Blueprint.
Part Three, Notes: Social conditioning.

• Women need time to assess your behavioural queue’s to see if they want to sleep with you.
• Visual (guys) vs. Behavioural (girls).
• Sub-communication is more important and says so much more than the words that you say.
• Eye contact, vocal tonality, body language, your sense of individuality, humour and playfulness, comfort in your environment, indifference to what people think of you, your concepts and personnel boundaries of what you will and will not accept, your control over your own emotions and your own sense of reality, your confidence to say what’s on your mind and stand out, yourself directedness, conviction and grasp of your own standards. Your sense of entitlement and willingness to go for what you want. Your sense of entitlement and willingness to go for what you want – you see a woman you want you go for it. And the types of things you say and the emotion on how you say them all in relation to the other people there. This is the sub communication.

• When you leave your own reality and start thinking: ‘this girl is cute I need to hook up with her’, you’re coming from a scarcity mindset, things plummet.
• The words you say are irrelevant
• Logic doesn’t register with girls – if you point to your watch or car it ruins the chemistry, it snips the flow of chemistry.
• Attraction is straight forward and happens within seconds, if she likes you great; if she doesn’t, it’s done. Never think how you can change her mind. It’s either on, or off.
• Don’t get a crush on a girl that doesn’t like you. If you have a crush on a girl and want to get with her - how is that going to affect your behaviour?

• Women look at you as an object of value.

• People’s behaviour is consistent.

• Living up to other people’s standards can give you a temporary fix of confidence but it will not give you a real sense of value or self esteem.

• Confidence is your sense of integrity, your own sense of values, your sense of identity, your sense of who you are.

• The game is rigged against you if you believe in the system: the social conditioning game that’s got you running – the good little consumer.

• You don’t need to buy stuff to feel good; you should feel good all the time.
• When someone walks around in high society the inclination is to look up to them even though they’ve done nothing, it’s that superficial set of values.
• Social conditioning is retarded.
• Your possessions can be a reflection of what you’ve achieved in life but that’s for you.
• Do what you want to do, don’t live up to someone else’s standards that you didn’t even create.
• You’ve got to be acting through your own intentions.
• Identify with yourself. Don’t agree with the group all the time.
• It’s easier to stand as a spectator and watch other people. This is your life, turn your TV off, turn off the web surfing. Stop looking at other people.
• Believe in a life of your own design.

• Your life will blow by: do what you want; fuck social conditioning, fuck what anybody thinks of you, as long as you know what you’re doing is good and you’re offering value (not trying to take value from people) do what you want.

• Stop living up to other people’s standards, just own who you are.


• You’re coming from a place of abundance - she’s trying to live up to your standards.
• When a woman is chasing you to live up to your standards it’s going to be far more attractive than when you’re chasing her to try and live up to hers.

• One person in the interaction will have the higher value and will dictate the other person’s reality.


• Social conditioning is looking at the surface of things and never the depth.
• If you don’t know who you are you’re going to be constantly sucking value from people

Good notes, god I love self development. I'm really understanding the 'sort ur shit out' put your house in order view point, feeling good. RSD r the best out there by miles.

Blueprint.
Part Four, Notes:

• Living in reaction is lacking a crystal clear concept of: Who you are, What you value, What you’re grateful and appreciative for, How your emotions work, What you really want out of life, Why certain influences are positive or corrupting.
• Buying nice clothes etc makes you look good on the surface but that’s not what’s important. The life decisions you make communicate your sub communication.
• You’re establishing a pattern where you’re constantly living up to other people’s standards.
• You’re establishing a pattern where you are living in reaction
• That pattern by those innocent behaviours is screwing you up.
• When making a decision on your life, think: ‘Is this making me more confident? Is this connecting me to my self esteem? Or is this really just distancing me from who I’m meant to be. If it’s the latter don’t do it! Don’t compromise your values. Don’t compromise yourself. When you do that you become more centred, more attracted to women and glory ensues.
• People like the ‘magic pill’, quick fix. People don’t like slow gradual progression.
• If you’re not capable of walking up to any woman and be yourself, shoot the shit, there’s work to be done.
• If you give someone a load of lines to say and they say them and the girl is giggling all the time she still won’t sleep with him.
• Magic pills are appealing because we want to conserve energy. Frame control is a magic pill.
• What we really need is a deep identity level change, not a magic pill.
• The self is always coming through; who you are is always showing.

Value and how this leads to realisation.

• Biological drives: Do what is good for survival and reproduction, what feels good. This creates a tension.
• Value comes first. Don’t forget that. If you’re a big jerk but your value is high she’ll find that one percent that is nice and rationalise that the big jerk is a nice guy.
• When you have enough value you can do anything and the girl will laugh, humour is a given.
• Value means the girl is receptive to you.
• Value isn’t everything but it tends to come first.
• Time and energy are finite.
• RAS (Reticular Activation System) your brain filters out what is not of prime need. Hot girl walks in – Tyler gets ignored, same if Osama bin laden (threat) walks in. Noticing all the RAS in the room is like seeing a glitch in the matrix.
• If you’re talking to a girl and her boyfriend is being so obnoxious you can’t even hear your own voice she can only hear the tone of your voice, RAS.
• Guys who are really good know how to get the RAS in their direction.
• When you can be normal around really attractive women that will pull a lot of attraction.
• Don’t start walking through life thinking everyone is rationalising against you.
• Chill and assume the best. Everyone is really positive and friendly.
• Accept that the world owes you nothing and in the long run you’ll get back no more and no less than what you deserve.

• How do you know you have value? How strong is your magnet? If you say hi and everyone turns and gives you attention, if you say hey and everyone ignores you.
• Everyone wants to be in the hot tub. Everyone wants to be at the cool person end of the table. Make a habit of taking the party wherever you go. Be cool, if your with your buddy you’re with your buddy, doesn’t matter what the crowd is.
• The ‘anchor’ is the cool person you’re trying to get the attention of.
• When you know you have value you will be outside of your head and when you know you don’t you will be inside of your head. Value = in the moment, No value = Micro managing.
• Outside your head =enjoying yourself – acting in the moment, letting your real personality come out, saying what’s on your mind, being un affected by how other people react, being detached from the outcome of any one situation, taking things as they come, being fully present to what’s going on around you, assuming and expecting that everyone is your friend.
• Inside your head = not enjoying the moment for what it is, always saying ‘how can I make this moment better’, ‘I’m not comfortable with my social status here ‘how can I make things better’, how can I get more liked, how can I get more acceptance, how can I get more validation, how can I make the moment better not just enjoying it for what it is. Makes you feel unnatural, forced, needy, contrived. Symptoms, trying to change your personality specifically to make people like you, feeling flustered by all the social things you need to be doing, being emotionally effected by other people’s reactions, feeling like some particular interaction has to work or you may not get another chance, trying to think a step ahead and analyse how everyone will respond to you, being too stuck in your mind to really pay attention to what’s going on around you and feeling like you’re being judged.
• The best way to make people like you is to express your personality freely and let the chips fall where they may. This implies you’re comfortable with who you are and you probably have the value to back it up. By trying less and just expressing yourself and being you you’re actually communicating more value than if you’re trying to communicate value.
• When you just chill, stay outside your head and just enjoy the moment it’s like a magnet.
• Even if what you are saying is stupid, that’s more impressive than going into your head to fish out something cool to say.
• Stop trying to impress people, just enjoy being with them

Blueprint. End of day one.
• Part Five, Notes:
Core confidence vs Situational confidence
• In any social interaction one person is reacting more than the other person.
• Symptoms. Their natural personality is being affected by you. The way that they feel about themselves is tied up in your responses to them. Their focus is more directed to you than other people in the room. They feel a heightened emotional response from physical contact with you. She’s analysing how she’s taking up your space and time.
• When you are having these kinds of reactions to people you are giving/handing your power away.
• Everyone wants to hang around cool, fun people, who don’t give their power away
• Denbys manager getting in with all staff put him in the hottest club and he’s out of his comfort zone. There’s one guy there who is fatter and uglier etc but owns the place because he’s just having fun he doesn’t need all the social queues.
• Core confidence – I’m going to have fun and I don’t care what you think.
• Whoever has the most people reacting to their approval and is the most indifferent about it is the most attractive person there.
• Everyone enjoys a good vibe. If you’re someone who’s having fun - that’s value. Everyone appreciates a good vibe.
• Go into any environment and be the same guy. Don’t have to go out with friends. Don’t have to rely on having anyone there, love to have people there but it’s not a necessity.
• Take people out of their environment and they’re not that guy anymore the hugely popular one etc.
• Float or sink on your own feet. Get her based on you and your personality and authenticity.
• Core confidence you’ll be sleeping with hotter fitter girls. Period.
• Develop freedom for yourself, develop authenticity.

Love

• If you want to be successful with one girl be successful with girls in general. Get out of that habit of falling in love with every girl that comes along.
• Forever. Trance love word.
• Love is a self hypnosis. It’s not caused by another person. It’s caused by you.
• As it takes hold, everything makes sense, spinning and intensifying your emotions until you are fully enraptured.
• It will take a concept of a person and it will make them into something they’re not.
• Can make them an object to you.
• Situational confidence – you lose the girl it all falls like a house of cards.
• It takes a long time to get to know someone.
• Don’t come with the empty cup – looking to be completed.
• You don’t just fall in love with any person, you get to know them.
• You have to have standards.
• Huge sticking point – everything’s going well then you start to feel the nice emotions then you become outcome dependant then you lose the girl.
• Don’t make judgements, don’t make assumptions. This girl could be seeing five different guys while she’s telling you she loves you.
• She might be a liar, she might be needy.
• Enjoyment without attachment.
• The same girl as soon as she see’s you’re attached to the outcome will transform into a different person.
• Love is something that you experience within yourself. It’s something you experience when you look at the sky, you’re talking to a friend etc.


• You have to become self fulfilled.
• Some people rely on consumerism to get that nice feeling when it’s really innate.
• Don’t go up with your half filled cup to other people
• Do what you want to do. Be the person you want to be. Don’t give a fuck what people think of you.

Blueprint. Day two. Part 6.

• The glass wall between you and the popular kids was one you put up yourself.
Identity
• Concept of who you are, here’s how I’m different to people, here’s what makes me who I am. Oh I’m cool I can act like this, oh I’m not cool I can’t act like that.
• We’re always processing the world through that little seed in our mind that’s our identity.
• Anything that involves elevating your status or going beyond the constraints of your identity people just unconsciously block it out.
• A lot of things shape your personality at a young age, were you beaten up, did you have rich parents? A rich kid may end up spoiled or a drug addict.
• You may think that you came up with your personality – ‘that’s me!’ chances are you didn’t come up with most of who you are.
• Most of your personality comes from social feedback
• Popularity, who really cares?
• The person you are today could be completely different from who you are a year today, with so much new and fresh stuff.
• Get friends who challenge your reality not who just fit into it.
• If you want to change your style do it.
• The guys with the best versatility can be anyone, rocker, mod, Goth etc, can dress any way.
• You can do what you want when you want it and no one can say shit, it’s your choice.
• When you try to keep a conversation going with a girl, you’re giving your power away. When it’s not natural she can feel it.
• You have to be very centred with who you are to be a rock star with women/live in sexual abundance.
• Your core sense of who you are is the defining factor from being the dancing monkey and the sex worthy guy.
• You don’t have time to find out every little thing about the world so we rely on second hand information.
• There’s other people’s concept of who you should be and then there’s the pressure put on you for you to become that person.
• Culture shock – you go into a new culture and you get a surreal feeling of ‘what the fuck is this’.
• When you’re talking to someone who’s reacting to you its not very comfortable, you can tell they’re not comfortable with themselves.
• If you are authentic with people it makes them more comfortable as they can be themselves around you.
• Your situation is always changing and as it does your mind is always looking at social feedback to figure out how much value you have and determine which personality is appropriate at the time. Sometimes your mind won’t let you be the really cool guy. Why do we only get access to certain parts of our personality?
• Don’t be afraid of being an idiot, nothing will happen.
• Mastery with women takes an ability to deal with humiliation

Blueprint. Day two. Part 7. State.


• Your mind has evolved to give you access to the cool aspects of your personality when you have value and not when you don’t to keep you alive. The name of this emotion is ‘state’.
• Two major strengths – intelligence and social bonding.
• These emotions are designed to make you not step up.
• If you step up, if you don’t have the value to back it up that’s bad so your mind stops you from doing that.
• The State or Nimbus are fancy words for confidence.
• A feeling of being complete, a surge of positivity and steadiness and dominance, a sort of naturalness when everything clicks, a feeling that you are the source of good emotions in the environment – you’re the source of good emotions how can you have approach anxiety? A feeling of total abundance where nothing can go wrong.
• Out of state – feeling of being incomplete, burden of being anxious or antsy, sort or unnaturalness where everything is off rhythm and ill timed, you view other people as the source of good emotions - scarcity mindset, feels alienated from the environment.
• Good emotions – don’t care.
• No good emotions - self conscious.
• In state full access to the best parts of your personality.
• Be yourself means: be your best self which you have access to. Your mind quiets, you’re in the moment and you’re outside of your head. And everything that you do just works. Your humour hits and you never worry about running out of things to say.
• State sub communicates value.
• People want to be on the receiving end of authentic communication.
• State. Raging bush fire - white hot searing coal.
• From a woman’s perspective oh he’s in state he must be having sex. Women wouldn’t admit this.
• You’re not trying to persuade or conform, you don’t care.
• A personnel boundary, you will not resist it if you’re not in state.
• Resistance is the emotion that you experience when you wish that the reality that was in front of you was in some different way.
• You may be angry or needy and resistance will fuel this and confuse you
• Zen concept – never resisting the now. Paradoxically you have to know to take right action.
• If you’re depressed your thought process is – shit I’m depressed I hate this etc. Instead just think, ‘I’m depressed, I don’t mind, that’s ok’. Not identifying with the emotion, just noticing it as a chemical reaction in your body – ‘oh I’m depressed’.
• The first gateway out of resistance is accepting it.
• Oh I’m out of state I don’t mind. I’m gonna live many more days and I’ll be out of state again, i don’t mind.
• Don’t resist it don’t dwell on it just take right action – i e oh I’m out of state oh well I’m going to go talk to someone.
• Most people think that I’m too scared is a reason not to do something - It doesn’t feel good I’m not going to do it.
• You feel the emotion in your body but you just move forward anyway.
• Most of Tyler’s life – a, shit scared all the time, overworked, disciplined.
• A pick up is messy i’ts not smooth like ballet, maybe 5% of the time it is. Couragous people just walk through the fog of bad emotions.
• Right action - you move through the fog.
• Non resistance – accepting the now.
• Whenever I’m in my sweet spot – job etc then i can be happy. When I’m not then I cant be happy.
• Some reasons to be happy – when I’m with my family etc.
• Not beating yourself up when you’re not there. To blow years off your life just being pissed off – that is a waste.
• What does your mind need to allow you to go into state?
• The thermometer that you use to go into state is programmable. When I put it in water or dirt. Apply to a social scenario.
• Sociably – when I’m dressed well. Society has programmed that into you. When I’m dressed well I can do well with women because I feel good.
• Superficial standards – unrealistic standards of society – looking good, good job nice car money etc you have that and you’re kind of like your state thermometer or nimbusometer you have that and your state goes up.
• Alliances, when you feel guaranteed acceptance from the people around you.
• Having guaranteed jokes.
• Role plays, teacher in teacher student situation.
• Buy a new shirt – people respond better it must be the shirt. People stop responding I need a new shirt!
• Tyler went out with a bunch of shopping bags dressed like crap into a night club.
• Not saying don’t dress well, consider not dressing as well as you normally dress so you don’t rely on your clothing. Move past that, don’t let it be a hindrance

• Alliances, competencies, role-plays, core value.
• Chode crystallise, all the chodes drink and stand in the corner and giggle etc.
• You go out with your friend and lose him your state goes down.
• When you meet new people and create alliances around the club you go in state
• Don’t sweat going out by yourself.
• Get the reference experiences that show you that you can do this by yourself or dressed not so well. Letting the confidence come from within.
• The night builds as you meet more girls and guys.
• State – you can provide the good emotions.
• It’s easy for the guru to tell you what to do and alleviate you from thinking for yourself.
• The guru needs the students as-well ‘look at all the people who believe what is ay I must be right’.
• Best opener: ‘Hey my name’s x.’ With complete belief. If you can’t open doing this, there’s work to be done.
• Natural, smooth, utterly consistent.
• Within your reality threat women can like you just for you. People need lines because women like me because I have access to a good party, good lines, can do magic.
• I ran out of things to say syndrome. You can’t. If you’ve lived a few decades you can’t run out of something to say.
• Be the sex worthy guy, close. It’s not the giggle factor it’s the close factor. Let’s get this handled.
• Play your own game; don’t be looking at what anyone else is doing.
• Something chodeier than a chode is someone who will boss other chodes around because they’re getting state out of it.
• Ras – filter out the annoying guys. Deep identity level change you will automatically start to filter them out.
• A role is just a role you don’t need to let the ego structures dictate your response.
• Allow yourself to still be in state when you’re not in a role where you usually are.
• Congruence test - she’ll call you a jerk trying to get you play all defensive.
• Teach core and situational confidence to break you out of your bad habits.
• People are chasing after the circumstances to help them feel state.
• Most guys are missing what causes what.
• Andre 3000 (outcast) looks cool because he makes it look cool.
• Have enough belief in yourself to dictate a style. I’m going to own whatever I’m wearing. Don’t find clothes that look cool, make them look cool, own it.
• Reacting/living to other peoples standards – cooler to have your own standards and make people react to them.
• When you already feel good people will put you in authority.
• If you keep doing what you’ve always done you’ll keep getting the results you’ve always gotten.
• If you don’t know how your old outdated emotional system works it’s hard to disassociate from that.
• Most people need to get them reacting to them before they can feel confident, but they don’t realise the cause and effect is when they feel confident people react to you.
• Core confidence is an unshakable conviction of who you are and what you’re entitled to. It’s the confidence that allows you to take on a charismatic attitude, the type that gets people reacting to you regardless of the situation that you’re in. You identify yourself as an individual who can’t be categorised, with a dynamic and flexible identity that could evolve at any time that you choose. You know what you’ve been through in life and trust yourself to get by in any situation no matter what. You value your own opinion of yourself more highly than the opinions of others. You determine your own value by the criteria that is your own. You know that your acceptance in any particular situation is never a threat to your overall wellbeing. You know what your best qualities are and even if people don’t see them or acknowledge them you know very well that they exist. You know that you offer real value to people and if they don’t see it it’s their issue and not yours. YOU believe that your life perspective and energy have an inherent value whether other people acknowledge it or not.
• If you go to the same places it’s so easy to feel comfortable there, isn’t it? There’s a true glory in travelling and exposing yourself to all these different environments.
• An ideal is just an ideal it’s not meant to be taken that seriously. Even if you don’t have perfect core confidence, good enough is good enough.
• Identity – most people self seek, clothes, environment etc, when you begin to self seek from within that is the ideal.
• Whoever has the strongest reality wins. Strongest belief about who you are, how people should treat them will suck people into that reality.
• Peer pressure – the dominant reality is winning
• The more successful people think everyone is honest and friendly the not so successful think everyone is mean and out to get them etc.
• You rely more and more on your own opinions and less on other peoples. You could be a tyrant or a good guy.
• I have no shortage of options, girls are silly and adorable that’s why I’m chatting to you, I am totally fulfilled in everything, you seem cool and if you turn out different from the other girls we might hand out, when I want something I take it but for now I’m just chatting and having fun.
• Never look at a guy teaching you as being cut form a different cloth. You can repeat the same results. Walk the same steps and think for yourself.
• Thinking – takes up time and energy, but, you need to.

• Reacting.
• Tactics are like plaster solutions. They can only be kept up for so long.
• Attraction, authenticity and deep identity level change. Creating depth within you.
• Who is emotionally affected by the other person’s acceptance and who is unaffected?
• Little home boy starts talking ‘gangta’ to try and fit in.
• Just do your own thing. Get your real sense of humour out.
• Where is the epicentre of the party? It’s the people who are having their own fun, they’re not inconsiderate, they just don’t mind if you are there or not.
• Leave the girl and have fun on your own time. Have fun waiting at the bus stop or in the line at the bank. Someone who can go and take a trip to Europe - it’s called being independent.
• The ability to amuse yourself is the most attractive, you’re bringing the party and you’re not needy.
• You’re on your own, you just look at the surface, you need a group of girls around you, and you approach with your half empty cup.
• So much instant gratification around video games etc you don’t know how to really enjoy the depth of life.
• Strong reality – you have a strong reality of who you are its unshakable, you don’t try to impress, you don’t need validation. 22mins
• Being un-reactive – acting through your own intentions.
• Stay positive, upbeat and being you and you draw her into that.
• You’re feeling good in your body and you’re not getting pulled into any negativity that’s being un-reactive.
• Are you changing the way you act or are you being yourself.
• Have dominion over your own mind, don’t try and pull people in they will get pulled in and if they don’t that’s fine.
• When someone is reacting too strongly to the criticism of others they are giving their power away.
• Putting on a front, justifying or qualifying yourself, trying to think of what you’ll say to make someone like you, worrying about their opinions, feeling emotional about whether or not they hang out with you, this person is so in the forefront of your reality they must have a lot of value to you.
• This communicates, I don’t value my own faculties highly enough to take my own opinion over myself over someone else’s. I need other people to believe what I believe in order to make it real; I value other people’s opinions more highly than I value my own.
• A girl/someone teases you it bounces off you, you trust your own reality.
• Unwavering certainty the least reaction to conflicting views.
• If you believe that some shortcoming you have if you believe it, it is. If you believe it’s not a big deal then it’s not.
• Take her out shopping for groceries for you, to buy you a shirt. Invite them into your reality. Let her have a taste of it don’t put any pressure on her to feel uncomfortable but do escalate – bit of a paradox.
• Signs of a weak reality – if someone teases you you feel affected. If someone flakes you’re upset.
• Four pillars of a strong reality – Who you are (stastus, sense of identity, what you deserve out of life). Your values (tasted and opinions, sense of humour). Personal boundaries ( when someone steps over them you don’t allow it. Valuing your time. Being the ceo of your own life, hire and fire.) How you expect people to react around you (fun, value offering, whatever price tag you put on yourself is your price). One of tylers personal boundaries is someone has to be authentic.

• One of Tyler’s personal boundaries is someone has to be authentic.
• You are the oak tree she is the squirrel running around.
• Putting yourself in situations which test your sense of reality.
• When you weight train as you’re training your muscle is getting smaller, when you go out you won’t be getting better you’ll be getting beat up but you’ll learn from it and just like in the gym you’ll grow afterwards.
• A man always has to be leaning into his fears a little bit, pushing your capabilities. Why? Because every year of your life you are getting older and you want to be growing. What isn’t evolving is stagnating.
• Anyone can pull a girl into their reality; you just need to be comfortable in it.
• Your reality is stronger when you are older because you have gone through more bullshit.
• Go Out. Get out of your house. Build your sense of reality. Any night out where you have accumulated reference experiences is a good night.
• Learn to laugh at yourself. Let go of trying to control what people think of you.
• Express your personality freely
• Inch by painstaking inch.
• You’re someone who has made distinctions about life.
• Not being stuck in your head, not sheltering yourself, being in the moment.
• Where is your compass pointed? Are you moving towards the lord or the chode? Ask yourself this every day.
• Masculine polarity is the grounding amidst the emotional chaos. It is the magnet that draws women towards you in the form of your deepest self esteem. It is a total trust in your faculties and your ability to judge reality.
• Acting only through your own intentions.
• Being entirely uncontrollable and above manipulation.
• Dictating the reality around you rather than being dictated by it.
• Being in the moment and walking through the world with ease.
• Having absolutely no intimidation of the girl or the world whatsoever
• Tapping in to the energy inside you not around you as a source of your mood.
• Feeling no spikes or lulls of self esteem by girl’s responses to you.
• You might gain or lose attraction but it does not lose the sense of who you are.
• I see I take. This turns you into the donut rolling down the street in Ethiopia.
• You dictate it. You bring the energy.
• HAVE FUN!!!! Tapping into the energy inside you.
• Don’t look to other people on what you are going to do.

That video just makes me want to sort my life out. Really need to keep at this stuff, otherwise I could become the little troll he's talking about.