The Stages Of Heart Break! - Page 2 - PUA Forums - The UK's Leading Pick-up Artist Forum

Witty Pun · 13-12-2012, 02:14 PM

Yeah I live in a town in North Wales like. Don't worry I'm sound now haha. I am a positive guy and I don't have a short fuse, just used to live by the rule of knowing I didn't have a short fuse so if any one pissed me off enough for me to flip whatever i did to them was there fault. I used to channel my anger through rugby but then I got injured and couldn't play anymore so had a lot of built up aggression anyway. So then I joined a football firm but fucked that off because it wasn't worth getting arrested for.

Got a different outlook on life now. Its more amusing and satisfying to be the bigger man and not get stressed.

Life's all about moving forward. You learn what you can and crack on.

Infamous · 13-12-2012, 11:01 PM

Jaz's basically summed it up in one, basically smash you way out of heartbreak. I had a relationship of many years that failed and long story short it wasn't until I'd been with about 10 birds after (some of which were shall we say were "not 10's") that I felt OK again. My old man always told me "the best way to get over a bird is to get as many underneath you as quickly as possible.

Failing that, Crystal Meth, it seems to work out well for people on telly.

Jynx-Manchester · 15-12-2012, 02:30 PM

ok guys update on the ex situation.

so basically i was out last night on a christmas doo miles away from home. i was having an awesome night and got with a gorgeous girl she left so i hit up the clubs. i bumped into sapmi for a while and it was all good.

about 2 in the morning i get a phone call from the ex (not spoke in weeks) we had a really good chat and having a propper laugh... the conversation didnt really go anywhere but around 15 minutes later i got a text saying come and see me. she lives an hour away from me at uni but i was like fuck it. another text followed which read 'no im so drunk dont come' ....

i thought fuck it and turned up anyway it took me like 2 hours to get there and ended up at hers at like 8 in the morning. to cut a long story short i ended up fucking her and woke up this afternoon cuddling. she was like i think you better leave so i was like cool.... she then went on to say she has a date tonight but shes really glad that me and her can now end on good terms

WTF!!!!

Witty Pun · 15-12-2012, 03:12 PM

Mind fuck. Sounds like she just doesn't know what she wants mate, and shes just using you as an option. At the end of the day you are not together so if you keep seeing her and making her feel good she wins.

Sounds daft but you should be punishing her for braking up with you, not rewarding her. You have to ask yourself if you just want to be an option for her. Or if you want to move on. Its a fucking difficult question to come to terms with and its pretty blunt but at the end of the day its a decision you have to make.

db x · 15-12-2012, 03:21 PM

Witty pun hit it on the head I think, I found myself in the opposite situation to this, I wasn't sure what I wanted and kept sending my ex mixed signals while i was still with her.

when I noticed what I was doing I decided to stop seeing her out of respect even though i wasnt sure if i wanted to be with her or not because I could see I was putting her through what your going through..

Just step out of it mate she doesn't sound like she's gonna stick to her guns on any decisions and you don't want to be emotionally involved with ups and downs that you have no control over it will just mess you up.

Db

Hustler25 · 15-12-2012, 03:31 PM

Jynx mate! WTF?! be cool and stay away from her man otherwise you'll keep going through a 'Wash, Rinse, Repeat' process trying to get over this girl. As Phil so eloquently put it, 'They're just dopemin hits' lay off the dopemin hits and go Cold Turkey. As Witty Pun says, she should be punished, not rewarded by turning up at her doorstep when she rings her bell for you to come running along.

dan300 · 15-12-2012, 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Witty Pun

The next few weeks we met up still and I thought she just needed to realise she wanted me. Unfortunately I was pretty obsessed with her and as every one els seems to of experienced I couldn't eat properly, sleep properly, just everything made me think of her and think of ways to get her back. Long story short she ended up fucking me over majorly.

I go sick. I mean I fucking bailed my mates with out them knowing. went home, completely changed all my clothes. got tooled up and went to her house to possably kill her, I don't know I was pretty drunk and pissed off.

Discovering this community is helping me to this day! I wouldn't of stumbled across it if it wasn't for the events that have happened and I can feel it making a possative impact on my life in general, not just getting me back on the woman situation. But almost all aspects of life! I'm not as aggressive as i used to be and just laugh at situations that would of angered me in the past because I just think 'Fuck it, I'm a legend!'
Bit of a bold statement but fuck it, perception is reality.

These parts made me feel like I was reading about myself.

My ex fucked me over more than you could imagine. I have had visions of me slaughtering her entire family cos of it, but luckily I moved away from the emotional torture, & I've never been happier in my life. If I hadn't moved away, someone would have died.

There are a few threads on just how much she fucked me over if any of you wanna read & compare bitches. I think my ex wins the biggest bitch badge hands down though.

Me & her have a kid, so I'm always gunna have some sort of contact with her, I'd rather never see her again ever, but I have to see my boy, & despite the shit I've been through, I wouldn't go back & change anything if I could.

Jynx, run. She is gunna suck the sanity out of you.

sapmi · 15-12-2012, 08:15 PM

I must be unique here. We basically cut each other off almost immediately. No contact at all. I still fucking love her though. I wish I was with her but I know it cant happen.

db x · 15-12-2012, 08:16 PM

I guess on some level you have to already know, but summed up into a oneliner..

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Originally Posted by dan300

Jynx, run. She is gunna suck the sanity out of you.

Db

Witty Pun · 16-12-2012, 03:05 AM

I feel like I need to meet you lot so we can all get a grasp on shit like this. Its like the taboo subject between men when it comes to heart brake but it happens to the best of us, (that's what makes us the best, the ability to understand the fact we will never truly understand women) all we can do is use what we know and use it to are advantage.

Yes women are people to, but if science/Biology thought me anything its that women need men more then men need women. They just don'e want to show or admit it.

On a side note, I got in to a straight girl and a lesbian in the space of 5 mins tonight. I was tired, hadn't saved and couldn't really be arsed. But as we all know
You miss 100% of the opertunitys you don't take.

But when it comes to Ex's. Cut the cord, move on and be happy.