Hi guys,

I have a dilemma. I'm in my third year of University and year 1-2 was rubbish because the people I used to live in NEVER went out, and the town was really dull. All the girls I met in my first 2 years of uni were from online dating. Now I live somewhere different and enjoy the people I live with.

I have no problem with girls in nightclub, but I'm looking for a proper relationship as when I graduate from uni, I won't be having time to do what I do now.


I've recently joined a lot of societies at uni, my favourite being Christian Union. The problem is I've only just started going and making friends with guys, I don't want to be seen as eager and pursuing lots of girls. It's not like theres one girl I find attractive, theres at least 4 single girls I find attractive. I would like to talk to all of them, because I don't want to be put in the friend zone, but I don't want it to be obvious I'm chatting up loads of girls, girls talk to each other.

Also when you first meet people at societies the questions asked both ways are always: "What course do you do?, what year are you in?, where do you live?" I need to think of what to say to get past that. It's different because I have no fear approaching girls in a club because I know I won't see them again even if I did fail, but I'd definitely see these girls around.

What should I do? I added some on Facebook but I don't want our first proper chat to be on Facebook and not in person, but meeting them once a week isn't enough to establish a relationship.

Hey dude

Throw up an intro in the intro section when you have time!

As for your current situation, you should chill out - don't get into a relationship for the sake of it or even convenience. Do it because you've met somebody that's worth committing to otherwise it's not fair on you and them and will lead to unhappiness on both parts

As for getting to know the girls there, introduce yourself like you did to the guys and just talk and flirt with them.
If you run routines and play games the girls will think your just playin whereas if your a cool social flirty guy, they're likely to want to spend more time with you.
And the once a week thing is a stupid restraint - if you get on with somebody you'll wan to meet up outside of that original setting. Stop making excuses and talk to them

Thanks for the advice, I will just be myself and see what happens.

My housemate is temperamental, when he feels like going out and getting girls, he will be enthusiastic about going out. When things don't go his way, he just says "I've got a girlfriend, I'm not going out."

So I don't go out clubbing as often as I would like, so societies are my main source of interaction.

Cheers!

jholliday200, I get the picture. All I know is that if you get a reputation for being up for casual sex, then they all want it, but some will not want it casual, maybe because they don't want to share you. This could be a good sign for what you are after...a good and faithful relationship. But I would add that if you do start a relationship with such then don't hold back or you will be creating a sham. Do what the porny thing you like, and she likes. Make sure it is as good as she or you could get anywhere.