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Default 09-01-2014, 01:57 PM

After reading this thread I logged into my profile, changed some stuff and sent some messages out, just random messages. Short sentences, value giving and if I asked the girl a question I wasn't putting '?' at the end, instead I'd put 'choose'. I felt it makes it less formal and shows a good control.

I messaged 4 people early this morning, 2 have replied so far, both answering my question and following up with a question of their own.

If you are just pissing around on the site, send messages out here and there, I can't see the importance of creating a solid profile; the fact that it's not solid shows you aren't always on the site and shows authenticity. Look at many profiles girls write, they're shit 85% of the time.

However, if you're on the sites 24/7, looking to get a girlfriend or whatever then the importance of a good profile is obvious.

I would, however, recommend to everyone using online, that you put your "looking for" as 'friends' or 'hangout'.


Attitude. It's, I feel the most important, expecially in messages. Don't loose your authenticity by trying to be someone you're not and at the same time, don't be a little pansey. Show some manliness, have a dominant nature to your message.

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In conclusion, going out more than sitting your ass down on the PC. It's not only healthier for you but also more beneficial in order to become socially fucking awesome.


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Default 09-01-2014, 02:29 PM

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the fact that it's not solid shows you aren't always on the site and shows authenticity. Look at many profiles girls write, they're shit 85% of the time.

However, if you're on the sites 24/7, looking to get a girlfriend or whatever then the importance of a good profile is obvious.
I would disagree. I think if you are a very attractive person with qualifying pictures then your profile is less important.

However if you're attractive in an average way then profile text can make or break.

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I would, however, recommend to everyone using online, that you put your "looking for" as 'friends' or 'hangout'.
I think this is irrelevant. Maybe if you don't fill in your profile as you mentioned above, it's more congruent to put whatever in the other fields but I find looking for dating works best. It means you're not looking for a relationship but you have more to offer than your penis.

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Attitude. It's, I feel the most important, expecially in messages. Don't loose your authenticity by trying to be someone you're not and at the same time, don't be a little pansey. Show some manliness, have a dominant nature to your message.
This is the same as in real life, day game or night game. The same principles apply

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In conclusion, going out more than sitting your ass down on the PC. It's not only healthier for you but also more beneficial in order to become socially fucking awesome.
I think that to be successful in the real world(day/night) or online you have to exude self-confidence and a perceived social value.

I really dislike the fact that people think just because it's online that it's a cop-out. I think it can be. If you have terrible AA and quite poor social skills you can hide behind a computer and fake it unlike when walking up to a girl in the street or in a pub.

But if you have all of your shit together offline then you can kill online...


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Default 09-01-2014, 03:19 PM

[quote=daleinthedark;86808 I think that to be successful in the real world(day/night) or online you have to exude self-confidence and a perceived social value[/QUOTE]

This is something I am realising is so key. People often say "I just can't think what to say" /text or whatever. All this comes down to confidence. I'm still not sure what value is exactly. Isn't confidence a big part of it?


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Default 09-01-2014, 03:53 PM


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Default 09-01-2014, 04:43 PM

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I would disagree. I think if you are a very attractive person with qualifying pictures then your profile is less important.

However if you're attractive in an average way then profile text can make or break.
Many girls will message you back if they like what they see (your message), without looking at your profile. If they like or intrigued by the situation, it will flow.

Try signing up to an online dating site, without putting any info apart from your pictures (attractive or not) and the basic description which it asks for in drop down-style questions answers. Then message girls in the same way you would with your written profile.

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I think this is irrelevant. Maybe if you don't fill in your profile as you mentioned above, it's more congruent to put whatever in the other fields but I find looking for dating works best. It means you're not looking for a relationship but you have more to offer than your penis.
That, I assume would be the 'casual sex' or 'no commitment' option. Putting 'friends' or 'hangout' doesn't imply you're wanting to get your dick wet. To me it's basically like saying, "I want to meet new people and have a laugh. I don't take dating sites too seriously".


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I really dislike the fact that people think just because it's online that it's a cop-out. I think it can be. If you have terrible AA and quite poor social skills you can hide behind a computer and fake it unlike when walking up to a girl in the street or in a pub.

But if you have all of your shit together offline then you can kill online...
I agree, but many use online as a sort of safe haven so that they don't need to venture outside and improve their social skills, yet if they get a date from online and it goes badly, it's due to them acting differently than online.

For guys that have their shit sorted, it's a good way to interact but shouldn't be your primary source.



Fair feedback though, if your way works for you then cool, my way, when I do use it, works for me and the area that improved it for me was the attitude (my photo's are shit).


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Default 09-01-2014, 05:57 PM

Doesn't it just show that what you say or looks isn't so important, but that it's more of a numbers game and being able to keep going and weather the storms?

Though I suppose if his opener was "hi?" he might have been overlooked a lot more. He was seeking some kind of reaction, good or bad.


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Default 09-01-2014, 08:19 PM

Got very lucky on POF, I seemed to end up being approached by a cute little Polish lass from Newcastle. She was far hotter in the flesh, traveled all round the world seemed to like stuff I liked so conversation seemed to just last forever without it being difficult. It was the first date I'd ever actually been.. Whats the crack with second dates? She said she wanted to meet again.. I just dont want to come over all keen even though she is smoking hot, but is suggesting Saturday in her home town to early, or? I'm such a novice lol.. especially sober haha

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Default 10-01-2014, 09:19 AM

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Got very lucky on POF, I seemed to end up being approached by a cute little Polish lass from Newcastle. She was far hotter in the flesh, traveled all round the world seemed to like stuff I liked so conversation seemed to just last forever without it being difficult. It was the first date I'd ever actually been.. Whats the crack with second dates? She said she wanted to meet again.. I just dont want to come over all keen even though she is smoking hot, but is suggesting Saturday in her home town to early, or? I'm such a novice lol.. especially sober haha
I like the way you use the word ‘approach’ for online dating.

We can’t tell if it’s too soon as we have no clue when you had the first date. I would usually leave a week or so else it’s all a bit too much at once, but hey you say she’s keen so why not? Get some more numbers to work on then you can build up some options.


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Default 10-01-2014, 04:20 PM

I personally have found online dating to be totally rubbish. And I know why that is. It is because men outnumber women on most dating sites between 2 to 1 and 4 to 1. So the women on them get tons of messages and therefore most guys find it very hard to get any dates at all from them. I have only ever had about five dates from dating sites in the ten odd years that I used them. I think in all the years I used dating sites i must have sent out around 40,000 messages to women and got nothing in the end for all my trouble.

That is why I think that real world dating i.e. day game and night game is far better as you have far more chance of success.
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Default 10-01-2014, 07:54 PM

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I personally have found online dating to be totally rubbish. And I know why that is. It is because men outnumber women on most dating sites between 2 to 1 and 4 to 1.
How is that different in a bar scenario with trying to "game" the hot girls usually with lots of guys tryin to approach them?

It's the same as chatting up a girl in the street or in a club; you have to be confident and witty and there has to be attraction

I personally had my shit together offline and online and when I used PoF I managed to get 5 dates in a weekend.


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