I suppose a little update is due.

My last lay was the American girl in 2012 (yes 3 years ago) and I met her online.

I read somewhere if you have more than 3 priorities you have none.
My first priority is to play the field, to fuck women.

My view has changed massively in the last 12 months.
When I first read the game back in December 2010 I quickly got into the whole night-game thing.
This is what the game was promoting and people like RSD. I generally hated it.


Nightgame:
A bar is all about being with your mates and having a laugh and having a drink.
Alcohol is great for having fun but terrible if you're trying to learn new behaviours (ie picking up girls)

Daygame:
You don't need to drink to talk to girls in the street in fact it's considered normal.
Because you're not drinking you can observe your emotions.

So I started day-game last year and I felt massive improvements.
So far this year, I turned 37. I have made out with more women than in all the previous 36 years put together.
There are improvements. Not just this but I am more confident and know my mind better.

The last month or so...

My mate went to Slovakia for a month or two (multi-lingual type and wants to improve his Slovakian).
I asked my work if I could work remotely for a week in Slovakia, my boss said ok.

So I went. On the Saturday I was walking around loads as my mate was doing other stuff.
I honestly felt like it was a bit quiet and shit and I wasn't going to speak to any girls.

Later than night I met my mate and we had a nice pub meal and 3 pints. I haven't really been drunk in a year but tonight was going to be a blast.
We ended up in a nightclub dancing until 3am doing crazy dance moves (probably my best night out this year).
At one point a fat girl pushed me into her fit friend. I held her and danced a little bit with her (thanks Ceroc days).
She asked me my age, I said guess, (girls generally say I look early 30's, as I handsome man), I said 37 and I think she's shocked.
Anyway I snog her on the dance floor (thanks day game) and she nearly sucks my face off. I didn't think she was that drunk but later in the night she collapsed and her mate led her out.


The next day I met a 19 year old girl I matched off Tinder. She was fucking nuts, at one point I asked her if she had been tied up before. I liked her and kissed her in the lift.
The following week I worked. The women in Slovakia are fucking amazing, I've never seen so many sexy women. They are feminine and in shape. A world apart from the masculine and overweight women of the west.
I met the 19 year old again later in the week, she had already had half a bottle of wine. She was fucking nuts trying to make me smoke, As we were sitting I was holding her ass and I grabbed the back of her head and kissed her.
She told me her dad was an ass hole and we spoke about fucking on the balcony. I told her were were leaving. We left. I was trying to walk her to my apartment and she knew it. She walked off to another bar and I said I'm not going I have to work tomorrow.
She said 'bye' and walked in. I didn't follow and I didn't see her again.

This bit is important:
On the last Sunday I was there I felt like shit. My mate had gone to Austria and I was alone and I felt I hadn't met enough women though day game.
I was walking around town in the morning before and went to the castle, I saw a girl with a camera and I should have spoken to her as she gave me a glance.

I went to McDonalds and have a greasy burger. I felt low and shit, but I knew intellectually there was nothing stopping me from approaching women and I was aware my emotions could change very quickly (
This is real beauty of day game compared to a bar when you're drunk. When you're drunk and in a bad mood, there is no way you're mood is going to flip to a positive one).
I set myself a goal of talking with at least 2 women in the shopping centre before I left. In the end I spoke to 3 and 6 in total in the space of an hour.

1st girl:
So went to a shopping centre and asked a girl if she spoke English, she said no, I ignored her and asked her the time and she told me.

2nd girl:
Tall blonde in shopping centre, went direct, said said good bye and waved at me. I was feeling shaky, like I wanted to escape the shopping mall.

3rd girl
Went direct, her english was bad but I kept her there for a bit even though it felt awkward.

4th girl
Got on bus to leave shopping mall as I got off went direct, she said thx and walked off.

5th girl
I trailed a girl and asked if I could walk with her, she looked a bit weirded out and I clarified I thought she was cute. She was dutch and worked at the embassy. I got bored of trailing so told her to stop, she couldn't so I said bye.

6th girl.
Saw a petite blonde across the road. Followed and ran and stopped her. It and she was beautiful. I don't remember the detail but it all came together.
It's such a quiet place compared to London I saw a couple of guys stop and just look in my peripheral vision. I felt a little scared and vulnerable, that's why it worked.
She suggested we go for coffee we did. As we sat and talked out heads were close and we had amazing eye contact.

She had to go to church, she offered I go in with her but I said no. I took her number. We've been chatting a lot of whatsapp and I'm going back to Bratislava in 2 weeks. We should meet, if we don't I'll still enjoy myself.

So that's a snapshot of my life now.

It's a good thing you pushed yourself to approach. Always do that cause you never know what might happen. However, I think you should have reopened the 4th girl even though she walked away. Persistence is a good tool.

You have transformed since turning to daygame.

I know some guys can get laid consistently once they figure out night game and probably quicker than in daygame. I'm not knocking nightgame at all. I think as Stein pointed out on here once it can be an efficient way to get laid.

Unfortunately I kept repeating the same "failure behaviours" (under the influence of alcohol) so I am 100% in agreement with your observation. The worst part is I know I fucked up dozens of chances. I got lucky twice in twenty years (pre-game). Both me and the girl were pissed so I don't remember much. It was fun just not often enough and they chose me. I can still have the odd night time blast occasionally but it's not the main option for meeting girls. I do believe the two can compliment each other in terms of better social skills and confidence.

You have to play to your strengths, which you are now doing and it's working. Daygame is working for me too. Keep it up dude.

good read mate as always
I still don't really get natural cross my path conversation v forced daygame

it seem all the protagonists on here are sporadically posting up cycles that they are kings followed by crashed confidence/doubts seeping from every pore, cos it's not deep, lasting change

glad you have been getting success though fella and I wish you much more- btw never would have guessed you were late 30s !

An update for 2016.

I met the girl in Bratislava again when I went back. I like her and she likes me but we live a long way apart. She's learning English so sometimes I help her out. I told her about Spam and she playfully misheard it as Sperm... (If feels so much fun to be with a pretty girl being naughty). We're still in contact, she might come to London in the spring.

So since then...
Met an Argentine girl, escalated pretty quickly, hugging and went for a kiss. She had to go back to her hostel.

I made out with a Chinese girl on an instant date 20 minutes after meeting her or so. I probably pushed the boat too far.
But that's fine, after 37 years of not trying, I don't mind pushing things too far.

The week after Chinese girl I meet a beautiful Italian lady and we spend much of Sunday together.
I decided not to push too hard with her (I'd say this is calibration (sorry for PUA lingo)).
She's went back home of Xmas so I might see her again in a week or two.

Was chatting with Argie girl and we both said we'd be in Berlin after Xmas. I said maybe we'd meet, maybe we wouldn't.
If I'm honest I was mainly going there to see her.

When I was in Berlin (for 5 days), it became clear I wouldn't meet argie girl so I had to make the most of it.
On my 2nd day I decided to try day game but ended up walking around the same part of town for a few hours and felt very low.

Back in my room I started to reflect on my mood. ( I think the great thing about travelling and being solo is you have time to reflect).
I found this really good article:
How to deal with the feelings of loneliness brought on by anxiety - Calm and Courageous

It made me think we all need real social connections. Whatsapp, Facebook, this forum is no substitute for that.
I decided to make a plan for the following day, to visit various museums & go on a tour of a WW2 underground shelter (was amazing btw) .
I also planned to go to a couch-surfing meeting that evening.

I did all those things and had a wonderful day.
The following day was NYE and I went to another couch-surfing event. I met a really cool English guy and some other semi-cool people.
We watched the fireworks being set-off in every street in Berlin was so amazing.


I came back to London and met up a mate and did a little DG on Sat (anything in moderation is okay).
I spoke to 3 girls and got 2 numbers.

Sunday:
I've had two pretty 25 year old Spanish couch-surfers staying at mine, they cooked me nice food.
Later I met the Taiwanese girl and we kissed at the end (not tongues, I am saving it for the bedroom).
We discussed meeting next weekend. I think she's going to break my dry spell lads. (I love setting myself up for a fall! )

2016 is going to be an amazing year.

PS another observation. I am now of the opinion the stronger the emotions in life you're having the more authentic life you're living. I want the highs and I accept I'll also have the lows. The key is knowing I don't have to attach myself to these.

The kiss was that good eh


This really resonated with me

I ended my long dry spell last week. It was a girl from South Korea, we had met the week before.
It went a bit like this:
I asked her to meet me in Canary Wharf (close to where I live).
Took her for coffee
20 minutes later lead towards a bar (close to my place).
On the way to bar admire the view on the thames at night, feel it's on so kiss her.
Tell her there is beer in my fridge so we skip the bar.
Make out with her on my sofa, get her in bed but she won't go the full way, her friend will worry if she comes back late.
See her a couple of days later, she puts up a lot of resistance but I push past it and we both enjoy sex.

She's going back to South Korea and asks if I want to keep in touch. She might come back for a scholarship.
I tell her I'm not looking for anything serious and im seeing other girls. She says it's fine (I think she knew all along, I didn't hide anything).

Other girls.
Argie girl - timer waster.

I've also seen the Tawainse girl for a 2nd date and we kissed again, we were going to go back to mine but it was late. (It seems on with her).

Met the Italian girl again, I actually didn't recognise her (I thought who is that hot girl). Went for coffee, seems on but im not so sure.

Turkish girl wanted to see me friday but I told her no as I was too shagged out (okay didn't say that but I did turn her down).

Off for a mountain bike ride this weekend, looking forwards to the break.
Longer term I'm not sure I'll be able to stick at my job, maybe if I can do it remotely.
(I'm normally more reflective than this, but I thought I'd post this anyway)

So last night I banged the 23 year old Tawainse girl. In the end she was pretty easy put up literally no resistance. She's nice but I don't feel she's gf material.

Should be meeting the Italian girl this weekend.
Seeng the Turkish girl tomorrow.

At the moment I just wanna fuck lots of girls, simple as that really.

Dude on a roll !