening as possible, so you would raise your voice tone right up to sounds really nice, friendly and agreeable.

When you approach, you want to make a habit of keeping your voice tone down to a chest area. This is very important. Going direct on a girl with a lower voice range will communicate exptremely high value as you are not seeking repore. If you say the same thing to a girl, but your raise your voice tone as you say it, it will communicate to the girl that you are WANT HER APPROVAL for your approach. Your saying "I like you - is that ok?", rather than "I like you, and i dont give a fuck what you think of that." (don't actually say this! haha)

THE APPROACH

Ok, here's the juicy bit. How it's actually done!

The girl is moving, so you need to stop her.



Jog past her (on either side), and as you do, turning to face her as you pass.
Make sure you have eye contact with her, so she can clearly see that your intention is to speak to her.
Make sure you EASE into her field of vision so you don't startle her.



Remember to smile!



If you look at my hands, you can see they are infront of me, and slightly to the sides, in a kind of 'PLEASE STOP' posture. This is a subtle thing that can sometimes make the difference between her stopping, and her walking past. I always do it.

A very important thing to point out here, is you HAVE to stop DIRECTLY infront of her. You need to give her room to stop - if you jump in too close, she's likely to continue straight past you. The faster she's moving, the more space you need to give her to stop. The reason you need to get directly infront of her, and not a bit to the side, is what it is communicating.

Charity people don't get right infront of you. They wouldn'd dare. Homeless people asking for change wouldn't presume to stop directly infront of you. Club promoters don't stop directly in front of you. You see they all EXPECT you to not want to talk to them.

You on the other hand, are a HIGH VALUE MAN. And you are about to make a girls day. So of course she's going to want to listen to you. So GET RIGHT INFRONT OF HER. BLOCK HER PATH. DO IT YOU PUSSY!!! hahaha

Ok, now what you say to her.

There are varying degree's of DIRECT... obviously going up to a girl and telling her you would love to fuck her would have less chance of success that telling a girl she 'caught you eye', so I would say it just comes down to personal preference. But I would recommend a spirit of adventure and experimentation. Try these ones out:

2) Hey you - I'm just on the way home... but I just saw you. I'd be kicking myself if I didn't come over and tell you *enter a sincere compliment here*. I'm Yosha.

3) Look at you - you look fucking incredible. I had to meet you.

4) Hey, sorry to bother you... er... I've just ran away from my friends... I saw you walk past and I had to meet you. Who the hell are you?!

I'd rather you not try and remember too many 'scripted openers'... the spirit of the opener should be IN THE MOMENT. I'd rather you use these ideas as templates for making your own up. And I want you to be honest with the compliments. Make them unique to the girl. And don't say "I like your dress. Say YOU look amazing in that dress. See the difference?



"My name's Yosha"



Now - the TRANSITION.

This is very important. So many people deliver their direct opener, then kind of wait for the girls responsee before they move on. Remember you want to communicate that you don't want her approval, your just the kind of man that isn't afraid to go for what he wants in life. You want to deliver your opener, then immediately transition into a conversation.

How do you do this? Ok, this is the part of the interaction that is going to mess up the most interactions. This is actually the hard part that takes the most practice. But if you follow my advice, and with enough practice, you should be fine.

When you first start doing this, you'll probably be bricking it, worrying about what you're gonna say after the opener. So you'll go in, say the opener, stand there for a few seconds, and they say something like "so what are you up to?". And that's fine. Well... it's not fine. It's shit. But I mean it's GOING TO HAPPEN to you. And it's just because you CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE TO SAY. You've started this direct game journey, so congrats for having the balls to go up and do it. Now's where the real learning starts.

The more you approach, the more desensitised your become to approaching a girl and saying something direct. This is the first step; getting rid of your AA.

Eventually, you'll actually really start to enjoy it as the majority of responses will be full of smiles. You'll make their day, which is cool in-of-itself.

As you become less afraid of it, you'll start to become a bit more relaxed doing it. This is where it can start to get fun.

When you are scared of a given result, you using all of your mental capacities to try and find a way to avoid that result. In this case, you're scanning your mind for that 'next thing to say', for fear of that dreaded awquard pause.

I like to think of it like that scene in wallace and gromit (the one with the evil penguin) where grommit of on the train, frantically laying down rail-track infront of him so the train doesn't crash. So in relation to this, you're afraid your going to reach back and not be able to find a piece of track...... CRAASH!!!

The problem is, the mindset, the feeling of having to USE YOUR BRAIN to try and WORK OUT what to say, so the complete opposite thing you neeed to be doing. Infact, it's when you do this that you're MOST LIKELY to run out of things to say.

Instead, you have to be in the moment. You have to LET GO of everything you've ever learnt about pick-up.

Just relax.

Observe.

Take everything in.

LISTEN to everything she's saying.

EVERYTHING around you is a potential lead into a conversation, including yourself, and this crazy situation you've just put the both of you in.

Does she have an accent? Has she got shopping bags? Is she wearing anything that you like? Is she tall? Short? Did she smile when you approached? Does she seem friendly? Does she remind you of anyone? What's the weather like? Why did you approach her? Are you crazy? Is she crazy? Do you do this all the time? Does she get stopped all the time? Has she always lived in London? Why did she come to London?

All of that shouldn't come from your memory, but from THE MOMENT. And the only way to do that, is the be RELAXED and CALM. Your focus needs to be shifted from INWARDS to OUTWARDS.



Notice how close I am to her face. This was a direct approach, so don't be afraid to invade her personal space a bit.

Now just have a natural conversation with her. Get to know her. If your intention for the conversation is to find out about her, then you will naturall qualify her. Let her know about you - open up to her and she will open up to you.

But don't forget, this was a direct approach. Don't let her forget that. Throw in the occasional direct comment to keep the interaction spicey.

Then #close when yoo feel like you have had a solid interaction. The longer the interaction, the more chance the number won't flake. If you can, instant date. Girls never flake after an instant date

Finally - text her within 10 minutes of leaving her. You want to keep the interaction going continiously, otherwise when you call or text in a few days, the memory of the fun you had together might have faded and you might just be 'some guy' again.

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That's it - hope this helps guys Go out and practice it, and let me know how it goes!

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Yosha

Cool - this guys thinks like me in a 1,2,3,4 fashion...

Good post - and nice pumps..

Kiss kiss

Nice stuff

I like how you describe the follow up stuff about just going with whatever is in your head or surrounding you (I wouldn't recommend the weather though!) I think the good thing about just saying whatever is in your head is that you are being you so you'll be more relaxed and the conversation flows better. Treat her like she's one of your friends after all you want to do things with her that not even a friend would let you

I think you shouldn't think too much about all the high value things while you're approaching as you will be too busy concentrating on these.

I like the but that's just because at improv we take the piss out of zol and say "what would Tom Cruise do?" in fact I think we should get jesus bands with WWTCD? on them. Actually he's gone a bit mental now so maybe not.

It's pretty awesome just telling a girl she looks good because you've made her day instead of asking her opinion on something.

Read this a while back, its good stuff man

You mean this wasnt you in the pumps - I feel tricked.

Am still going to read it again later tho...

Oh man - there are SO MANY spelling and grammar mistakes in this article. I totally forgot! You're right, I need to run it through a spell checker. Apologies for that!

Regarding the 'forget what you know' comment - I understand that many people might have heard about direct daygame before, but it was written from my perspective as a trainer, and nearly everyone I've taught has come to me after reading The Game, so they are coming at it from a very different angle. I hope you found bits of it useful though - It all came from my experience, so with any luck there was the odd bit on there that had some value.

Regarding your fashion: You're right of course, it shouldn't have any affect on how you see yourself, but I guarantee you it does have a huge affect how people see you. If you are going direct in the street, what you wear makes a BIG difference. I've taught hundreds of students over the past 8 months and trust me when I say the clothes you wear makes a big difference. Because you're going direct and therefore showing so much intent from the start, she has no choice to make an instant assessments of your value, and if you look like a tramp, she will assume so and tell you "she has to go", before you've had a chance to show her that you are infact a high value guy.

In a different setting, where you have more time to demonstrate your personality, then yes, you can have a beer in hand, spliff in mouth with tramp clothes. But if you approach a superhot girl in chelsea directly like this, she will tell you she has to go.

This is just in my experience as a trainer though, I'm sure there are specific incidents which totally contradict this

good post...Fashion Tips vital!