The only thought of pickup I had in my mind before I went out last night was something that stuck in my mind from the blueprint decoded. Tyler tells us that you need to understand you don't need a pickup guru or any routines, lines or tactics. There's no tactic!
Understand that your personality alone is enough.
So with that in mind I went forth. At the beginning of the night I felt off. I talked over my mates then apologised. Then I didn't get a chance to say what it was I was going to say. I made a joke that fell flat. Nothing was hitting at all. But I'm realising now this is normal early on in the night. I'm also realising the worst thing you can do at this point is to go in your head in an attempt to 'fix' or control things. Just stay present. Things are what they are. Feel yourself breathing. Stare vacantly into the distance. Do not think!
As the night progressed I was social and chatting to anyone. There were two interactions worth describing.
1- I chatted to this blonde girl in the smoking area. She was tipsy and giggling. I was laughing at her laughing which made her laugh, etc. She ended up hanging onto my arm. It was like I was the oak tree and she was the squirrel running around. It was cool.
A guy appeared and asked what was going on (not in an aggressive way). But he quickly realised I was a cool guy and didn't feel threatened by him. Because of that he didn't feel threatened by me either or over react and everything was just fine. I was happy with the way things were.
2 - Two brunettes seated on bar stools at a table. They see me approach and I go around behind so I'm standing between them (not leaning over their table). I introduce myself to the first girl, hand shake, names. We have a chat then I turn to her friend and do the same thing. Only this one doesn't let go of my hand. So what starts out as a handshake turns into just holding hands. I can't remember what we talked about. I was getting a rush from the contact and I assume she was as well.
I was holding her hand and speaking to her friend at the same time. Keeping them both happy. It was like we were now in our own little bubble, on the same team. I left after maybe 5 minutes. I went back 20 minutes later and we had a similar interaction to the first time.
I didn't go for numbers because I didn't want to go in my head to think the logic of how to do it. In any case, I would prefer to get to the point where they are offering me their number.
I'm feeling very positive about everything today