I understand where you are coming from phil but this isn't helping him.
Possibly the worst advice I ever got was just be yourself, be confident and be funny. No shit, I would have never worked that out myself. None of this helped obviously.
Look most of us have been where you are at some stage (maybe not self esteem issues, I've always been confident) but well chordy with women.
So first thing you take away from this is most of us start at exactly the same spot you are current in, if we can agree this we are making progress.
Its very possible has to be the first realisation. Walking up to HB10 in the street or club and seeing her shaved pussy the same night is a very real possibility and eventually you will look back and think wtf.
Second thing you really need to do is, stop beating yourself up, you can start doing this today and it does have to stop today. I’ve done and I’m sure if there is honesty everyone on here has done it. If you have to analyse a situation fine but don't start down the road of ‘ I should have or could have’.
if you are going through that amount of stress prior to a meeting her I’m sorry to say this but she would have blown you out anyway, it would have been written all over you and if you add in that you wanted to fuck her you might have even been put into the creepy box.
I'm not trying to kick you here just trying to illustrate the next stage.
There are two paths luke
inner game shit which is promoted quiet heavily on here it does work but it’s a long and boring path and it starts with 20 hours of intense boredom from the offset but in its defence does have the desired affect. You should familiarise yourself with Kowalski’s posts they are pretty good when he's not banging on about some profound shit or telling members what a cunt I am. Jays post are also worth a read the downside is he did tend to go on a bit.
The other path is what most
PUA’s do and that is simply to do it and keep doing it, she tells you to fuck off talk to her friend (yes I’ve done this), you get flaked, ring another girl, you can’t approach go out the next night and try again, etc, etc again and again and again...
There is a very intricate psychology to this and it works. Repartition and becoming desensitised to the outcome it will become second nature. So the first time you meet a HB10 you’ll fall apart like I did, once you’ve met 50 or so she’s just another girl with tits.
Let me give a very real example which might help, one of first girls I met I arranged to meet her in a park, I was pretty nervous and I just talked comfort shit the whole time, I was too afraid to esculate, she sent me a text later saying I was ‘really lovely' fucking lovely!!!! obviously that was the last txt I got.
The second time I met a girl I was slightly less nervous, the third a little bit less nervous, 4th 5th etc eventually I was kinoing then kiss closing and now if I meet a girl in the street I'll just kiss her within the first 5 minutes.
I hope this helps and I think I can see cracks in that brick wall.
EDIT I need to tidy the links up below there is one on flaking girls which you might find useful