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Originally Posted by fail_force
I've had this a couple of times now - at clubs and in general situations, where there's a girls who likes me, but who purposly talks to other guys in front of me in order to make me jelous.
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You need to give us a little more info about this. However I'm going to assume this is
a girl that you've just met that night
If it is a girl who you're seeing then you need to explain that it is not cool and walk if she doesn't.
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Originally Posted by fail_force
I think that they did this in order to test how alpha, and protective I am; I think they wanted me to come over and butt into the conversation. However, if this is the case, it would be lowering my value because I am playing into her games. On the other hand, she could also be doing it to make sure I'm not too needy, and am OK with her chatting to other guys - therefore not wanting me to come over. I think that this is less likely however.
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You are over analysing this. If they are attractive enough to be chatted up by you, they are attractive to be chatted up by another guy. There is no alpha test. Maybe trying to make you a little jealous but doubtful if you've just met them.
1. If another guy can wedge himself whilst you are talking to your girl you are obviously not holding her attention or getting close enough e.g. touching, eye-contact or physical contact. Focus on conversation and kino/contact so that she is intent on listening and enjoying your company.
2. You go to get a drink/talk to a friend/piss, come back and there's a guy chatting her up. Walk back up and continue the conversation like you're her mac-daddy boyfriend. Walk-up confident, sit down next to her, introduce youself to him like he should know who you are, and carry on the conversation where you left off. If he's sitting where you should be, put your hand on his shoulder and say something to the tune of "Excuse me champ I need to get back to [insert the girls name here]"
3. She turns around to have a long conversation with a guy or stops when walking/at the bar to have a conversation. I don't find this acceptable, so I don't stop for it, get your drink/ go to the toilet/ whatever, grab her arm and lead her to wherever it is you're going. If she's intent on chating to this guy them drop her there and then.