I'm feeling like a bit of an AFC with this Blonde 7. We'll call her WB7, because her christian name begins with W.

WB7 and I met up when I was on match.com about 18 months ago. We went on one date, it went well (k-close), arranged to meet up a few days later but she stood me up. Deleted me from FB about 3 months later and dropped off the radar. I FB'd her about 2 months ago to try and relight this one, and we went out last week for AFC style dinner date, which went well.

She's coming to my town next week and my intention is to f-close her (it'll never happen in her town because she lives with her family).

I'm going to suggest "a bite to eat" at mine (not dinner) with a false time constraint- i.e., I have to be up early for work the next day so she can't stay long (she will have to as well). I have every reason to expect she'll say yes.

So, I've got her in my gaff and it's effectively date no. 3. But I need a few tips to encourage her to stay so that we can get nekked and have some fun. Any words from the wise?

u met her on match.com...

she is shagging.

dont try & hide what u want. Just say come to mine, ill cook for you... and i think its about time we jsut had an animal style fuck!

do u think when u ask her to come for food she doesn't know what ur after.

False time constraint wasn't necessary. In my experience a girl you made out with coming round your house is like code for 'we're going to fuck'. Eat, couple drinks, stick a film on or some shit, escalate and if it doesn't work chill for a bit then do it again. Wash rinse repeat.

tbh the false time constraint was counter productive, these things sometimes take a bit and get fucked up by rushing so I'd literally just ignore that and say you dont have to be in early anymore if the brings it up.

Stop thinking tactics too, she's at yours. All the heavy lifting's done, and thinking too hard is just going to get you in your head and mess it up. In short, relax and get your dick out.

this is nonsense, this is the difference between u being a bad ass & being a pest

if you escalate & she stops you... then just dont bother tryin again. Dont spend the night chasing the pussy.

just eat ur food... then send her home early. coz ur not a lap dog begging for a treat, ur both adults who know the score... if she wants to act like a child, send her home early like one.

DO NOT WASH RINSE REPEAT!!!

Personally I would say she's already made up in her mind whether she's going to fuck you or not, thought the chances are good if she's agreed to come round to yours for the evening, I would however point out 2 things.

Firstly you have dated her 18months ago and then again recently. She already has a perception of you. You can just switch all "pua tactics" on for 1 date as your behaviour will come across as erratic unless you are incrrdeibly confident.

Secondly and more generally girls who pay for dating websites such as eharmony and match.com are less likely to want to sleep around. As the websites are subscription based and you have to pay a decent sum of money, most girls on there will be looking for something a little more serious whereas Plenty of Fish has the slags. That's personally what i've found...

Disagree man, you're kind of talking in extremes

Sometimes some lasses need a bit to feel comfortable rationalize shit in their heads. But if you aren't overly attached and you're enjoying yourself then so what? There's nothing necessarily needy about that provided you're chill, it's not begging, just how it naturally goes with some birds.
What's wrong with being patient with people if you like them and you're enjoying yourself anyway? I personally think that's both more respectable and more likely to get you laid than to get all pissed off cos she didn't hop on your dick instantly, kick her out and have a wank like a bad ass.

exactly... so why keep tryin all night, why not just wait till next time u see her?


i never mentioned gettin pissed off. i just dont think adult women should be on a 3rd date or whatever still pretending like she is a virgin, and buying into that shit is the worst thing u can do... just say blatantly

Look, ur clearly not ready, shall we continue this next time. granted i havent had to deal with this much anymore...

infact what i tend to do, is kiss the girl... wait until its gettin really good... then stop

go back to what i was doing.

try doin this 3 or 4 times. see how u get on with tha! (usually i would do tha then send them home & just fuck them next time but its if you have got time since she is goin home + u known her for 18 months if she doesnt put out id just let it go)

but whatever you do, if she ever says NO STOP or slow down or anythin like tha... dont just keep tryin! get some self resepct.

i do remember recently actuall, the girl said to me You need to slow down your getting ahead of yourself. wernt even doin anythin

baring in mind i told her why i was goin around. so about 5 mins later i left. not seen her since. this woman was 38. i mean WTF!!!

its all a game for them. U take their ability to control the word no in the situation, u kill off their game.

become the woman in the situation, stop before she does.

Have to agree with Phil on this point.Dont care about getting laid (hard as it may be!!).I tried getting em horny then leave em hanging on friday,now being begged to go round and fuck her now!! So i say thumbs up to that.
Make your target having fun with her!!! if u have fun getting laid will follow!!
Maybe make it clear your not fussed about sex with her ie im a choosy guy i dont sleep with every woman that throws themselves at me.This line seems to be working well for me at the present anyways.
Keep us posted on how it works out

any more abbreviations you want to throw in there?
Stop calling it f-close and start calling it fuck or shag, you don't want to f-close them.

I'd definitely lean more towards what phil says, but there's certain situations that may not apply. It all has to do with how you're reading her, and if she's insecure enough to send mix signals. A 'no' from her mouth may not be correct if her actions and body language are saying yes (at which point lay off for a bit and try later), or the opposite may apply where she's complying verbally but seems cold or turned off, at which point why bother? Either way you've gotta play it by ear, and can really only bank on your personal experience.

Phil has more experience and knows what he wants in his girls so he won't put up with their BS, but I think thats because he's seen it all before and has gone through all of the bullshit to know not to put up with it... meanwhile some of us who've yet to still ought to/have to, so that we can firmly know we don't want to do that shit. Pretty much learning from mistakes.

...But then again, if she is insecure, you may not want to be around with her too much for fear of her becoming clingy