I've had this a couple of times now - at clubs and in general situations, where there's a girls who likes me, but who purposly talks to other guys in front of me in order to make me jelous.

I think that they did this in order to test how alpha, and protective I am; I think they wanted me to come over and butt into the conversation. However, if this is the case, it would be lowering my value because I am playing into her games. On the other hand, she could also be doing it to make sure I'm not too needy, and am OK with her chatting to other guys - therefore not wanting me to come over. I think that this is less likely however.

I reacted by essentially ignoring her. I'm really not sure if this was the best tactic. I'm worried that it made me seem weak because she may have thought that I didn't have the courage/power to step in.

I'm really not sure on what the correct action is - I see advantages and disadvantages with either way. Any comments would be appreciated!

You have more than the two options she (and you) seem to think you do...Ignore it and you are a spinless wuss that doesn't have the balls to stand up and take what he wants. Walk over and try and assert yourself over the other guy/s and you come across as a brute...either way you come over as an emotionally weak and easily manipulated man.

There is a third option. And fuck it, it's the correct one...Don't play her game. make her play yours:

I'll put this in 'pua'...

Turn around. And bust open the nearest hottest all female 'set' in sight. Engage the entire group. Show her that two can play at that game and that she means nothing to you. Remind her that you ( a man of true value) won't compete with your fellow men for her attention but that she competes with other women for yours.

The guy she's started talking to will soon become literally invisable to her as she watches you slip through her fingers.

Some on this forum are gonna dismiss this post as mystery method BS. but take it from a guy who's dated enough insecure bints and ended up in enough night club scraps over dumb birds to know that the best thing you can do when a woman tries to make you jealous is to make her jealous right back. In a calm smart and socially assertive manner.

Anything else puts her in the driving seat. And we all know women can't drive, right?

And further more. Asserting yourself in this way sets the tone. And stands you in good stead. if you end up in a relationship with her she'll know that you aren't the kinda man it's a good idea to play childish games with. The fact that you can and will walk in favour of other women at the drop of the hat will go along way to keeping the bitch in line and ultimately getting you what you want from her... be that a snog, a fuck or a loving relationship.

Call a cab, put her in it, tell her if she wants to be havin convos with random lads, then she can come out with her mates.

dont get angry over it, it just is what it is.

"im not jealous, id just prefer a girl who has a bit more respect thats all, Bye now"

You need to give us a little more info about this. However I'm going to assume this is a girl that you've just met that night
If it is a girl who you're seeing then you need to explain that it is not cool and walk if she doesn't.

You are over analysing this. If they are attractive enough to be chatted up by you, they are attractive to be chatted up by another guy. There is no alpha test. Maybe trying to make you a little jealous but doubtful if you've just met them.

1. If another guy can wedge himself whilst you are talking to your girl you are obviously not holding her attention or getting close enough e.g. touching, eye-contact or physical contact. Focus on conversation and kino/contact so that she is intent on listening and enjoying your company.

2. You go to get a drink/talk to a friend/piss, come back and there's a guy chatting her up. Walk back up and continue the conversation like you're her mac-daddy boyfriend. Walk-up confident, sit down next to her, introduce youself to him like he should know who you are, and carry on the conversation where you left off. If he's sitting where you should be, put your hand on his shoulder and say something to the tune of "Excuse me champ I need to get back to [insert the girls name here]"

3. She turns around to have a long conversation with a guy or stops when walking/at the bar to have a conversation. I don't find this acceptable, so I don't stop for it, get your drink/ go to the toilet/ whatever, grab her arm and lead her to wherever it is you're going. If she's intent on chating to this guy them drop her there and then.

which is why u put them in a taxi & move on. and this doesnt happen to me btw, i think if im out with a girl she knows better

its mad to see the guys on here who have a plan & the guys who dont accept this shit.

plans are a waste of time, ur just delaying the inevitable

I learned pretty quickly plans are a load of shit. You cannot, and never will have an instant answer for every single scenario that could happen - so learn to trust your gut and fire on all cylinders.

Learn the foundations of PU, don't memorize the tips.

P.S - This has honestly never happened to me, and if it did I would just walk away and talk to other people. Probably not directly in front of her, but just vanish into a smog of partying and group socialising.

P.P.S - Getting her a cab Phil? You're such a sweetheart.

When I grow up I want to be Kowalski.

Reading this, it seems that you have got it in to your head that the woman decides which path and that your purpose it try and play catch-up.

"she does such-and-such and I need to react in a way that makes me look cool"

Dont do this. You will be caught up in a never ending frustrating chase.

Youre probably thinking wtf is he on about. Best way I can think of to describe it at this moment but I will say its about being and not doing

everyone says to make u jealous, i dont think girls try to make guys they just met jealous.

i just think they are talkin to other guys. just stop lurkin round them long enuf to even notice.