Lmao can't make this shit up. She literally texted me "So I mean I had the best time today but I think we'd be better as mates, I hope that's okay".

Ah well unto the next one.

Do I feel like crying? Nope....maybe just a bit..... I am gonna find a pack of tissues

On reflecting here's where I fucked up:

I kept saying "Come to my crib" she was like I got to go to a dinner with my friends. I asked twice and the first time she said "what about if I wanted to play hard to get"

I should have said:
Life and uni is way too short for that and then gone in for a kiss.

I SHOULD HAVE LEAD HARDER

I kept asking her "Come to my crib", I should have said "We're going to play cards, we're going to my crib"
OR
"I don't like the toilets here, I am going to go pee at my crib, let's go"

My crib is like 2 mins from the bar.

and then I should have started walking because honestly while we were making out she was grabbing the top of my leg like near my crotch. I should have led harder obviously not forcing her physically just leading myself and she can follow or not. That's way better than asking her and waiting for her to lead.

Because looking at it now it was all token resistance, she never checked the time of her supposed dinner, she was so compliant, making out, holding hands and all that stuff.

Man I kept asking her to come rather than leading her. Oh my days wow. I was just trying to be polite and non needy.

Wow ok, I know what I did wrong now.

Been doing 1 a day for about 2/3 days now, I need to go out there and hit it hard.

If you had been a bit more subtle she may have come home with you but it might have resulted in that after whatever happened she still wouldn't want to see you again. There's no need to be pushy.

At the end she doesn't want to see you again and you knew already that it had ended a bit flat, that's how you predicted correctly what would happen next. Trust those feelings.

My last post was telling you to reduce the pressure by starting physical contact early before it gets awkward. Now you are trying to use the same ideas to apply more pressure. I know you wanna get laid a bunch but chill, look at how far you've come already. You'll be fine this is all gonna work out. You don't have to become a manipulator. This girl liked you.

If a girl says she can't stay out because she has to do something else, be chill about that. She has a life that has nothing to do to with some boy she just met. Just keep hanging out and having fun, maybe she'll cancel her possibly fake appointment maybe she won't, it doesn't matter. She could have been in your life for a while.

Extra advice: Don't let kissing in public get too raunchy and always be the one who breaks the kiss. You don't want to get them to horny on a barstool, is a bad idea and super adolescent. And being the one who breaks is a little tease. This is what "leave them wanting more is all about". And it preserves both her and your dignity, which she will give you extra points for subconsciously.


Peace,

kowalski

Kowalski, thank you so much for the advice man. I had written a reply earlier when I posted the thanks but my laptop turned off suddenly.
I hear your advice so much man, I just kinda knew that she wouldn't call back, I don't even know how but yhhh I just kinda knew. I let myself on the date get a bit too horny and too excited and I shouldn't have kissed her so much in the bar to be honest as you said. Man yh I really should have chilled out

Thank you so much for the encouragement dude, it really really really helps. Going out each day, coming home writing the mini reports is so much easier knowing that others are reading and encouraging. Just want to say thanks for that. I will chill out, hang out with these girls and just focus on having fun. I do wanna get laid but I definitely need to just chill out and enjoy the whole thing as you've said.

I went out today and did 6 approaches, I got the number of a chinese girl on my course. I sent her a message and she replied, I asked her to grab a quick coffee and now I'm just waiting for a response.

I should have a date on Friday, with a girl I met almost 2 weeks ago and I will focus on just having fun and chilling out with the girl.

Anytime I go out and just do 1 approach I hate it hahahahaha so tomorrow gonna go hard again and hopefully this time do about 10

Hey guys did 6 approaches, got the contact details of one chick. I asked her out for coffee she said yes but then she mentioned she's off to Ireland for 2 weeks so ah well. I hung out with my friends, 2 of em girls. Man I just recently discovered about teasing girls and how much they love it, I think i was a bit overboard with one of the girls. She said "why are you always so hard on me" I felt pretty bad, basically we hung out drunk and played cards and just bantered, I am going to apologise and just chill with her. Anyways guys got a busy weekend, I'm out Friday and Saturday with friends and it's a mixed group so should be good, Ive got a date tomorrow with a girl from an old.workplace. I'm really not bothered about the date, I don't find her that attractive but ah well I can post us doing something fun on my Snapchat. Thanks guys!

6 approaches, didn't really hook, new reference experiences but just kinda shitty

Went out 2 days in a row, man it was crazy. Didn't get laid thought I had pulled but alas it wasn't so hahahahahahahaha

Anyways went out properly for the first time today to do daygame, did like 5 approaches. Got the number of a hot chick, we'll see if she responds and comes out to a short coffee date. Apart from that got a second date on Friday with the indian chick i met 2 weeks ago, i will try and pull her back to my crib after exploring the lights in the city.

Also as I am doing more approaches, I am starting to realise that all I need to get girls is:
Confidence
Being able to make myself laugh/have fun
Complete non-neediness.

I am seeing it bit by bit each day, I just gotta keep going out and staple it within me.

Thanks guys!

Dude, I've read some of your lig, and can I say out refreshing it is to see someone taking action and actyally doing a log on getting girls and not on 101 other random bits of pseudo Internet or career based bullshit.

I'm going to be starting my own soon, with a recap of lay reports from the past.

Keep it going, and don't fucking settle, no matter what.

Trooper

Gay.


Peace,

kowalski