Metting up with my ex after 3 years - Page 2 - PUA Forums - The UK's Leading Pick-up Artist Forum

Phil · 03-07-2012, 09:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HammerTime

Am I the only one who thinks getting with your ex is just dumb-as?

There's a reason you broke up last time. You're obviously too engrossed in all this for you to be just in it for the sex. You'll just be strung along and dumped again and it's going to hurt, again.

IF you had other girls, weren't too fussed and met up with her, chances are you'd get together. She'd then see how much cooler you are now, and she also knows about the sweet inner you. That'd be the best of both worlds for her, the 'dream', she'd be all over you.

If that happened, she'd get clingy and you'd get bored.

It's all a bit paradoxical.

this is so true, but if you try & fake it it wont work.

it has to be the above story FOR REAL. so u cant go out getting girls with the intent of makin this story real, coz then it wont be

Paradox City

Shahanshah · 03-07-2012, 12:38 PM

"There are two tragedies in life: one is not to get your heart's desire. The other is to get it"

- Bernard Shaw

scorpiolover · 03-07-2012, 08:52 PM

pressure is on..... yes i am meeting her ride in the car, coffe somewhere and something to eat then a ride to my place give her the tour then take her back home again, i know i should cancel but damn it i need to see this girl see what she is like and if i have made her out to be much better than she is at least then i can move on knowing she isnt the right one for me after meeting in person.

daleinthedark · 03-07-2012, 09:14 PM

why are you doing so much in an evening, just take her out or just invite her round to yours and cook, otherwise you'll end up paying for everything and supplicating to her

Either take her for some drinks and then dinner (both pay)

or bring her over to yours and cook (recommended as there's a very slim chance you'll get laid...)

scorpiolover · 04-07-2012, 11:13 AM

Well slap me silly with a baseball bat, text yesterday to everything on for today 11:30,
Get there and no answer at her door, no car there either I'm gutted, just sent s text to day no answer at yours are we still meeting up?
Obviously there will be some excuse, what should I text back if anything there'd no way I'm letting someone give me the run around !!! Have I just made a complete full of myself?

HammerTime · 04-07-2012, 11:24 AM

Oh for fucks sake man.

You ask for advice, you get a fuck load of good help and you ignore it. Everyone's predictions became true, no surprises.

Get some self respect, go and meet another woman or 5.

scorpiolover · 04-07-2012, 11:57 AM

Point taken ... Thank you for all the advice everyone my apologies for not following most people's advice lesson learned

daleinthedark · 04-07-2012, 12:04 PM

Scorpiolover, dont be too hard on yourself - I daresay that the majority of forum members have been in that situation before, me included!!

Firstly don't beat yourself up about it!

Secondly, don't text her back - if she won't respect you, don't respect her!

Thridly move on. Find other girls, and take the lessons you have learned into those relationships, however brief they may be.

There's your 3 step action plan! Remember

Phil · 04-07-2012, 01:33 PM

nobody to blame but urself. She probly stayed at someones house last night

lesson learned

scorpiolover · 04-07-2012, 05:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by daleinthedark

Scorpiolover, dont be too hard on yourself - I daresay that the majority of forum members have been in that situation before, me included!!

Firstly don't beat yourself up about it!

Secondly, don't text her back - if she won't respect you, don't respect her!

Thridly move on. Find other girls, and take the lessons you have learned into those relationships, however brief they may be.

There's your 3 step action plan! Remember

Thanks for your understanding, Its not easy when you have feelings but now I know where I stand and I can atleast move on now, I will be taking what you and everyone have said onboard and moving on to a happier life ... Being a pua hopefully one day