Cheers for the advice guys its obvious i need to be more sure of myself and just go for it.Yeh she was offering it on a plate.I just needed the balls to go and take it.Theres been a lesson learned today!

Lol. Agony Uncle DJ has never cried after blowing his load

Lovefish, out of curiosity.. why did you just sit on the bed? Were you scared to make the first move? If so.. maybe build some more comfort earlier before getting back to the bedroom, start kissing her in public or somethin

I can't offer much from my own experience yet but I was watching Ozzy from RSD Transformations earlier and he was saying how you should act as if sex is no big deal. Also just cause ur back in her room doesn't mean its on.

Like others have said keep at it - sounds like ur making things happen!

It does in most cases. Take action

Why else would you even go back to a girls bedroom???

I would say if you're in her room, it's already happening!

Lovefish, I would say flirt and do it like Al_phaD said with, Kino Kino Kino! There really is no substitute for it. If you both were on either ends of the bed then there was not Kino and things start to cool off.

It's happened to me loadsa times and it still does because I get distracted by pets, books and/or jokes. Dont take it to heart and don't take it to seriously - make the move because if you do you will be high-fiving everyone on the train home. If she blows you out you have a funny as fuck Field Report to write!

I sat on the bed thinking she would just cuddle up or sumat.But she sat at the bottom and i was like oh shit what do i do now:S i should of used a comment like do i smell or sumat just to get her to move up a bit.By the time id figured out i needed to do something it was way 2 late Absolutely need to be building comfort earlier and more of it.So that when the bedroom is reached she will be less resistant and ill be more confident.
Out of interest as i know little to nothing of kino.Can anyone link me to a helpful thread on here that will give me some good advice on escalating its definately something that could i could improve on.Its good to know that im not the only one to get that far and blow it lol

Sex is like dancing. Men lead, women follow. Very traditional.

I should have added a bit more - I meant in ur head don't think straight to sex, just as others have said do kino, lead, freeze out etc..

I used to get a lot of LMR and did the whole freeze out thing to try and compensate, but to be honest it's not really that fun. Feels really mechanical. Kiss, undress, play, back off, kiss more, undress more, more play, back off, wash, rinse repeat etc etc. Now I think I would just say fine and go to sleep if this happened.

I do still get LMR, but am so unphased by it I always manage to get round it pretty easy without this freezing out stuff. I find the freeze out thing is very needy as you keep going back for more after rejection. (LMR used to be a big probem for me btw).

Realise this isn't really what you were getting at Evolver, went off on a tangent. Maybe should have posted in LMR thread. You are right about not getting all caught up with the sex in your head straight away when you are in the room.