Im going to repeat it, keep searching for wings and meeting anyone you can.

I say this because its the only way you get good at it. 100%. No debating. No one here will say it was because they meditated or got a degree, saw a therapist etc.

You go out with similar minded people and go for it. Good luck.

the "convincer" as psychologists call it is the actual real life experience. Your brain will rewire itself quickly in the moment when you are challenged. But you have to push yourself into those risky situations where that will happen. Seeking safe ways of learning is very slow. You can't learn anything if you don't make the mistakes. But it's good to have support from people who understand what it feels like.

take the risks and post back here what happened and you'll get honest feedback and support.

I could write you a response three times in length of that of my previous one in relation to your above quote. But in lieu of how you've responded to some of the sound advice offered to you on this thread I can't be bothered wasting my time. I'l sum up my thoughts on this in one sentence for you.

If this is how you feel then you and you're social maladjustment best become fast friends.

I'm not sure who you've quoted here, Google doesn't recognise it and as it's not referenced so I'm inclined to believe it's your own work dressed up with quotation marks to give it it's own credence. Criticizing others as insecure and claiming they have superiority issues is laughable. Your so hung up on the superiority thing, you've said earlier literally every average guy is a threat to you. Your sketchy about your past and from what you've posted and how you've responded I can only assume you've suffered some form of bullying or abuse when you were younger. If this is true, it seems your current way of dealing with it is repression and denial. These coping mechanisms will not help you. If you are interested in helping yourself then Google John Bradshaw, some of his stuff might help you out.

This quote backs up my second paragraph. I can assure you those issues from your past are not defeated and buried but are very much alive and are holding you back from the life you want to live.

You've been given plenty of sound advice of this thread from various members and if you heed it, it can help you. Unfortunately I'm not convinced you want to be helped.

As with most everyone else in regards to this thread.

Good luck but I'm out.

Very well said in your post Phenom.

That line I've quoted makes me think your a Dragon off Dragon's Den.

You got me I'm Deborah Meaden.

Ok... i understand all of what you are saying. Yes my past is plagued by a lot of abuse, by defeated and buried i meant i faced that deamon long ago and came out stronger from doing it.

I am going out and meeting new people. I run day game a lot and yes it is hard but a challenge is worth rising to.

As a friend told me long ago:

"Life is a journey, not a destination. Just fill up the gas tank as i ain't walking".

I have never given up on who i am. Yes i am stubborn that's why i won't quit at anything i do, even if i am likely to fail or die.