I can understand that you are seriously fucking wrong. No disadvantage, only becomes a disadvantage if you perceive it to be and intergrate it into your frame of mind. The fact that you are not getting success is down to your attitude, you're just not open enough to see it.

Your problem is your own making.

No it is not a problem of my own making because during the years I used internet dating sites I must have sent out over 40,000 messages to women! Yet got very little response at all.

You don't seem to understand that if there are 4 guys or even just two guys to every one woman on a dating site then it is totally impossible for all those guys on that site to get a date with a woman on that site!

Women on dating sites do not even have to send out any messages as they get dozens of messages each day from men on those sites! They then sift through those messages to find the men they like best! Obviously they will choose the best looking and the richest! So if you are not extremely good looking and also rich you will not stand a chance on a dating site! I don't know how you can be so stupid to not understand that dating sites do not work for most men because there are simply not enough women to go around on them! Watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qe5_JK_LcEI

Are you a virgin?

I've given up on you, Stonecastle.
You are so stupid its untrue. It is your problem and it is your own making. I have 1-2 photos that aren't great. I still get women messaging me and REPLIES. That is through my attitude.

You are fucked up and beyond help because you can't see past your own sorrow and miss guidance. You really haven't got a clue.

done_with_this_thread

Well here is my POF profile, I don't think there is anything wrong with it, yet I get no messages at all from women on that site: stonecastle computers, cycling.

I think it is the people who are defending that website who are the idiots as they do not understand what Mathematical impossibility is! If there are more men than women on a dating site then it is impossible to pair up all the men on such a site with women from that site!

That's a terrible profile. Stonecastle if dating sites are bad, does this mean you are good with women in real life?

You haven't put anything in it. A bunch of loose words and statements. No full body photo gives the feeling that you dislike your body, if I come across a girl with only face photos it puts the interaction on a bad foot straight away but by no means irriversable.

You say your life is fun ect.. then totally contradict yourself by saying that you could talk about various things in your life but don't want to bore the reader. And then you only have 2 interests; cycling and computers. You constantly contradict yourself.

You say you could have done better in life if you tried but you've has a good life. Basically that says to me 'I am a guy who can't be fucked doing anything, I sit around all day with my finger in my arse and jacking off to porn. I am not a secure guy, I could have been great but I decided to sit in self pitty when things didn't work out and I gave up on life. I do everything the cheap way because I want to keep my money. So now I am looking for a girl who will look after me whilst I eat up all her money and drag her down to my level since my life is already over'.
Yeah and you're wondering why you don't get messages/dates ect... had a good life - are you dead or something?

You don't care if the woman isn't good looking.
That shows your values and the way you think of yourself as very weak. Also what girl is gonna message you saying 'I am butt fuck ugly'. Women actually care about themselves and their appearance. What girl is gonna give a guy a try when he'd probably date a monkey.


Tons of things are wrong with your profile. What I said above is just the tip of the iceberg. Your attitude it a huge problem. Your photos aren't too bad, just get a body shot in there or you out with friends.

The website is fine. Yes loads of people are on it but it is never impossible. You're the problem. Mainly your pathetic attitude. You talk like everything is impossible, like you've given up and as you come across in your profile 'your life is over'. No girl is going to jump at the chance to be with a guy who has a let's wither and die attitude.


I feel I've been incredibly fucking nice here, helping you out. I don't like to give up on people but sometimes they are beyond help until they realise it is them that's the problem and stop blaming others.

Damn I thought I had a bad profile but holy shit that is the worst profile I have ever seen

I've got to side with Barney - your profile is way too negative. How much time have you spent on your profile? No offence, but it looks like something you've knocked up in 5 mins. If you're serious about online dating, spend time writing and re-writing your profile until you get results.

I quickly read your profile, stripped away all the negative statements, and have marked where you should expand:

After you've done that, go here:
https://www.google.co.uk/#q=how+to+write+a+pof+profile

Read as much as you can, then rewrite your profile until you start getting results. Plus do everything Barney said.