Did like 6 approaches today, only really one of them hooked. Ah well unto the next reference experiences.
Tomorrow I am going work on:
Being calm and just talking.
Talk slower
Sometimes I have the habit of putting on a performance. That needs to stop.

Hey guys, did like 6 approaches today. I was relaxed and they went ok. Got some good reference experiences and the sets hooked.

Good experience: got the contact details of a girl and arranged to meet her next Tuesday so should be ok.

Things I am going to work on:
Remember NEVER open from the back.
Remember be congruent with how you really feel. Don't try to act.
Just say and talk based on what you really think and how you really feel.

Things I did well:
You were pretty congruent and started talking.

One set that stands out:
Girl walking towards me in shopping aisle.
I open her with a comment on her clothing. Conversation starts flowing and she's asking questions.
It was just flowing and got her number.
She said something like 'It's good to be confident'. Again, it just shows how important it is to meet new women and not over invest in the OLD ones.

Hey guys, went out 4 days. Did 1 approach a day.

Today, I went out did about 10 approaches.

Got my first fake number hahahahahah I knew the set was a bit off and it wasn't solid tbh.

In other news, I got a date with the girl I met in the last post on Friday.
Got another date tomorrow with a different girl that I met today.
Got a date on Wednesday with a girl I met 2 days ago.

So yeah, let's go. Good reference experiences and just building momentum.

Also went clubbing with the girl that friendzoned me and her friend. She was more physical with me, hugging and she tickled me without initiaiting. To be honest, I am gonna chill with her. It's so obvious that I am chasing her and I don't really like that. I will post snaps as I go on my dates, then I will probs message her on Friday.

Your sustained effort in this reminds me of myself circa 2014/2015 (with a few more short bursts here and there since).

Keep it up, man. Have you tried "you look fun to talk to"?

Hey Dan, thanks so much for commenting! I am willing to try anything tbh, I will give it a shot when I go out tomorrow?

I went out with the girl from yday. Man we walked, rode around on our bikes and she came back to my flat and we started drinking.

I tried to escalate and kiss her but she wasn't into it. I think I shouldn't have escalated but man, she came to my crib and we were drinking. It's just hard to not escalate in that situation.

Ah man, whenever I go on a date with a girl and bring her back to my crib. If I don't hook up with her I always feel like I failed, which I know is not true. I think after getting friendzoned by those other girls, I am just so wary of over investing into a specific woman.

Is it really normal to hook up with girls on a first date? Man I just feel like I'm rushing it. I'm so not used to it at all.

Anyways I have another date tomorrow but she hasn't confirmed. I am kinda happy, after my date I only was able to do 2 approaches. If I don't go on a date tomorrow, I will make sure to approach at least 10 women. Anyways thanks for listening guys, appreciate it

I was tempted to say "don't," but on the other hand I'd like to see someone actually pull it off.

Yes. There's not really a golden rule here other than doing less things "wrong" than right.

You are doing really great out there. It's inspirational.

It's not abnormal to hook up on the first date, but don't worry about it. If you don't think it's already going that way maybe don't take them to your flat.

You didn't say what else happened earlier so I'm gonna guess maybe nothing. When did you first go to kiss her? Ideally kiss your date when you meet up, classic gentlemen's hello - hand on her waist and a peck on the cheek. Take her hand when you walk or offer her to hook your elbow. If you're sat talking, touch her leg when you tell a joke or when she does (lol that won’t happen girls aren't funny). Etc. etc.

Basically be physical from the beginning.

She is on a date with you, so unless she's evil she's interested. I don't think you got friendzoned so much as you just didn't make it comfortable and smooth... and maybe she won't give you another chance and maybe she will.

Try make a move earlier than goodbye at the tram stop or already at or out front of one of your homes. Especially inside your home she will feel pressure that maybe this could escalate quicker than she would want it to. What if she doesn’t like your kiss then what is she gonna do? How is she gonna leave? What if then you are stubborn or are you gonna be angry or manipulative? She doesn’t know, she doesn’t know you at all. It really is a lot of pressure for a girl. If you are already kissing and then go home together it's a whole different thing.


Peace,

kowalski

Thanks so much for writing this out Kowalski, it's much appreciated! I am going on a date this Friday and I will try be physical right from the beginning.

Did about 5 approaches yday, got 1 snapchat. Spoke to her, will hopefully arrange date next week.

Did about 8 approaches today, didn't really hook well. Till the end and I spoke to the sexiest Spanish I have probably ever seen. The set hooked and I got her contact details.

BUT MAN i messed it up after getting the details.

Me: Hey Maria, cool meeting you today.
Me: Here's another bit of Spanish I remember
Me: Que Lo Que Mamiiiiiiiii <--- This is like catcalling in Dominica, I shouldn't have said it, it's just so low value.
Her: Hahahaha that's so Dominican

Plus on my snapchat, the video I had was kind of ridiculous. It was a video of me and my friend we were chilling and then I start laughing a bit randomly at the end.

Yeah man I shouldn't have said that, she was replying pretty quickly before and now she's taking a while to reply.
Someone told me that 'When you try to specifically hit on a girl it doesn't work', I know that yet I still sent that stupid message. It's just so annoying to put all the work in, go out, spend time travelling to different shops and just mess it up like that, Jesus.

Anyways, got to hope she replies and I will just play it completely chill.

Tomorrow is another day, thanks guys

Yoooooooooooooooooooooo Kowalski!! I followed what you said, bro I went out with this girl I met, I don't even know when I met her but it was fun at the end. I hugged her, I am not gonna lie I took a few shots before the date, I know I have to stop this but man I had so much fun. Now I am blasting music.

Yeah I started off the date physically hugging her and shit, then we went to a coffee shop and I was just talking, then after coffee shop we went to a bar and I got a drink.

Lmaoooo so now I am in my element, we started drinking and we play some silly thumb war game, basically after first round we touch foreheads after second round we touch noses and i use this as opportunity to make out heavily. She's into it and giggling and shit, I ask her to come to my crib but she say something like "What about if I am trying to play hard to get", I am drunk so I don't have a good retort for this. I just smile cos when I am drunk I smile and laugh a lot, we keep making out and she's laughing. I walk her to accommodation, we make out again and she says "I should text her". So yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh that's me.


Wow guys!!!! I made out with a girl and she loved it!!, Oh My Dayssssssssssssss. Physical contact guys! Yay! Thanks to Kowalski and everyone. Man I will message her sometime, I think I am going out tonight so yeah I will definitely remember to snap of that. Man yeahhhhhhhh, hahahhaah I am happy that I got some physical contact in

BUT WHO KNOWS EH

Maybe she blocks me and never responds to my messages again Ah welllllllllllllllllllllll, I still got a great reference experience.