It wasn't that I related to Barney Stinson, it was that I wanted to relate to his approach with women and just people in general really. Maybe about 2-3 months before coming on this site I decided that enough was enough with a girl I was seeing in a sort of bi-sexually open relationship sorta way where I actually knew her other female sexual partner. She was phasing out doing all that shit so we could become exclusive but this other girl was a faggot, no other word for her really. 1 of them made up some lies and shit about something I'd apparently done and BAMB just like that she went cold on me for over a month. After 7 weeks she contacted me and gave me the low down on what I did and that this other woman was basically holding her to ransom by telling her not to contact me (though I know that there was nothing really stopping her if she wanted to). So apparently I told this other girl she was seeing, who had a major crush on her that maybe she wanted a relationship with her (this was before I got into or had any intention of a relationship). So basically I was blamed for the girls not been able to think for themselves, blamed for some attraction shit and god knows what else.

I left them all, fucking horrible turn of events, tbh the whole thing was wrong and the blaming me was the icing on the cake; I was the person they off-loaded all the shit onto.



That's of course just 1 recent thing. I'll be the first 1 to say my past is brutal and my whole body, mentally and physically, was baring the shit, carrying it around on my shoulders. My problem was, and I nearly said it here, "I fucked up" when really I didn't. I was taking the blame and for some reason I was accepting it. That's when I realized I gotta do something about this.

Then I started watching HIMYM and realized that I wanted to become as good with women as the character Barney Stinson is. The name is an ideal, something to strive towards, mainly mentally.

I've been here just over 6 months and the gains I've made are monumental. I'm at a stage where my self improvement is going through the roof, my off the cuff style is great, I hardly ever think when I'm talking, just like when I write. That's probably why quite a lot of my posts are not for everyone in terms of I'm writing at the level I'm at. I'm now at the pritty hilarious stage where I'm laughing at myself, like a 24 year old girl was laughing at some shit I said and she said to me "youre kinda cute", I burst out laughing in like some hilarious amateur dramatics 'ohh no the dreaded word' just fucking amusing myself and amusing most of the bus station aswell for 2-3 minutes.
I would never of done that shit before and the dramatics was just to entertain me. I honestly felt like I didn't care and I did this about 30 mins after listening to the part in the Blueprint where Tyler gets a guy on the stage unstyfling the guy.


In the show Barney Stinson takes every chance, doesn't care about judgmentals, is in control but above all he entertains himself and the group entertains all together aswell, they enjoy doing what they do and are happy to pick up people along the way, like Robyn .. This is what I'm gunning towards and I'm doing pritty well through day game, I think it's time to move it to night game aswell.

That does sound like a pretty fucked up relationship dude haha. Im coming from pretty much nothing, I had zero experience with women. The most I ever did was stare at girls in school, college, the club, street and day dream about being with them. And in social circle I would become the best friend of any girl I liked. I didnt know anything haha.

Yeah I also like the fact hes 'that guy' of the group. And hes actually trying unlike Joey or typical players who usually have to do nothing.

Suit up! Funny how NPH is gay in real life too

And yeah seems like you've come far for 6 months! You'll be a Stinson in no time

I didn't approach today, although I didn't really see too many girls about. Friday or Saturday I'll try and get out in the city and make a day of it. Get some reference experiences.

Mate I didn't know what was happening with that relationship. My problem was not that I couldn't talk to girls, I was always decent when I made the effort, I still surprise myself with what I can do, but the problem was I hardly ever made the effort because I was in my head all the time. I actually believed that everyone was out to make life hard for me.
I knew from college that my problem was my mind because I had the voted best looking girl in college come up to me, ask for my number, ask to date me and within 3 days we were fucking. That was all natural game, I'd never heard of PU material at that stage.


He is so comfortable with himself, his reality is fucking solid, he says something and believes it which is really powerful because people can sense a fake personality. Haha dude if I suit up I need a silver or grey suit, never black. Not really sure why. Well I've been round my fair share of lesbian women and seriously the hot ones are amazing with picking up women, even straight women.

Its quite strange how quickly I've done stuff but I think that's partly because of my attitude when coming onto this forum; I had no expectations.

Yeah if you ignore all of Barney's abandonment issues and constant lying of his life :P

Haha nice, I once had a cute girl do that to me in college she said at the end "yeah so can I have your number then?" I was like "HO-LY FUCK", she continued, "Its for my friend over there" and points out the fattest goth that could be carried by public transport. Fuck my life.

Yeah that's the thing I know I could easily do well if I actually went for it during the day too.

And Amsterdam women. . . don't blow your student loan on hookers, coke and weed.

Seriously dude, the guys just an actor. A gay actor. He'd sooner pick you up than any of the chicks in that show.

It can be really cool when TV shows and films put out characters that can have a positive influence on people. Fuck man I'd love to be Robert Baratheon but its all an act, it's play, it's contrived and it's all a scripted set up. I can see the character means a lot to you, its your user name on this forum but rather than want to be like him just be happy to be you. Set your own bar. You said yourself that your self improvement has gone through the roof recently. That's your doing not Barney Stinson's. Be happy to be you with your own style what ever your name is.

I've seen that show and he just comes across as a giant pussy hound.

You're right, but I dont think he meant it in too literal of a way.

Also back to Nova and Jaz' comments from a few days ago. Now Im not so hung-over I can clear myself up. You're right I probably do over analyse but I don't think Im too PUA about anything.

And about the alpha comment I made, maybe I used the wrong terminology. I more of meant I thought the guy looked like some reactive prat who was throwing his toys out the of his cot. And I wondered, from a more objective view, was I being the same or - what I thought I was doing - someone not taking shit and sticking up for himself. Not if I was beating my chest the loudest or 'AMOG'ing' etc just simply did it look like "Barney walk away and leave it you numpty" or if I was doing what any man would do.

Apart from the punching. To clarify this was some random guy who wouldn't leave me alone, not me starting on him or fueling his fire. Anyway, I thought I'd clarify what I meant. I know I use pua terminology but 99% of the time its in a semi-ironic way.