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Originally Posted by kowalski
Lol. You were breaking the law and are lucky to have not got arrested. You are a total fuck up. Seek professional help, or kill yourself... but whichever option you choose, never talk to another human who isn't being paid to listen to you ever again.
Peace,
kowalski
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What makes you think I'm breaking any laws?
I was doing nothing more than being polite/friendly.
In fact, I've written a formal letter of complaint and handed it to the manager, who was quite understanding.
In my letter I suggested that the girl be reprimanded for her behaviour.
I have also requested to be compensated for my alarm and distress caused by the girl's behaviour in the form of vouchers.
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Originally Posted by tony77
Dude you're exhibiting some irrational behaviour. I wasn't there but I suspect she might have felt scared. And this is why she blanked you then went to her manager. I hope you Atleast have some basic awareness of body language.
Whenever you get blanked like this or rejected you really need to just laugh it off and move on to the next approach. Look into meditation and finding fun activities to do or meetup groups.
I don't agree with how kowalski put things but maybe seeking a therapist might help get to the bottom of these issues. What is saying "hi" to her again going to achieve? it's like you're at war with the world! But you have to understand no one is against you. There's no need to get one over someone because they did not return your attempt at small talk.
I fear if you keep going on this way you'll just be banned from shops. I approach in shops all the time and I've never been asked to leave. The moment I feel someone is uncomfortable I simply move on and just think I guess they have issues.
Listen my friend for your sanity and personal growth please just leave this girl alone. Otherwise this will be seen as harassment. Why waste your precious time getting revenge for being ignored when you can use that time to work on yourself and talk to other women.
I'm happy for you that you took coaching but coaching won't fix everything. Forgive for being presumptuous and offensive in any way but it sounds like you have some deep issues to resolve.
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Yes I do actually agree with you that I have some deep rooted issues to resolve, 15 years of being ignored by women being one of them!
And yes, once I get into my head I can often feel like everyone is ganging up on me, which sets a dangerous precedent which in extreme situations causes me to lash out.
I really should have walked away from this one instead of making a big deal of it but now I've written a formal letter of complaint. I got paranoid and felt that everyone in the shop had noticed my approaching behaviour.
The irony is, they do now! But at the time I was so enraged that she would treat a customer like that. I didn't even say anything remotely gamey either, for all she knew I might have wanted to know where something was.
So I don't think I'll use any of the girls in that store as warm up sets again. Obviously I'll still approach members of the public in that store but even then I'll have to be careful.
I felt more enraged that she was a store employee treating me like that than if she was a member of the public with no obligations.
I'm going to go out tomorrow in another town and try a few approaches, but I don't want to get in my head because I know that is dangerous.