Broadswords Thread

[BroadswordWSJ]

Originally Posted by Serendipity

She might have said she had a bf as a knee jerk reaction in the moment. The anxiety you felt is a normal thing so don't worry about it. Can't win em all but as you say the positive thing is you pushed past the anxiety and did it and it didn't kill you.

Maybe she does have a bf after all....

I spoke to her at breakfast this morning & she said she's looking to book a holiday but they are arguing because she wants to go to Dubai but he's there a lot for work and wants to go elsewhere. I feel a whole lot better now

[Serendipity]

It doesn't really matter. What's so wrong with asking a girl out that you like. It's only the most natural thing in the world. If she says no so what. There's plenty of other girls to ask. I'm writing this but realising I should practice more what I preach. It's a long time since I asked anyone out. Well done you.

[maestro]

You took action, Broadsworth. Keep doing it.

You got anxious because you are not used to asking women out. The more you do it, the more natural and confident you will become at it. Keep posting about instances like this.

[daleinthedark]

^ what Maestro said!

Well done you big pimp

[Barney Stinson]

You interacted very well dude. You showed confidence, kept positive, unaffected, good attitude but the main one; you took action.

At the end of the conversation I would have said something like "how about Monday. 7?" Or similar. Bring the conversation round full circle.


Well done. Keep taking action.

[BroadswordWSJ]

Got a text froma girl yesterday I've known for years, i made out with her a few times a couple of years ago but don't really see her now. She's on holiday abroad and we were just yapping away. If you want to put a number on her she is a "10" or whatever.

I've always thought she was a bit of a wannabe/atention seeker....she comes across as someone who looks down on others and see's herself as above people; very much into status and all that. You'd be fogiven for thinking she stepped right out of Made in Chelsea. Through the texts she totally started bigging herself up to me and was looking for attention/validation seeking. I just acted laid back and didn't really rise to it although did acknowledge some of the stuff she was saying & ignored others.

After a short period I told her I was off to watch TV, was good to hear form her, to take care & I'd speak to her later. She then took offence to me saying "take care" suggesting this was another way of saying "hi - bye" and that i don't like her.....(WTF? I just meant take care of yourself.....). I told her I do like her or i wouldn't be responding, she then started suggesting we meet up when we get back and I just said yeah, cool, whatever, give me a shout.

The messed up thing is she's in an LTR, i was careful the way I worded my responses. WTF is she texting me for, especially when she's on holiday with him. Looking back I never noticed till now that this follows a pattern - she texts me every few monmths with stuff like this. I reckon she kinda likes me/half attention seeking for validation.

Later that day 2 other girls I knmow text me, 1 justto say hi, another asking if I was going to a night out at month end. I never instigated any of these.

Got me thinking about 5 other girls I've known before & my texts with them....they've probablly all liked me on one level or another & I've just had blinkers on and not noticed.

I just sat at home all day and got texts form 3 different girls out of the blue..very, very weird Saturday.

[Serendipity]

I'm no expert but it seems if women are contacting you then they must be interested. You can take it from there.

[BroadswordWSJ]

Hmm. One of them I've pretty much not spoken to for the best part of 8 years - she lives in a different city now and is engaged, total random text. The other as i said is in an LTR. The other one......not sure about her, don't know her very well. She was the one I mentioned in a previous FR acted all jumpy round me, spilt her drink, burnt me with her fag etc.

[BroadswordWSJ]

Friday 28th February

Yes, this post is massive, but I really don't care. Probably the best interaction I've had to date.

Had a leaving night for a friend. Upon arrival at the bar, I made sure I greeted every female I knew with a hug and a kiss on the cheek, or a brief arm round their waist where possible. Not one of them recoiled & all seemed pleased to see me. I practised "kino-ing" with them (yes, i know its meant to be natural and not forced but if you don't ever do it its going to be weird to start with) & again no negative reaction.

Its difficult to remember everything as it was like 5 nights ago, but basically i said to myself "I'm going to have to approach women"....and so thats what I did:

1. Went up to one girl and said "Don't I know you from somewhere?" (total lie), spoke some fluff briefly before her and her mate left.
2. Spoke to some girl who bumped into me on the stairs and I said "Check you deliberatly bumping into me"...bit of banter and laughing back and fourth with her mate chiming in & I eventuallky said "You need to tone it down and make it less obvious you like me", more joking around
3. Told some girl i really liked her jacket and that she looked hot in it...she looked a bit confused and didnt respond so i asked her name, she gave me it....the convo was pretty awkward, she eventually just walked off
4. Went up to some other girl and said "Hey, hows it going"....only to then realise she was completely smashed.

But thus here is the main point of this post.

There was a group of 3 absolute hotties in the area next to us and I couldn't stop looking at them, if you want to objectify there were all at minimum an "8". I was too scared to talk to them because they were so hot and (partial limiting belief) way out of my league. Had a combination of fear to approach them and frustration that i wasnt talking to them, the frustration got to me more so I just stood up and walked over to them. They were in mid convo so I kinda hovered till one had finished talking, then all 3 of them looked at me, and completely shitting my pants I blurted out "Don't I know you from somewhere?" to the one with the biggest boobs. "Don't think so?" she replied, and her and all her friends smiled. I basically just started making up shite as I went along, nervous and rambling (then realised i was rambling, so slowed it down, lifted my head up and spoke slower)....and they didn't seem to notice or mind i was nervous, and they didn't walk away.

I realised pretty quickly that big boobs & her small friend were both married, so I turned to there friend who had been quipping in with cheeky comments. She told me her name was "Jasmine" and that she was a high class Escort. I told her I was an MI5 agent. She told me before that she was an intergalactic moon farmer, I told her I used to be a haybail engineer. She was a physcic, i was an ice cube yield analyst. Basically the stupidest randomest conversation you could ever have. Ended up pulling a chair next to her and at random times she started touching me...for the first time EVER I saw "IOIs" in real life; her eyes were huge, ruffling her hair, playing with the ends of her hair, constant smiling and laughing, brushing her tongue over her teeth and sticking it in her cheek at times etc etc. I played with a bracelet she had on her wrist and worked my way up to fondling her hand, kept near enough great eye contact with her....plenty of flirting, sexual innuendo's and just generally a great time. I've always said on here I lack sexual edge & masculinity; I was doing it right now and it felt so normal.

i hadn't noticed her left hand because of the angle she was sitting at holding her drink.....but when she brushed her hair back with it....she had a massive engagement ring on So I asked her how long she'd been engaged, and how I was totally devestated because I thought we were going to get married and I'd probably need counselling. Despite being taken i was enjoying the convo so much i stayed with her, we started showing each other facebook pics etc. Her friends came over to take her away to the bar a couple of times and she told them she was fine here, even gave them money to buy me and her drinks. At some point we got talking about why i was single, and I over the top sarcastically told her I'd never had a girl friend and was still a virgin....she burst out laughing, smacked me in the arm and told me to shut up. I persisted i was serious (in a jokey way) & that I'm afwul with women and she just kept laughing. "Yeah yeah, I'm sure you say this to all of them....give it 5 minutes after I'm gone and you'll forget me and be trying it with someone else, your so full of shit!"

I'd probably been talking to her for about 45 minutes when it was time for her and her friends to go, so i gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and told her it was shit she was engaged as we were totally meant for each other, but it was nice to meet her. She replied and said "Yeah......I think your pretty cool, maybe if I wasn't engaged...but I am. Besides, your a 32 year old virgin who's never had a girlfriend, how could you ever satisfy me?" I just smiled, then she said "Seriously, one piece of advice....don't say shit like that. I know your just kidding.....but it felt like you were taking the piss out of me, no way your a virgin!" So I said "ok...cool". Her friends came back over, was a bit of banter from them and some faked jealously about how I ditched them for their friend when I realised they were married ("So because we're married we're beneath you huh?") and off they went.

I went back over to my friends who I'd noticed had been looking over a lot the whole hour or so I was gone and they all sat preying with bated breath "Please fucking tell me you got her number?" I told them she was engaged which was instantly met with a chorus of boo's and disbelief, they all felt I was totally in there.

This killed a belief I had my friends would poke fun at me or whatever for speaking to women like that - they were all actually rooting for me. It's also amazing that this girl genuinly couldn't tell I had no success with women or I'd never had sex despite me telling her so (although I did make it into a joke).

I felt absolutely fucking awesome. Yes this girl was engaged, but she was totally naturally hot, big eyes, volumous brown hair, flirty.....and I sat with her for 45 minutes like it was totally normal. Her mates were head turners as well. And yes this post is massive and you lot will fall asleep reading it but I really don't give 2 shits - what a night.

PS - When I woke up the next day, all 3 of them had added me on fb, and they must have had to search for me as we barely have any friends in common. Pretty cool.

[BroadswordWSJ]

Saturday 1st March

I was out for a friends DJ event, but unfortunatly I couldn't replicate my success with "Jasmine" the previous night. In a nut shell:

1. Said hows it going to one girl and that I liked the way she'd styled her hair..we spoke briefly for a bit but the convo was forced and TBH she wasn't really into it.
2. Saw a girl sitting on her own so sat next to her and said hi....she told me her friend was sitting there so i told her I'd keep it warm for her, about 30 seconds later her friend came back and was obvious they wanted me to leave. In hindsight i probably shouldn't have sat down.
3. Told one girl I really liked her dress and she pointed to some guy and said "Yep, my boyfriend probably agrees with you...do you want to tell him as well"? I said fair enough and left.
4. Said to one girl "Don't I know you from somewhere?" and she just straight out responded "No - fuck off"

By this point in time i was feeling pretty anxious & a bit down in the dumps. I spoke to one more girl but I had no confidence at all and ended up just bailing. Not that its an excuse but we were in a totally rammed bar/club where you couldn't even raise your arms on the dance floor there was that many folk. It was also really loud.

In fairness I never felt overly nervous the previous night, or this night until girl 3 - just had these jitters and short circuits from time to time (like when you can't think properly or someone jumps out on you and gives you a scare). Maybe I was just really fortunate those married girls the night before were totally welcoming and up for a laugh, maybe what happened this night is more the reality of what actually happens, who knows. I still take loads of confidence from the previous night though.