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Default My summer of cold approaching - 03-06-2018, 04:46 PM

Well, since the end of March I was doing cold approaches.

I only count successful approaches, which are approach the target, deploy the compliment, acknowledge the compliment as received and appreciated.

I do not count failed approaches such as being blanked or just someone quickly saying "I've got a boyfriend".

That does not count.

In fact, recently I've only been counting approaches that have resulted in a conversation where I can tell they are genuinely impressed.

I am on 44 now since March 28th.

Once I've made six more I will go with a day gaming coach to help push the boundaries and give me some tips.

I'll have to go up to London to do that but it will be worth it to get tuition from a pro.

Edit: I should emphasize that this is DAY GAME, I find "night game" to be highly unethical and predatory.

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Default 07-06-2018, 06:46 PM

Absolutely killed it today-smashed my previous record of 11 approaches in one day and made it to 14.

And I think it was the nicest "rejections" I've had, on a consistant basis, I didn't have one awkward/weird one either.

I had little anxiety, I've got a feeling that my energy is changing.

I wasn't feeling nervous like "I shouldn't be doing this" when I was approaching chicks.

I even stopped a chick on her phone and she was okay about it!

I was so relaxed, loving it, dunno why.

There were a few that I let slip due to them being with guys or not sure of the age but on the whole I was really impressed with myself.

There were very few awkward feeling ones.

Suffix to say, I was bossing it.

Riding the high.

My goal at this point is to become an "approach machine".

I don't want to go back to being in my head at all, it's the nasty rejections that do that to me.

I remember taking hours just to do 2-3 approaches a couple of months ago.

14 approaches in one day, BEAST!

The chicks were all so nice and it wasn't even that sunny, a little bit but overcast, I dunno, I'll put it down to my energy changing for the better.

My goal was actually 2 or 3 approaches but it was one of my best days ever!
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Default 09-06-2018, 07:38 PM

Well I went out today (Saturday) with a goal to do a few approaches, nothing major.

Unfortunately I was so inside my head that I couldn't seem to do it. I was having the old paranoid thoughts and not being in the moment. Thinking everyone was watching, thinking the targets are going to react badly, etc.

I think the main thing was that I was tired from working 5 nine hour shifts on a building site which is my job at the moment.

But I was also paranoid that after my approach spree on Thursday, I might get noticed or approach the same targets again and use up their good will.

I went to the cemetery and had a nap under an old oak tree which was nice and helped my state, but by that time I was too far down the rabbit hole.

I looked at some headstones and reminded myself that I will be dead one day but it still wasn't working!

I felt like I had a zipper on my mouth and it was firmly zipped shut. I half heartedly pursued a few chicks but didn't approach them.

I even hesitated to ask a supermarket worker if they had something. I was back to my old ways of hovering around and not approaching.

I couldn't even bring myself to do self amusement or say hi. I think I was out for 3 hours and only spoke twice to people.

Indeed I was walking around with my hood up and shades on.

I must have let 10 reasonably pretty chicks pass me by, including 2 or 3 quite stunning ones. In fact I saw more chicks today when I felt unable to approach than I normally see out!

So I could have attempted to approach, but I figured I would let myself see what it was like to be my old self again.

And that confirmed that I sure as hell know I don't want to go back!

My energy and mojo felt like it had disappeared, but I am fairly sure it was because I was tired.

I feel like if I got a couple of rejections I would have learnt something and made some effort but just having nothing doesn't feel great at all.

Tomorrow is a new day.

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Default 22-06-2018, 08:24 PM

Friday today and I let a hot chick go in the supermarket.

It was my own town, not the bigger town nearby, I was paranoid that I might have approached her before so I left rather than lingered in the stalker like way I do sometimes when I try to psych myself up to approach.

I wasn't specifically out for cold approaching, just going about my quick shop after work.

I work in an ultra macho environment (construction site) so it doesn't do much for my more "delicate" social skills that you need for talking to women.

Plus I was looking like iron man togged up in all my bike gear and just felt too conspicuous to approach in case it turned awkward.

I will go out tomorrow and sunday to try and force some approaches but I've not been feeling it this last couple weeks.

Really has felt like I'm forcing myself to do something I don't want to do and it feels so unnatural.

I didn't feel up to dealing with the awkwardness on a Friday night.

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Default 25-06-2018, 07:49 PM

Well I pat myself on the back today because I forced out a super awkward approach.

I was in Aldi, which is a small shop.

I spotted this hot chick walk in.

She had a brand new Ford Ranger pickup so based on that I assumed she was with somebody quite successful as it's not the kind of car a single woman would own.

I couldn't approach her in the shop, I just couldn't do it in such a small shop where everyone could hear, even though I did one on Sunday in there.

So instead of hanging around, I went and did my shopping, then I observed that she had finished her's, I was at the till and I just got out as she was waiting to put her trolley back after loading the shopping it into her truck.

I did my usual line, told her she looked incredible and that I wouldn't mind getting to know her.

I felt super awkward togged up in all my biking gear and absolutely forced myself to do it.

She looked worried, hesitated for a couple seconds, then said "I'm taken" and then I was like "no problem".

I found this one extra awkward and embarrassing probably because I was hot and flustered in my biking gear, quite stiff and to top it all off I'd just got off working from a macho environment and had no female socialisation all day, so I get extra bonus points for making that approach.

I KNOW I need to go through this in order to get good with women, especially out of state and dressed in conspicuous clothing, but I don't always feel up to it.

So I deserve extra bonus points for this cringe worthy approach that I made this evening.

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Default 26-06-2018, 10:15 PM

I salute you bro , most guys don't do this including myself.
I find it hard to do cold approach especially here in UK.
Do yoou do your approaches in Nottingham.?
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Default 27-06-2018, 10:07 PM

Thanks bud, no I am down south myself.

But to me cold approach is the ultimate way to build confidence with women.

And you get the pick of the bunch.

You can go in there, it's efficient and they know what you want.

You've just got to be expecting that they aren't available.

I do find the more awkward ones like the one I described above don't tend to build my confidence up much compared to the ones that go well though.

I do find it hard to justify why I approached them though.

My standard line "You look incredible, I wanted to get to know you" is massively lame, but I don't know how else to explain my actions.
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Default 02-07-2018, 05:00 PM

Approached 7 in a town I don't normally day game in.

I was there for a job interview but felt like I might as well make a day of it and fit some gaming in.

I motorcycled there and it was baking hot so I hid my helmet and trousers in the parking lot but kept my jacket and rucksack with me which made walking around a bit more cumbersome not to mention uncomfortably hot.

But given the circumstances I was proud of the approaching I did.

If the circumstances were different like if I had a car and drove there I think I would have probably gone all out and made 15+ approaches because it was a bigger town than the town I normally day game in.

I really feel like day gaming in a different town does a lot to get you out of your head because when I go to my local town I get paranoid and think that every chick who sees me is thinking "Uh oh, here comes the pick up guy".

And I'm also paranoid of re approaching chicks that I've approached before, but day gaming in a different town really takes the pressure off a lot.

My highlight was a Latvian chick who was really friendly and appreciative of the effort I made, although she did have a boyfriend but shook my hand and asked me some questions back. This one was also in a shop so extra points for that.

I also approached a chick who was with her mum but I didn't realise she was with her mum. I've done a few like that and the mums instead of being fierce like you might expect are actually much more friendly about it, they just make their excuses and drag them off.

Then a stunner walked by which was at the point where I'd already made the 5 approaches I was going to make but I thought "I'm not letting her go" so I approached her, she said she had a boyfriend and walked off.

But then I can't be sure but I think I saw her talking to someone outside a nail salon, just in the doorway, by pure coincidence I was walking past and I'm sure they must have been talking about me approaching her.

I over heard a part of their conversation, something like "Oh, he was really really cute" or something along those sorts of lines. And I was dressed in my smart clothes so it is not a stretch to think she might have thought that.

I was caught off guard because I didn't expect to see her again,, in fact I thought she walked the opposite way, so I don't know if it was actually her or not, but it was a tall blonde chick that was eye catching, but I didn't want to notice too much or it would have been awkward if she saw me just as she was chatting with someone about her encounter.

But the interaction with the stunner was quite short and she didn't seem particularly appreciative at the time. Maybe she suffered regret and that was why she was talking to the nail technician about it?

Another thing, before I approached the stunner I did do something slightly "chodish" for lack of a better word. There was this guy behind her, shorter than her and for some reason I asked him "Is she with you". I'm so embarrassed at the thought of stepping on another guy's toes, on his achievement, I guess I can relate to the struggle on a bro level much more. Needless to say, the short guy wasn't with her anyway.

So yeah, all in all, a good day. The most approaches I've made in a session in a long time.

So if anyone is having trouble getting out of their head, I recommend approaching in a different town for awhile.

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Default 02-07-2018, 05:36 PM

Originally Posted by MikeH0ck View Post
And I was dressed in my smart clothes...
Autopsy scrubs ftw

Be desireless. Be awesome. Be gone
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Default 03-07-2018, 07:36 PM

Originally Posted by daleinthedark View Post
Autopsy scrubs ftw
Chicks just love that creepy pathologist look, complete with face splatter guard.

Especially if it is followed up with the line, "Hi, you look incredible, I'd quite like to perform your autopsy when you die"

But seriously,

I was in a supermarket where I don't usually game, but I saw this stunner.

It was just after work and I was in my motorcycling leathers so all stiff, unfortunately this attire makes me most self conscious.

(It's hard not to stand out being 6'1 dressed in what is essentially body armour).

I did not approach, this was compounded by the fact that I saw nappies in her shopping basket, so I figured she was in quite a deep relationship with a man, but she could have been a single parent.

But the point was not whether she was single, married or had a boyfriend, the point is to approach an find out instead of just assuming.

So by not approaching I failed my task.

But my motorcycle attire makes me feel quite uncomfortable and conspicuous.

Also my standard line of "You look incredible, I'd like to get to know you more" might be a bit full on for a closed situation such as a supermarket.

I need something more casual and less pressurising I think.

I dunno.

I need to just get more confident and, for lack of a better word, "brazen" about my work.

I don't like those awkward reactions. Those are my worst fear.
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