hey everyone, so i really need ur help!
I lived with this guy for a year in uni halls, kinda best mates but nothin more. Found out half way through year hes been majorly into the game for years. Anyway, obv liked eachother all year but living together kinda awkward. Now living appart an out of ljbf zone we fucked a few times but now hes blowing really hot an cold and being way more distant than when we were friends. If i contact him hell always talk for ages, but hell never contact me or arange to meet up. Is this a pua tactic thing or is he just not into me now hes got what he wants? have bad oneitius...any tips 2 get over it lol?!

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kk thanx, guess i just dont want to hear that hes not interested! loving this pua thing though, so clever and so true! its genious! x

Sounds to me like he is doing a good job. It does sound like he's game push/pulling but then if you've already had sex its blatant he's attracted to you. He just might not want a relationship though so I guess you need to find out. Also, the more you chase him the more he'll run away, so don't throw yourself at him.

Good to see women appreciating this stuff! This community is not just for the salacious benefit of men, it's win:win for both sexes.

Kowalski is right (as he so often is). Katya, in this community we all face our fair share of rejections, face up to it and it will ultimately serve to make you a better and more grounded person.

Hay welcome

Welcome Katya.

I've often wondered how game/ SA can benefit women/some of the girls I've dated.

Let pioneer this and get some equality going. Its gotta be win win right??

the game makes sense! girls get to meet interesting guys who they mite not have otherwise met! and lest face it, although society says girls should be all respectfull for themselves and behave themselves e.t.c, we love sex just as much as all you puas! im really into nlp, been practicing it for a year now, an it works amazing on guys...female pua lol. think the game can go a bit far with the likes of october man sequence though!

thanks again for the advice. its really hard not to want reasurance once weve had sex...get kinda insecure...guess its a loss of control thing. now i care more about him hes definately got the upper hand! so how clingy is too clingy? hes never ask to meet up just casualy either, its always down to me (this is sooo weird since we used to be tripping over each other in student halls)! does this mean hes not interested or just not want to look it.....and any ideas on where/how to aks him to meet up, but not in a pressured 'date' kinda situation..i know it shouldnt be awkward but us girls get nervous!



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If he's gaming you he'll make the most of opportunities you provide him with. So if you invite him to something casual(night out with friends, shopping whatever) chances are he'll come along. If he refuses then just wait a week or so and he'll probably ask you to do something. Once you've met up with him make sure by the end of it you've arranged something later on(preferably let him do this but if he does then take the initiative). Guys, like girls, dont want what they can have so send him mixed signals. Show him you're interested but also that you have other options and show he hasn't won you over yet. Good luck!

The lads are absolutely on the money - he's clearly good at his game. The fact that you've said yourself how you seek "reassurance" after you've had sex suggests the force is strong with this one.

My advice might seem a little harsh (I'm all about the tough love) so try Kowalski's thing about getting him to be straight with you before you try it. I suggest you just move on. Honestly, if he's a PUA in full swing with his game he'll have several girls on the go and chances are he won't want a relationship with anyone. He'll be enjoying having regular, varied sex with no strings attached. I think trying to get him to chase you by sending him these "mixed signals" is just going to get him to run a mile - after all, he can go out and get any girl he wants. Why would he go to the hassle of chasing you?

Sorry to be the voice of doom but I don't think you'd be doing yourself any favours by chasing this guy. By all means demand some answers from him (in a way that doesn't suggest submission or neediness) but be prepared to get over him. If he picked you up in the first place you must have quite a lot going for you (we PUAs are very picky - this is one of the first things we tell a girl!) so you'll do fine with men in the long run.

Also, K, there are 2 girls on here?? I know "girls are like buses" is an overused and vomit-inducing cliche, but this sort of thing is straight out of Family Guy

Really good to have adivce from people who can think the same way he does, all my girl friends can come up with is 'hes no good for you'. You have all cleared up and clarified everything so well! and thanks again for listening to me moan!

Flake, think ill give that a try, even if you do make it sound alot easier than it is! seeing him tomorrow in an attempt to see how nieve i am really being! But Blanca, I know that what you are saying is correct. I need to be willing to loose him as a best friend to get him, or not! Attraction is unfortunately not a choice, ignoring him and getting over him is easier said than done! he rarely contacts me so im sure he cant be bothered to chase me..even if i am amazing !

Would be interesting to hear another girsl point of view on the game, i dont know any other girls who are aware of it....could you show me her post please?

In the mean time, if any clever puas need a wing girl in wales lol or want to come and help me DHV.....only joking..thanks again!

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