I was out in London tonight.

First bar, hardly any women. Talking shop and drinking with my colleagues.

They left, I headed home but decided to try a bit of solo on the way.

Second bar, two women chatting together at the bar talking in Spanish. I got closer and closer but waited too long, overthought and shit out of talking to them. Had a chat with the barman instead. They left.

When I was about to leave this tall beautiful girl came up to order drinks for her and her companions.

Me: Hi, so you must be a model?

Her: No (laughs embarrassed), I could probably earn more money doing that.

Me: Not even part time?

Her: No...I wish.

Me: Well you should be cause your are stunning.

She says thanks, blushes and collects her drinks and goes back to her friends.

Third bar, went for a wander. There's a free table and I sit down. Soon, three women sit down at the free seats at my table. It sounds like they are talking in Spanish. I start talking to one of them.

Me "Do you speak English?"

Her "I'm Italian"

Me" Oh, I wasn't sure, are you here on holiday?"

Her "No I live here"

Me" ah, ok"

There was a lull. There were two mature women (nearer my age) and a younger one who was very hot.

The one who lives here and the hot one went away (to order food and drinks at the bar I expect) and the mature one who didn't live here was alone. I asked her name.

Me and Silvia had a 10 minute conv about Italy (I've been there once). She showed me some photos of her on the beach (with her man unfortunately). But she was nice.

When the others came back with there food I took it as a sign for me to fuck off. So I said bye to them all and left.

Not all bad.



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my analysis of tonight..

For some reason I assumed the 'model girl' was with a guy, but I didn't look to see or ask so I don't know. I flattered her and got a decent response from her but didn't follow up on it.

At the third bar the two mature women were not available / not interested. But the young hottie did throw me a few glances. She was kinda interested. I didn't have a clue how to get her away from the main cockblocker (the one who lives here and saw herself as protecting the others, especially the young hottie). I didn't see Silvia as a cockblocker as I'd already connected with her and we were cool.

Grateful for any suggestions.

I'm posting a day game follow up to this report seperately.

sorry about the multiple posts on this report, I'll avoid that in future.

There was another interaction on that night (Thursday) that I forgot to mention.

As I was about to leave the third bar to go home when I passed a really cute girl at the bar trying to remove something that was stuck to the sole of her shoe. This gave me my opener so I approached and said how I hated it when you get chewing gum on your shoe.

she pointed out it wasn't chewing gum but a label or something. I responded that it didn't matter, because my reason for coming over was to tell her she was very cute.

I'm a bit hazy on what exactly happened after that. I think she said thanks, there was some eye contact, no talking. She had a nice face and body. I got a good feeling so I think I could have taken that further if I hadn't had so much to drink. Maybe I used that as an excuse (i.e. ejecting for fear of screwing up). I think I said have a good night and ejected.

Although I was a bit under the weather the next morning (I sat up half the night writing the report) I was still buzzing so I decided to try some day game. I'll do a single post on a separate thread of what happened on the day thing.

On night game, using alcohol to reduce AA and ejecting early seem to be my main problems at the moment. But I think I'm taking baby steps to get a few positive experiences under my belt to help with my confidence with talking to women I don't know, which was pretty much zero a few months ago.

Thanks, that's useful. I'll concentrate on upping the number of approaches.

Nothing too exciting to report. But I've noticed quite a shift in my attitude toward women. I don't go out to pull, I go out to have fun and women are a bonus. I want to have fun with them too.

In my local tonight I got a really strong eye contact from this woman. She was with a guy so I didn't engage with her but it's weird how I'm getting this sort of thing now that I didn't before. I think women are psychic.

I can be walking past a women and stop her for a chat. It seems quite easy (after a few drinks). Before I would have put it off until 'next week'. This is a vast improvement for me.

I also go in with a much more fun attitude. I'll say something totally stupid (in a fun way, not rude or disrespected) just to see their reaction and get some interaction going. If they respond it can go on for a long time. I'm still a bit shy on closing.

The advice and encouragement on this forum has made a big difference so thanks.

I'm probably going to get a name for doing this but I've got an adjunct to the previous post on last night. It's just some more detail that might be useful and / or entertaining depending on whether you're a beginner like me or a master. With my usual ..stuff in brackets.

Anyway here goes...

Start of the night I see a woman who looks my type (that is.. hot, sexy, beautiful, cute, etc) come into the bar with her man. I immediately switch off cause she's taken. But she's sexy.

Where I stand happens to be a good place cause it's on the route to the ladies toilets. I'm chatting with my mates and maybe 20 mins later she comes around past me to go powder her nose.

The only way I can describe the EC she gives me is it's like in 3 seconds she has undressed me with her eyes. So I'm now in state for the night, thanks for that luv.

I can't wait to get to the next bar cause there's no available women in this one. We get there and I'm tempted to stand at a table near the toilets but don't. Instead we stand at the end of the bar where there is very little passing female traffic.

There's no women in range, so I gradually move along the bar until I'm next to two women, one of which is ordering drinks.

Me: Mines a Budweiser
Her: she stares at me (is this guy trying to bum a drink or is he being cheeky)
Me: do you think I'm joking? (smiling, laughing)
Her: getting attended to and ordering her drinks
Me: I turn to her friend, who is the one closest to me and say 'why won't she buy me a drink'
Her: I would buy you one but I have to keep the taxi money
(I realise at this point that I've probably carried the joke a bit far and my smile and laugh didn't help)
Me: Do I really look like the kind of man who can't afford a drink?
Her laughs...no
Me: you don't need a taxi tonight, my place is within walking distance of here
Her: hysterical laughter.
They go back to their seats smiling.

I went outside for a ciggie and had a deep conversation with the girl who is one half of the bar security team. She was sober as a judge obviously. I talked about my desire to stop smoking. I hate talking about myself to women but I kind of went down that rabbit hole. Anyway she was cool. After 10 mins I started wondering if I should NC but I thought "no don't".

I spoke to a few women inside, just passing them I'd say, "hi how's it going?" nothing really materialised from that although everyone was happy. I think when you do that with energy it helps the vibe in the place in general to be good.

Outside again (all my most interesting interactions seem to have been outside smoking and I want to stop, bit of a paradox there!)

These two hot girls come outside and I open them. I don't know how but I know it was well within the 3 second limit. I just said something. 15 seconds later the 3 of us are rolling around with laughter (the wonders of booze).

I ask their ages, one is 22 and the other is 23 years old. They are both fit. The 22 year old was absolutely gorgeous. The other one had a stud in her nose. I asked if it was a diamond cause it looked like a diamond and she said it was fake (howls of laughter all round again).

They both ended up hugging me and kissing me on the cheek before they headed off to somewhere else.

There was a woman in their that I spoke to 2 weeks ago. She's kind of hot and at one point she was laughing with her friends but was giving me EC.

Out of the doldrums I was in a few months back I feel t's all to play for now. Just need to keep making the effort.

Went down the local town tonight.

England game on in local pub. Bit of a sausage fest but one beauty (think of a Singapore airlines stewardess) with her friend and two guys opposite at a table so assumed a foursome date. I wanted her.

Me standing at bar and she appears beside to order drinks, we EC and she smiles, I smile back but say fuck all.

I watch and the two guys disappear (lesson...never assume). A few AFC's try it on but she's not for it. I was gonna approach but I notice by now she's talking with her friend and crying, dabbing eyes with hanky. Instinct told me not to approach a highly emotional woman, even if she's gorgeous.

Moved on to the busiest bar in town where the pussy is. Decided just to socialise not game.

Talked to a lot of people, both guys and girls. Helped a Canadian woman who bought a load of drinks at the bar carry them back to her table, then I sat down with them. Her friends were a gay guy and two other women.

They were all really pissed as they were on a after work do drinking from 5pm. The Canadian woman and one of her friends just wanted to dance all the time (not great dancers) the other one was not great looking and miserable. I tried to cheer her up but she wasn't having it. Ended up having debate about Scottish independence with the gay guy (I'm Scottish originally).

Saw one girl dancing who was really good. When she went back to her table I went over, tapped her on the shoulder and told her she was good. She seemed really pleased because she said her friend was trained and she wasn't. She also pointed out her massive boyfriend was just behind her (thanks for the warning).

Talked to three young guys who were body builders and drinking Jaeger shots. They seemed to know anything cool that was going on in town and when. (My new mates?)

Talked to a school teacher who said she loved my accent. She was so drunk she fell asleep with her head on my shoulder. I put her in a chair and got security to call her a cab.

Stood outside for a while and chatted to the smokers but didn't have one myself though liked breathing in the fumes (I'm trying to quit at the mo).

When the lights went up I didn't wait for the chucking out nonsense and headed home happy.

Down local town again tonight. Just socialising no gaming.

It felt like I took two steps backward.

I was expecting this to happen at some point because things had been moving forward quite well recently.

I know part of it is the nicotine withdrawal as I've been trying to quit smoking the last two weeks. The patches don't seem to give enough of the drug and I felt irritable all day.

Beer didn't help and I was sending out the totally wrong vibe for being social. I felt that everyone apart from my mates avoided engaging with me. That's normal when you're a stranger but usually I can persevere and overcome that... not tonight.

It didn't help that the bar was rammed and cock heavy. Very few accessible women in there.

The only person I ended up getting on with was the bars resident amog.

another day tomorrow and back on the path, probably with the help of cigarettes, at least for now.

Down the local town tonight again (Saturday).

I had a shit night on Friday so was determined to redeem myself tonight.

It wasn't too bad overall. I learned something about myself.

First I went to a bar I hadn't been in before. There was a wedding reception going on. I was literally the spare prick at the wedding. Total shit so I didn't even finish my drink and headed to somewhere else.

Met up with my mates and we headed to another bar where a live band was playing. There were some women in there who were desperate for a man, I could tell that the way they were looking around.

I'm not that confident a guy and don't consider myself very good looking but I think I was probably the best available prospect in that place.

But the women in there were either unavailable or they were too self-conscious to actually engage in conversation with a stranger. I didn't try very hard though to engage with them.

It wasn't a pickup bar.

Still it's encouraging when you walk into a new environment and you get signals from women that they are interested, even if it's not leading to anything at the moment.
At the third bar we ended up at a woman kept eyeing me and I thought she looked very good. She was with her friend and I overthought the approach.

My first thought was to go over and say "you know you like me and I like you so let's just have a chat and get to know each other" but I totally crapped out of doing it. It's a gut-wrenching feeling.

The main difference from the last weekend is I did some cold approaches in the daytime / weekdays and I was much more confident.

I seem to need to really tested myself in the daygame to give me the confidence to approach in the night time. And It seems to work.

So now I know what I have to do.