Hi guys,

I’m relatively new to POF and I’m looking for some pointers. I have a profile and I seem to be attracting quite a few women.. They seem forward enough and keen to chat, but I’m just curious about dating chicks who live to far away.. I quite like one lass but she’s 33 miles away, I need experience and I’m wondering if I should just stay closer to home casting a net more like 5-10 miles?

Also, is it better to suggest dating in their home town? How do you guys do it.. I want to use POF as a testing ground before I start approaching women in bars etc.

Niko

PoF is a Pandora's Box. As far as I am concerned, there's no 1 answer to this question, or most questions relating to dating sites for that matter.

Many girls will only date guys in their local area, whereas other girls might date guys further a-field. Do you understand what I'm saying here? It's personal preference, whatever suits you.

Many people would say "stick to your own area" but for me, that is a huge limitation, not only for online stuff (if you do that) but for face to face approaching too. No, you should make your own boundaries to what you feel comfortable with. If you like a girl that's slightly out of your boundary then so fuck, why not message her, it's only a message, not every message gets answered BUT then again... maybe it will be answered.

Everything on dating sites, for men and for women, is a mixture of personal preference and free will. Same as with face to face interactions; someone has to initiate contact.


From online stuff I've met people whilst I'm on holiday, having a weekend away and stuff like that. Thing is, if you want to do it, then you shouldn't even be asking yourself the question; you should have already begun.

If you want to stay closer to home for reasons such as, no car, heavy working hours etc.. then that is your preference. But remember, the definition of preference is basically 'the greater liking of one thing to another', so that doesn't mean it's as solid as stone. You have your own free will.

I guess there is no proven formula and I totally appreciate where you are coming from bud, much appreciated

Try this thread here - I had a lot of luck with pof


Link

Cheers matey!

yeah thanks, I hadn't seen that before. One of my new year resolutions is to get a profile up so that post is perfect to get me going.

You could try what this guy did:
Snapshots RedditLog

His initial message was "Why haven't we had sex yet?" - led to sex with 100+ women

It's a nice story and the statistics make it sound more legit than it actually is

It doesn't take into account other things such as his profile wording, amount of pictures on profile and also how many personality testing questions he answered...

Or how he was with women in general anyway. But it makes a good point; being honest about what you want. He wanted casual sex and that was his line.

He seems like an average guy from his description:
Lots of blowouts and rejections - 3/4 of his real life approaches led to negative comments/drinks in face/slaps - but yeah, looks like honest works