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Originally Posted by kowalski
If you had been a bit more subtle she may have come home with you but it might have resulted in that after whatever happened she still wouldn't want to see you again. There's no need to be pushy.
At the end she doesn't want to see you again and you knew already that it had ended a bit flat, that's how you predicted correctly what would happen next. Trust those feelings.
My last post was telling you to reduce the pressure by starting physical contact early before it gets awkward. Now you are trying to use the same ideas to apply more pressure. I know you wanna get laid a bunch but chill, look at how far you've come already. You'll be fine this is all gonna work out. You don't have to become a manipulator. This girl liked you.
If a girl says she can't stay out because she has to do something else, be chill about that. She has a life that has nothing to do to with some boy she just met. Just keep hanging out and having fun, maybe she'll cancel her possibly fake appointment maybe she won't, it doesn't matter. She could have been in your life for a while.
Extra advice: Don't let kissing in public get too raunchy and always be the one who breaks the kiss. You don't want to get them to horny on a barstool, is a bad idea and super adolescent. And being the one who breaks is a little tease. This is what "leave them wanting more is all about". And it preserves both her and your dignity, which she will give you extra points for subconsciously.
Peace,
kowalski
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Kowalski, thank you so much for the advice man. I had written a reply earlier when I posted the thanks but my laptop turned off suddenly.
I hear your advice so much man, I just kinda knew that she wouldn't call back, I don't even know how but yhhh I just kinda knew. I let myself on the date get a bit too horny and too excited and I shouldn't have kissed her so much in the bar to be honest as you said. Man yh I really should have chilled out
Thank you so much for the encouragement dude, it really really really helps. Going out each day, coming home writing the mini reports is so much easier knowing that others are reading and encouraging. Just want to say thanks for that. I will chill out, hang out with these girls and just focus on having fun. I do wanna get laid but I definitely need to just chill out and enjoy the whole thing as you've said.
I went out today and did 6 approaches, I got the number of a chinese girl on my course. I sent her a message and she replied, I asked her to grab a quick coffee and now I'm just waiting for a response.
I should have a date on Friday, with a girl I met almost 2 weeks ago and I will focus on just having fun and chilling out with the girl.
Anytime I go out and just do 1 approach I hate it hahahahaha so tomorrow gonna go hard again and hopefully this time do about 10